This is a common response we hear from men when we introduce them to men's work. A lot of men think that a men's group is either a religious gathering or a pity party.

It's neither.

It's the medicine that unlocks parts of yourself that you have been battling with on your own.

The more discomfort you feel about being authentic in a group of men, the more magic awaits you on the other side. So if you're ready to unlock more power in your life and learn about this ancient technology and how it can support your life and leadership, this episode is for you.

If you received value from this episode, please share it with your networks and spread the word.

Also, be sure to leave a review here on the app you're consuming this episode on - it takes you less than a minute, and it really supports more people to find our show.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch Episode 41 "You Can't Thrive Without a Tribe".

JOIN OUR WHATSAPP GROUP

A free space to connect with like-minded men, share wins and challenges, and stay plugged into conversations, resources, and events that keep you moving forward between our live gatherings.

Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/whatsapp

BECOME A MEMBER OF THE FSB TRIBE

A committed brotherhood for men ready to go beyond conversation and into transformation. Inside the Tribe, you’ll join regular men’s circles, get practical tools to strengthen relationships and leadership, and surround yourself with brothers who challenge and support you at the highest level. 

This is where you sharpen your edge, stop carrying challenges alone, and live with more clarity, confidence, and purpose.

Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

Gareth Pickering is a men’s coach and founder of Fathers Sons Brothers, a global community helping men reconnect to their inner strength, live with more purpose, and build better relationships—with themselves and those they love. His work focuses on helping men who’ve been successful in the outside world but feel disconnected or stuck on the inside. Through group circles, retreats, and practical tools, Gareth supports men to lead with courage, integrity, and authenticity. He believes that when a man changes, everyone around him benefits.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Facebook

What if your sexual energy could fuel your confidence, deepen intimacy, and transform your entire life?

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Tyson Adams, a men's coach and sex educator specialising in helping men outgrow porn and master semen retention. We explore how unconscious patterns around sex and pornography drain your energy, dull your purpose, and keep you disconnected from your body and your relationships. Together, we offer a roadmap to reclaim your desire as a force for creation rather than compulsion. Listen now and start your journey toward a more powerful relationship with your sexuality.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✔️ How to tell the difference between healthy self-pleasure and addiction

✔️ Why porn companies are commercialising your life force, and how to step off the hamster wheel

✔️ Simple practices to reconnect with your body and activate real intimacy

✔️ The truth about semen retention and how it can transform your focus, energy, and relationships

✔️ How your relationship with your own body shapes every other area of your life

✔️ Ways to bring intention and depth to your erotic experiences, whether alone or with a partner

This episode is all about reclaiming your sexual power! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 53 "Expanding Consciousness in the Bedroom and the Boardroom with Tantric expert Raffaello Manacorda".

RESOURCE LINKS

Recommended Reading: Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson

Kings and Queens - Free Relationship Training for Men + Women

THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training:

- You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best.

- You get clear on what you came here to do.

- You reconnect with your mission.

 You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission.

- You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.

- You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle.

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

ABOUT OUR GUEST

Tyson Adams is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Connect with him on:

Website, Instagram, Facebook

ABOUT YOUR HOST

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on:

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

This podcast is a space for having courageous conversations. We aim to open the places most are too scared to tread. 

This episode will touch on some of your most deep-seated beliefs and make you question everything. 

Do you really have to pay taxes and listen to people in uniform? Are you brave enough to dig deep to the bottom of your money beliefs? 

What if everything you believe about yourself… isn’t even yours?

In this mind-expanding conversation, Christopher Armstrong joins me to dismantle the invisible programming that runs your life - beliefs inherited through culture, conditioning, and even your DNA. We explore how to reclaim sovereignty, reprogram your mind, and create your life from a place of deep inner truth.

In this episode, we explore:

This episode is all about personal sovereignty. Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 56 "Love, Life & Leadership - Lessons for Success with Toni Versic".

