Fathers Sons Brothers

How do you describe your business? 
Everyone in it for themselves? 
When someone wins, someone else loses? 

In this episode, Matt and Gareth share their entrepreneurial journeys and how they've reframed their relationship with business from competition to collaboration. 

Gareth reflects how not having a coach or mentor on their business journey held them back. Matt unpacks the importance of developing your project's avatar, so your message resonates. 

They also talk about the power of consciously developing your personal brand. The foundational tool they use is a "Personal Brand Manual". A simple document where you define:

This document provides the direction and purpose for this part of your life. 

You don't have to spend the next ten years working on something, just for the paycheck, unless you want to. 

Do you want to develop your personal brand manual? Join Gareth and Matt as they guide you through a self-paced 6-week experience to get clear on how you want to show up in the world and how to find your tribe so that you get paid for your work. 

Access the Personal Brand Masterclass here.

Timestamps:

(00:01:17) - We were always competing for business.
(00:03:41) - Serial entrepreneurship.
(00:05:37) - Collaboration vs competition. Work vs Creation.
(00:09:38) - Creating art vs a business.
(00:10:52) - The role of Mentors.
(00:14:21) - Introducing Jack and creating an avatar.
(00:16:00) - Observing our core scaffolding in action.
(00:17:08) - The Founder's Circle.
(00:19:00) - Mainstage was born.
(00:21:05) - Setting up a global infrastructure.
(00:23:54) - Simplifying our model, our project is decentralized.
(00:25:25) - Future state: our next circle.
(00:26:50) - Lifestyle alignment.
(00:29:45) - Call for collaboration.
(00:31:48) - Explore fundraising partnership with men's suicide.
(00:35:43) - Gareth shares some additional thoughts.

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About your hosts: 

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.
Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter, Facebook

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.

The stories you tell about the things in your life shape how things become in "reality".  So bringing awareness to our stories brings attention to how we create our reality.

This episode has two purposes. The first is to tell a story about the importance of stories.

The second is to create an index card of the words and language that we've given to the various elements that make up the Fathers Sons Brothers community. When we use language that you're unfamiliar with in the future, you can come back to this card and go to the timestamp below to see what that tool, system or concept is.

You'll hear how Matt and Gareth have been intentional about how they've named the various concepts that they share. Gareth explains how when he didn't resonate with how manifestation was being taught, so he blocked it. - He also shares his new story about The Law of Attraction called The Reality Factory.

If you want to use the tools and systems shared in this podcast - this episode is foundational. 

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Timestamps:

(00:01:54) - A story about the power of stories
(00:08:45) - Intro
(00:10:59) - Lifestyle Design
(00:11:27) - Reality Hacker
(00:12:58) - My Life OS
(00:14:25) - Call To Courage
(00:15:33) - 8 sacred pillars
(00:16:50) - My perfect day script
(00:17:51) - Reality Factory
(00:18:26) - Placing Orders
(00:19:08) - Paying for your Order
(00:20:36) - Order board
(00:21:46) - Order Confirmations
(00:23:54) - Order Delivered
(00:25:10) - Pre-Game
(00:27:01) - Post-Game
(00:28:31) - Future State
(00:29:58) - Future State Walking
(00:32:07) - Rattlesnake story

 Resources and Links:

Boat party order confirmation Is that my boat?
https://youtu.be/aq_72DOVydY

Boat party order delivered A Perfect Day For a Boat Party
https://youtu.be/ZUlIkm6nvTI

This was a video of an order delivered https://fb.watch/cojgomJAhy/

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About your hosts: 

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.
Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.

This week's episode is a conversation from inside The Fathers Sons Brothers founder's circle. Baba Dez Nichols has been supporting men (and women) all over the world through his work as Daka and transformational guide. 

We get into a range of topics in addition to the ones in the title including the importance of healthy self-pleasuring practice, the shadows in the brotherhood and how our sexual energy has been used to control us.

It's rich, it gnarly and it's beautiful to be able to talk openly about these subjects. 

Enjoy the conversation!

