Fated Counsel

Hermit mode is a space of meaningful isolation and self reflection that we are often pushed to enter due to extreme stress and conflict in our lives. During hermit mode, new things are revealed and there is an opportunity to create a new foundation to carry you forward. How do you bring new connections into this space though? Often times we have insecurities and ideas from past failed relationships that make us comfortable in isolation, so much so we find it difficult to make new meaningful relationships after we’ve done our healing work. Let’s discuss how and why it’s important to begin anew after Hermit mode.

As we grow we look for different things from our relationships, this means in turn that we must also provide different things in order for our new relationships to be a success. Things like leading with ego, holding grudges, unhealthy communication, and a lack of empathy can cause major damage to a budding relationship. It takes much healing and reflection to recognize how we can better ourselves as we move forward and attract better partners. We also have to think of maintaining the new environment of maturity which is centered around transparency, forgiveness, limitless understanding and truly serving those in our lives. Let’s get into it.

We all have a different relationship with procrastination and the way in which we prioritize our lives. Taking control of your time and energy is a key part in achieving long term goals and conquering major obstacles. A spirit of procrastination can come from or lead to: insecurities, self sabotage, fear of failure, lack of support, unrealistic expectations and other mental and spiritual blockages. Let’s navigate how these energies impact us and how we can discover how procrastination shows up in our lives and make progressive changes for our future.

All things start with an unconditional belief and faith in yourself. No matter what your goal is or where you currently are, you gain the control to direct your own path when you completely and fully believe in yourself. Outside opinion and influence can condition us to feel as if we are not equipped to achieve the things we desire to. Let’s dive into how you can establish a stronger sense of self and have a different relationship between your confidence and the opinions and energies of others.

Making mistakes is a part of life, in certain spaces the only way to learn is to realize what not to do by making the wrong choice every now and then. When we make mistakes it’s common to feel shame or guilt for the choices we’ve made. It can bring us to moments of unkindness where we aren’t treating ourself with love and care. It’s so important to understand and respect yourself through any mistake you make. Learning to nurture yourself through all seasons is a key in your overall healing and truly allows you to align with your best self.

Let’s discuss where the foundation of our worth comes from and how outside influences and conditioning from our past effect the value we see in ourselves. Healing, owning your power, getting what you deserve in this life often begins with discovering your worth. Knowing your worth changes how you see and interact with everything in your life. How can you redefine your worth, uphold your boundaries and nurture yourself throughout the process? Let’s get into it.

Collectively, the last few weeks have been pretty heavy and bringing in some much needed reflection about the darkest parts of us. Pluto is in retrograde! This means things that come from the depths of our heart, mind and spirit are being cast into the light. Scientists have said Pluto isn’t even a planet, that the dark cold habitual winter isn’t significant enough to be recognized. Many of us feel the same about the Pluto energy in our lives. We keep the dark cold parts of us pushed down in an attempt to move forward to something greater. The truth is that the sooner we acknowledge Pluto, all things work in balance and come together. There is no light without darkness. Warmth cannot come in where there is no cold. Let’s get into challenging yourself to dive deeper to truly find your brightest light.

Each person has a Shadow, a version of them that stores all the troubled parts of them. Anger, negative influences, addictions, fears, insecurities, jealousy. Anything we’d prefer to keep in the dark. Avoiding these problems may seem like the obvious choice to move on but what we avoid doesn’t magically disappear. Connecting with and healing those parts of you allows you to release yourself from years (and sometimes lifetimes) of trauma and bondage. Utilizing these parts of you to your benefit and allowing them to serve as moments of self discovery will change how you see everything. Let’s get into connecting with our Shadow for the better.

Many times when on a spiritual journey of healing and self exploration it can be looked down on to find yourself in spaces of stress, self doubt, and insecurity. The truth is, these are all unavoidable parts of life. The frustrating parts of our journey are just as important as the moments when we are celebrating. We never grow out of trauma, pain, and sadness. This, unfortunately, is a part of the balance of life. Trusting this balance is the real key to any healing journey. When we are taught that we have to be happy all the time to be healed, it causes us to invalidate the very real emotions we experience every day. Courage to these dark moments is definitely the best way to be prepared for your success. And we all know the things you push to the background will eventually keep coming up until we finally face the music. How does toxic positivity in the healing community make us feel about our journey and being transparent and showing our true emotions without shame? Let’s get into it.

In spaces of major transformation, change is mandatory. Adjusting to fill the new spaces you’re about to enter is mandatory. This can mean setting new boundaries, reevaluating what you want or need, unlearning old habits, looking at your surroundings differently and so many more things. Who you will be in the future may require different things from what you’re currently surrounded by. How will you respond to the signs that you need to make major changes? Are you ready to do the healing necessary to grow into your new environment? Let’s get into it.