🔗 Resources & Links:

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

Christopher Armstrong is a transformational guide and Inner Architect who helps neurodivergent misfits and visionaries break free from overwhelm, confusion, and burnout.

Through a unique blend of nervous system healing, subconscious reprogramming, and soul alignment, he empowers high-performing individuals to reclaim their purpose and step into the grounded, powerful leaders they were born to be. His work supports those who have never fit the mold in rising beyond survival and creating lives rooted in clarity, authenticity, and deep inner freedom.

Connect with him on:

Website, Instagram, Facebook,Youtube

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

Episode Summary: If you feel like you're giving everything to your relationship but still ending up stressed, resentful, or unappreciated, this episode is for you.

Gareth and Matt unpack the real reason why things might feel off and explore how one simple shift—setting clear boundaries—can radically improve how you show up in love, parenting, and partnership. This powerful conversation emerges from the lessons and breakthroughs inside the Legendary Lover Method, their signature relationship and intimacy program for men.

💡 What You’ll Learn:

🧠 Quote of the Episode:
“You can’t be the husband or father you want to be unless you first prioritise the relationship you have with yourself.” — Gareth Pickering

🎁 Free Training: Join our upcoming Relationship Reflections part of the Kings and Queens series – A guided process to mine gold from past relationships, close old energetic loops, and prepare to love with clarity. Get the details on this page: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens.

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to catch Episode 59 "Stop Stepping on Relationship Landmines" with Gareth Pickering.

About your hosts: Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.  

Connect with him on:  

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

What if the chaos you're avoiding is the key to your next breakthrough?

In this episode, I sit down with Lewis Huckstep for a raw and insightful conversation about the deep inner work required to lead powerfully and love deeply. We explore the intersection of leadership and relationships, revealing how emotional triggers, unresolved trauma, and life’s inevitable chaos are actually opportunities to build greater capacity and resilience.

Lewis shares hard-won insights on the masculine and feminine dynamic, how to navigate emotional storms without losing your center, and why true transformation only happens when you’re willing to go all in.

If you’ve ever struggled to let go of control, feared emotional challenges, or hesitated to claim your true value, this is a masterclass in building emotional strength and stepping into transformative leadership. Lewis and I explore the deeper layers of personal growth, showing that true change isn’t just about mindset - it’s about learning to trust yourself in the face of uncertainty and becoming the kind of leader who transforms not just your own life, but the lives of those you love.

In this episode, you'll Learn:

This episode is all about inner strength! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 60 "From Stuck to Unstoppable with Todd Jason"

"The Inspired Life Method" by Lewis Huckstep

Join "Conscious Community" with Lewis Huckstep

Struggling to connect with your audience and convert leads? Message Magic will help you craft a clear, powerful brand message that attracts your ideal clients and drives sales. This proven system guides you step-by-step to define your core message, sharpen your positioning, and create a brand that stands out.

If your business feels stuck or your message isn’t landing, Message Magic will unlock the clarity and confidence you need to grow. Don’t let a weak message hold you back - check it out now: igniteyourbusiness.io/message-magic.

It’s time to reconnect with your strength, truth, and brothers. Join us for a powerful weekend of deep connection and growth at Waterfall Farm in the Cederberg Mountains.

Sit in a sacred circle, share your truth without judgment, and experience a transformative San Pedro ceremony under the stars.

You’ll rediscover your inner strength and clarity by being surrounded by nature's raw beauty.

Spaces are limited - claim your spot now and step into the next chapter of your life.

https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/offers/DYxddz2W/checkout

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

Lewis Huckstep is a performance and fulfillment coach specializing in helping high achievers create lives on their own terms. He entered the business world at 18 and went on to own three gyms by the age of 22. This early success sparked a deeper exploration into personal development, which led to the creation of the Inspired Life Method — a powerful framework that combines business strategy with personal growth tools. Through this method, Lewis has helped over 6,000 people discover their purpose, break through mental and emotional barriers, and achieve greater success, love, and fulfillment. He is also the author of the best-selling book The Inspired Life Method and hosts The Lewis Huckstep Experience podcast, where he explores personal transformation, business, and relationships.

