Fated Counsel

Scroll for 5 minutes on any social media platform and you’ll come across someone saying they don’t want a “struggle love”. We see so much of horribly toxic relationships, the contrasting picture perfect couple leaves little room for a grey area. In dating, people often feel like it has to be all or nothing with not much space for lessons, growth, and challenging their perspectives in love. In reality, each connection we make serves a purpose and teaches us something valuable we can use once we connect to our potential forever partner. The notion of avoiding “struggle love” at all costs can quickly send you in a stagnant drag of never learning to navigate uncomfortable spaces in love, never having to communicate issues, and never really knowing what you want. Let’s get into it.

There’s a pattern today where a popular couple in the public eye separates due to drama, the woman releases a statement about self love & self fulfillment, a few months or weeks pass and the couple is right back together again. Comment sections are flooded with statements like “So we’re accepting cheating now?”, “I thought self love was the best love???”, “Cmon now where’s your self respect!.” There is much pressure to stand your ground in relationships and “take no sh*t” from partners, especially disrespect but is that always the reality of how we handle situations or do we often give our loved ones a pass (or 3) when it comes to issues in relationships? If so, how does the strict soft life of celibacy, therapy, pilates and self love tie in with publicly swearing off an unhealthy relationship only to venture back into that same space again. Let’s chat.

The last 2 years have been truly a whirlwind of grief, transformation, harsh discoveries and tests to apply all that we’ve learned. The energies surrounding us in 2022 were some of the most challenging we’ve encountered since 2020. Last year really challenged us to make long lasting changes that will sustain us for the better. We were pushed to the limits emotionally and some of us were financially and physically burdened as well as we navigated these emotional low points. Alllll that we have experienced brings us to this moment! We have such an opportunity for newness and a fresh start. A new start that can serve you more than any start has before! These rough spaces have truly increased our ability to take care of ourselves and make sure we are getting what we need. Take it easy and take advantage of this space. Let’s get into it.

Should people have to ever choose sides? What does it say about people who do or do not? This has been a topic in personal and public spaces for a while. How far should our boundaries go? Should we stop listening to abusive artists or homophobic creators or is the “art” worth it? Just because your friend falls off with someone, should you cut them off or is it not your business? When should we pick sides? Never, sometimes, all the time? Let’s get into it.

In today’s society there are numerous pressures to work as much as possible and only receive rest when you have done all you physically can to meet your goals. This standard of “hard work” can be beneficial for some but is typically exhausting and detrimental for the masses. With more focus on mental health, how can we ensure we are tending to our mental needs and also meeting our goals? Let’s have a conversation about knowing what your level of productivity is and understanding the importance of giving yourself some free time, support and an opportunity to learn new methods of what it truly means to be successful.

From the $200 date debates to the question of should you go 50/50 on the bills, there’s no shortage of commentary centering finances and dating. Is the need to feel financially set before committing to a relationship a good or bad thing? Does this effect our self-worth, leaving us to feel of lesser value if we come upon financial troubles? How is casual dating effected, are we able to enjoy someone’s company without the pressure of presenting a 401K? It goes without saying that being financially stable is a must for any adult, it also goes without saying that in today’s climate finances can be unpredictable. So what happens as the focus of value in partnerships shifts from an emotional to a quantifiable value? Are we better off or more disconnected because of these big bag standards? Let’s get into it.

The path to finding confidence is a tricky one with many side roads along the way. One being a slippery slope into an unhealthy connection with our Ego. Ego wants to keep you “safe” from vulnerability, being uncomfortable or challenged, being wrong and imperfect. What Ego is really doing is keeping you from healing & accepting your flaws. Confidence is about accepting and honoring every part of you, the good and the bad. No matter what it is, confidence says it is okay because it is a part of you & you have what it takes to heal or release it. Confidence gives you the strength to face every part of you that your Ego would prefer be left hidden. Humility is the icing on top bringing in the total acceptance of self that is the true goal of confidence. Let’s get into it.

There’s much responsibility that comes along with power and influence. Whether you are influencing your audience, peers, children, or your environment, everything we do has a direct and indirect effect. Taking the time to be mindful of the influence your actions carry allows mindful energy to be circulated back to you. You will attract and be in spaces with mindful individuals. You will be met with clear intention and clarity. However, abusing your power and influence can land you in the middle of a downhill domino effect. Let’s get into how we see influence played out today and how we can be more mindful of our action and influence on every level.

A viral story that looked like a jealous friend gone wrong, actually seems to be a skit or planned prank that ended up going too far. Which is worse? A friend who is jealous or a friend who encourages and promotes irresponsible and/or reckless behavior? Is it a friends job to protect you and steer you in the right direction? What different ways does jealousy reveal itself and how can we see it coming? Let’s get into all of that and then some. Jealousy in friendships is one of the most common red flags we look out for but what are some others that can make or break a healthy connection? Knowing who you are always gives you an advantage in friendships and let’s you clearly know what to accept and what not to. Let’s chat.

The perspective of divorce has been changing in society for a while now but the recent news of numerous divorces has sparked up new conversations in all spaces. Society has become more acceptable of divorce and women finding love and life after divorce in the last few years. People are celebrated for leaving relationships that no longer serve them to find a place where they can truly be fulfilled. The news of some of our favorite couples parting ways definitely brings the truths of marriage and long term commitment to the forefront but also reinforces the idea that it is okay, normal and even necessary in some situations to part ways. Let’s get into it.