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Timestamps:

(00:01:24) - Intro to the episode
(00:03:57) - Intro to Baba Dez
(00:05:55) - Dez explains sacred sexuality
(00:07:47) - Dez tells a beautiful story about his father
(00:09:50) - The importance of being in touch with ourselves
(00:10:48) - sacred sexuality as it relates to anatomy and meeting our animals.
(00:12:11) - How to integrate the masculine and feminine
(00:13:59) - Dez defines Daka, introduces "the father wound"
(00:16:55) - Dez invites the founder's circle for more questions.
(00:17:54) - What are the ways our society has created toxic imprints around sexuality
(00:22:30) - What are the three sacred relating paths including their gifts and shadows
(00:29:24) - Relationship depth is not determined by choice
(00:30:24) - Integration and self-love
(00:32:38) - The importance of owning your desire and your no
(00:37:24) - How do you keep the fire alive
(00:39:42) - Dez's opinion of porn
(00:44:58) - What is self-activation
(00:49:56) - What is ejaculatory control
(00:58:34) - What are the shadows you see in the brotherhood
(01:04:17) - What is sex magic
(01:10:29) - Dez's view on vasectomy
(01:11:53) - Gareth's journey with vasectomy
(01:16:00) - Spontaneity and consent vs natural urge
(01:20:06) - What are the attributes you feel Fathers Sons Brothers should aim to embody
(01:23:54) - The path for those that wish to know more

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Links and resources:

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About your hosts: 

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.
Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.

We can manifest whatever financial abundance we desire, but time is a finite resource.

In this Micro-dose episode, Matt offers an exercise to work through if you're considering a change in your “work-life” balance or you’re calling in more financial abundance.

If you don’t have 13 mins for the audio version, you can install the 5 step process taken from Matt’s notebook below.

Time is precious, do work you love.

Prepare:

Clear some space. Turn off your devices. Eliminate distractions. Create the space for you to focus on this exercise for 20 minutes.

Close your eyes and imagine a day that's far enough into the future that you are free from any constraints that you perceive are currently holding you back... like you've been given a magic wand that transforms you from your current situation to a perfect day in a life that's exactly how you designed it to be... You wake up in your dream home... next to your perfect partner... maybe there's a few kids running around that weren't there before...

Whatever your perfect day looks like, there's an element to it where you're working, creating, earning income, and giving back to the world.... and give yourself permission to really dream big here and get in touch with that dream job or that perfect work life balance scenario that's alive in you... that's what I want you to really vibe into and focus on.

Step 1: - You're going to open your eyes... grab your piece of paper... and I want you to make a list of the tangible elements that are present in your work... things like... do you work for yourself or for a company that you love and believe in?... do you work on your own or with a team of people? Do you work from home or somewhere else? What types of objects are present in your work space? What type of work are you doing? Working with your hands? Working with you mind? Are you on a computer most of the day? Are you painting? Are you on a boat? Are you giving talks in front of an audience? What type of people are you working and collaborating with? Do you have to wake up with an alarm clock? Do you work on your own time? For me, I want to be able to work from anywhere... Maybe you don't know what that is yet, and that's ok... instead focus on how it feels.

Step 2: - I want you to imagine what it feels like when you are working. Hopefully in your perfect work scenario you're not frustrated or feeling stressed... so how are you feeling? For me, I want to feel valued for my ideas. I want to feel validated by the other people working along side of me. I want to feel excitement as my ideas get birthed and implemented into a greater strategy. Inspired. How do you want to feel?

Step 3: - I want you to focus on how your work makes the world a better place. How the world is aligned to your values. How is it impacting the world around you. How does it improve the lives of others? How does it help others. How does it help nature. How does it help your clients? How does it contribute to a better community or global ecosystem?

Step 4: - Let's focus on the income you receive from doing this work. Do you have an amount in mind? If so, write it down. Do you get paid hourly, monthly, or in chunks? How do you get paid? Is money arriving directly to your bank account? Are you getting paid in cryptocurrency? Do you get paid in cash? I want you to identify the medium and picture the act of it arriving to you. Imagine that moment of seeing your account balance going up when your payment arrives. How does that moment feel for you? For me, it's been a while since I've had this feeling, but I do remember it... that feeling of refreshing my online bank balance and see that direct transfer hitting and my current balance going up an extra 10,000 bucks. For me, it felt like relief and a lightness knowing that the money was there. It would then be followed by excitement knowing I could purchase that plane ticket or that thing I was waiting on buying until I got paid. What are the emotions you associate with getting paid for doing work you love? Write them down.