Connect with him on:

Website, Instagram, Facebook, X,Youtube

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

Most men wake up every day without a clear vision for their future. They’re grinding, they’re hustling, but deep down, they don’t know if they’re actually building the life they want.

If you feel stuck, like you're coasting through life without real direction, this conversation will change the way you think about your future.

I sit down with Todd Jason to break down why clarity is the foundation of success, fulfillment, and freedom - and how you can develop it. Todd’s distilled decades of wisdom into a simple but powerful framework for getting crystal clear on your purpose and creating the life you truly want.

Todd is giving our listeners 50% off his Clarity Course—a two-day deep dive into the life-changing framework we talk about in this episode.

Go to Todd Jason and use code GARETH-2025 for 50% off!

If you're ready to stop drifting and start leading your life with purpose, take advantage of this now.

This episode is all about achieving clarity! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode #39 From People-Pleaser to Unapologetically You with Dr Robert Glover.

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

 When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

Todd Jason is an author, speaker and community leader who helps people achieve astounding success in life and work. He's worked with Eckhart Tolle, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra and developed online programs that have reached millions.  His upcoming book ‘Clarity: Master This One Quality And Create A Life Beyond Your Dreams’ lays out a precise roadmap for you to attain more freedom, more abundance, and a deep sense of personal fulfillment. Visit his website to get an advanced copy and gain access to some immediate tools to help you get that clarity! 

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, YouTube, Facebook

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

On their deathbeds, 10,000 men were asked, "What made your life meaningful?" It wasn’t the size of their house, the money in their bank account, or the career milestones they hit. It was the quality of their relationships.

So, here’s the real question: If relationships are what make life meaningful, how much time have you spent mastering relationship skills?

In this episode, Gareth shares his powerful talk, "Stop Stepping on Relationship Landmines," to help you stop blowing up your love life and start leading with clarity and connection.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

This isn’t just relationship advice - it’s bomb squad training for your love life. Time to take off the blindfold and navigate with purpose.

This episode is all about relationship mastery! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

Resource Links:

The Soulmate Safari

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode #26 The Art of F#cking up Your Relationship with Brian Jenkins.

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.
 

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

Plus, if you're struggling right now and you don't share this with your friends or partner, you're also destroying those relationships.  

In this Micro-Dose episode, you’ll learn:

This episode is all about asking for help! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode #56 Love, Life & Leadership - Lessons for Success with Toni Versic.

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

In another great episode of the Postgame, Matt and I dive deep into the concept of integrated leadership and what it means to lead in a way that reflects collaboration, authenticity, and purpose. Whether you're navigating leadership in your family, business, or community, this episode provides a framework to shift from outdated, competitive leadership models to a new paradigm grounded in self-awareness, connection, and meaningful contribution.

The conversation unfolds with powerful reflections on personal growth, letting go of toxic patterns, and stepping into a greater purpose. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

This episode is all about Integrated Leadership! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at [email protected], and I will see you in the next episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out #32 Mastering manifestation to create your dream life, with Matt Dahse

March 24–29, 2025 | Lake Atitlán, Guatemala

What got you here won’t get you there.

You've built success, but something still feels missing. You’ve checked all the boxes - career, family, wealth, but deep down you know there’s another level waiting for you.

This is your chance to step away from the noise, reflect, and recalibrate your leadership and purpose in an environment designed for deep transformation.

Limited Spaces - only 10 spots available.
This is an intimate and high-impact retreat with only a handful of men.

If you feel the pull, don’t wait. Secure your spot now before we fill up:
https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/retreat

This is your moment. Will you answer the call?

“We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons.

An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots.

Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders.

 When you regularly invest in this type of training: 

All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. 

We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for.

Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

Connect with him on: 

Website, Instagram, Linkedin, X, Facebook

Matt Dhase is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow, to unlock their potential and step into their power.