This is definitely my most vulnerable episode to date, mamas. But I knew it was the perfect way to cap the February self love series, and I've made a commitment to showing up raw, real & authentic to you all.

So here it is, what I believe to be the pinnacle of the self love journey: purposefully learning how to love someone for the sake of love, instead of what they do for you. We think love is something that has to be given to us; that we must be chosen in order to be worthy of feeling it. But the truth is, love is just a sensation in our bodies that we create for ourselves. Our ability to feel love is not dependent on another person complying to our manual. It is not because they have already expressed their love for us. Our love is for us. We have to understand this if we are ever to step into a long lasting partnership with anyone.

My journey in self love has led me to this most unexpected chapter of choosing to keep my love for someone who (politely) rejected me to my face. Because I would never have been able to keep this love for this person if I didn't truly love myself first.

I hope this inspires all of you in the purposeful living of your one, wild life.

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I have a special BONUS episode for all of my beautiful mamas! I'm giving away a signed copy of the book "Love, Unpacked" for my February raffle, since it is the perfect companion to go with our self love series. I have the great honor of being friends with the author, so Andi hopped on a call with me to chat about the themes she covers in her book:

This episode is so juicy! I cannot wait to hear the discussions it drums up, so don't be shy in commenting or sliding in my DMs!

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Do you ever find yourself yelling at your kids and partner: "No one in this family appreciates everything I do!" or "We're always doing what you want to do, but no one asks Mom what she wants to do!" or "I do everything for this family, yet no one even asks if I need anything!"

Every mom has found herself in these moments of frustration boiling over in hot, angry hurt. In most families, moms do the bulk of the heavy lifting, operating under the belief that she "must" be the one to bend all of her desires around her partner's desires & kids' desires. 

But--what if that belief is bullshit? What if moms do not have to wait until they snap in order to cry out for help? And what if that cry for help could look like a calm conversation instead of an uncontrollable outburst?

Women are raised to be pleasant people pleasers, which has us saying 'yes' to everyone except ourselves. But this is an unhealthy way of living for a multitude of reasons:

Every time you say 'yes' to something you don't actually want to do, you are saying 'no' to yourself. Tune in to the 3rd part of the F*ck It Mothering self love series to learn how to start advocating for yourself with your toddler's favorite word: "NO".

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Happy Valentine's Day, my beautiful mamas! 

What was your knee jerk response to that statement? Be honest & real, because the real answer is crucial to your journey to self-love. As Kara Lowentheil from the Unf*ck Your Brain podcast put it: Valentine's Day ends up being a reflection of what you think of yourself.

In this second episode of the F*ck It Mothering series on self love, we're talking about the importance of being your own Valentine this and every year, regardless of your current relationship status. We're also talking about how learning to love yourself actually encourages people to want to be around you, instead of pushing them away like most of us fear. We talk about why we shouldn't wait for someone else to love us, because we can't feel their love anyways. Love is a wonderful sensation that YOU feel, created by the thoughts you are thinking.

So if you want more love in your life & want to model true love for your kids, you need to listen to this episode.

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F*ck It Mothering is doing a self love series for the month of February, because learning to love yourself is the key to unlocking deeper levels of love in all your other relationships.

In this episode, I dive into why we love our friends and gives steps on how to reframe shame thoughts into love thoughts. 

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We all have a monster who lives in the back of our heads: shame. Shame comes in and whispers to moms, 'You're such a bad mom', whenever we do not live up to the unrealistic standard society has set for us. In this episode, moms will learn how to identify shame thoughts & how to break the cycle of shame by changing those thoughts. If you are tired of living in mom guilt, this episode is for you.

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“It is never too late to be what you might have been” - George Eliot

We have been given a shitty formula for how to do life. A formula that has left the mass majority of us in student loan debt; feeling stuck in jobs and careers that no longer feel right; and living with a dissatisfaction we are too ashamed to admit is there, because “we should be grateful; we have good lives”.

But if this formula was truly the secret to a great life, shouldn’t we feel fulfilled by it? Shouldn’t we die with peace and contentment of a life well lived? Shouldn’t mom burnout be the exception instead of the norm? If we’re succeeding by our culture’s terms, then why does it feel so much like failing?

I said ‘F*ck it’ to our shitty formula & finally feel fully alive. If you are feeling stuck or dissatisfied or like there should be something more to life, I’m here to tell you: you are not crazy; we just were taught a shitty formula. But the good news is we can ditch the formula & start living whenever we want to. It doesn’t matter if you are 18, 45, or 80–it is never too late.