Step 5: - The final part is I want you to write down elements of how having this work changes your life... What I mean by that are things like... How do your vacations change? What do your friends and family think of you now that you're doing this work? Are they proud of you? Do you have more or less spare time and what are you now doing with it? How does it feel when you describe your work to people who you are meeting for the first time.

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Do you want to participate in courageous conversations? Inside our private telegram group, you can ask questions of our guests and connect with other tribe members to shape our podcast conversations.

Request an invite to The Call To Courage Conversation at https://calltocourage.live

About your hosts:

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.

Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.

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Why is courage necessary?
What role does it play in your life?
What does it have to do with purpose?

In this episode, Matt and Gareth unpack the role of courage. They deep dive into how courage is essential to living a life of purpose. They also discuss confidence and how our routines and habits support us to feel confident in our lives.

Both Matt and Gareth share a Call To Courage in their lives and agree to hold each other accountable to answer this call.

Where are you currently being called to expand in your life? What is your Call To Courage?

Follow these four steps to get clear on your call and expand your life.

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Timestamps:

(00:01:27) - Why is courage important.
(00:04:46) - Matt's story of how he needed to answer a call to courage and let go of a business.
(00:10:20) - Gareth's story of how he adopted the principle of radical honesty into his life and how it simplified his personal relationships.
(00:17:31) - Why courage is the only route to a life of purpose.
(00:21:56) - How to identify and answer a call to courage.
(00:26:26) - Matt frames his new call to courage and asks Gareth to hold him accountable.
(00:30:15) - Your 4 step process to answer your own Call To Courage.

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Mentions, resources and links:
 

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Join The Conversation.

Do you want to participate in courageous conversations? Inside our private telegram group, you can ask questions of our guests and connect with other tribe members to shape our podcast conversations.

Request an invite to The Call To Courage Conversation at https://calltocourage.live

About your hosts:

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.

Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.

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Welcome to the Call To Courage podcast. Our focus has been creating awareness on the role that stories play in our lives, so we know that podcasting is exactly where we need to be sharing these stories. This is a new art form for us. We're learning as we're going, we're rambling, we have second-takes. Expanding as we move, and following our joy.

In this first episode, Matt and Gareth discuss their intentions and desires for creating this show. They speak directly into their own fear about this new medium of creation and they unpack what you can expect from the podcast in future shows.

Timestamps:

 (00:00:50) - Our communication framework
(00:01:37) - Matt's and Gareth's desires for Call To Courage podcast
(00:03:48) - Matt and Gareth's Fears about creating a podcast
(00:06:28) - Why we're excited about the podcast format
(00:06:28) - What makes Call To Courage Podcast different
(00:10:29) - Episode formats that you can expect
(00:11:59) - Your Call To Courage

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Join The Conversation.
Do you want to participate in courageous conversations? Inside our private telegram group, you can ask questions of our guests and connect with other tribe members to shape our podcast conversations.

Request an invite to The Call To Courage Conversation at https://calltocourage.live

About your hosts: 

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.
Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter, Facebook

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.

Matt and Gareth share their journey of how they met and how they came to be creating the Call to Courage podcast.

(00:01:48) - Intro.
(00:03:35) - Gareth tells the story of the old bull.
(00:11:33) - Matts edge around public record speaking.
(00:16:49) - Gareth shares his story and some of the challenges he’s overcome.
(00:28:20) - Matt's story. Investment banking. Backpacker. Lifestyle designer. Father.
(00:35:23) - Matt and Gareth connect and journey with 🍄 on a 🏔 in Mexico.
(00:42:31) - Matt meets Gareth and learns about his documentation of The Law of Attraction.
(00:45:15) - And the band played on...
(00:50:18) - Gareth’s million-dollar manifestation story.
(00:56:19) - Matt’s first order delivered with Penelope Cruz.
(01:04:57) - Fuelled by manifestations showing up and want to change the world, Matt and Gareth. design a suite of lifestyle design tools that REALLY work!
(01:11:48) - Matt wraps up the prologue and previews what comes next in the podcast.

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Join The Conversation.
Do you want to participate in courageous conversations? Inside our private telegram group, you can ask questions of our guests and connect with other tribe members to shape our podcast conversations.

Request an invite to The Call To Courage Conversation at https://calltocourage.live

About your hosts: 

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought-leader, inspired to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that invite them to think differently about what they want to achieve in their lives.
Contact via: Website, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter, Facebook

Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.

This audio experience is a Fathers Sons Brothers production.