In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into the hidden ways fear of rejection drives your behaviour in relationships - and how it quietly keeps intimacy at arm’s length.

We’ll cover:
✨ How judgement and criticism can feel safer than vulnerability (and why you do it without realising)
✨ The sneaky ways withdrawal, shutting down, and people-pleasing are really self-protection in disguise
✨ Why control and perfectionism create distance instead of safety
✨ How jealousy, hypervigilance, and even sarcastic comments mask deeper fears of abandonment
✨ The first step to shifting all of this - radical self-awareness and honesty

This conversation is just straight-up truth about how your fear of rejection might be silently running the show. You’ll walk away with new perspective, deeper awareness, and a powerful reminder that you can change these patterns and create more connection, intimacy, and fire in your relationship.

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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re riffing on why so many of us get stuck in fear, self-protection, and perfectionism - and how that shows up in your relationships and your life.

We’ll cover:
✨ Why your brain is wired to notice the negative and how it keeps you playing small
✨ How self-protection can look like victimhood, perfectionism, or sabotaging joy
✨ The hidden ways fear can keep you stuck in comfort instead of fully alive
✨ How to catch yourself before spiraling and choose resilience, self-trust, and hope
✨ Why leaning into discomfort can actually open the door to more love, joy, and fulfillment

This episode is playful, raw, and deeply reflective - a peek into my own blind spots, mindset shifts, and the ways I choose to stay empowered in love and life. It’s about learning to trust yourself, embrace the full spectrum of life, and open up to what’s truly possible.

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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why feeling the need to control your partner can feel safer than trusting them - and what’s really going on underneath the control.

We’ll cover:
✨ How control is often just a nervous system survival strategy, not nastiness
✨ The sneaky ways controlling behaviors show up, even when you think you’re being chill
✨ Why overthinking, molding yourself, or trying to manage your partner keeps you in a false sense of safety
✨ How awareness and understanding your blind spots can change your relationship for good
✨ Why letting go of control is essential for real intimacy and connection

Honest, unfiltered, and deeply reflective - this episode breaks down control, uncovers its roots, and guides you toward more authentic, connected, and grounded relationships.

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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why overthinking feels like it’s keeping you safe - and what’s really going on underneath the spirals.

We’ll cover:
✨ Why your brain mistakes thoughts and worst-case scenarios as “protection”
✨ How catastrophising tricks you into believing you’re prepared, when really it’s sabotaging intimacy
✨ The hidden link between fear, self-protection, and staying stuck in your head
✨ A simple way to start interrupting the overthinking cycle and come back to your body
✨ Why choosing presence over perfection is the doorway to deeper love

This conversation is raw, real, and unfiltered - no sugar-coating, no over-polished advice. It’s about understanding the truth behind your overthinking and learning how to shift from survival mode into connection, intimacy, and self-trust.

Come hang out with me:
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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why those hard conversations with your partner feel so damn scary - and what’s really going on underneath the avoidance.

We’ll cover:
✨ Why avoiding the “uncomfortable talk” doesn’t make the tension go away (it actually creates more distance)
✨ How unspoken energy lingers in your relationship, even if you’ve swept it under the rug
✨ The right way (and wrong way) to approach your partner when something’s bothering you
✨ The power of vulnerability, accountability, and validating each other
✨ Why settling for “good enough” is robbing you of true intimacy

This conversation is raw, real, and unfiltered - no sugar-coating, no playing nice just to keep the peace.

It’s about learning how to bring more honesty (and yes, discomfort) into your relationship so you can actually build more connection, more intimacy, and more fire.

Come hang out with me:
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Welcome to this deeply vulnerable episode of F*ck the Rules of Love.

This one wasn’t planned - I hit record straight from bed, croaky-voiced, period due and all kinds of tender. And honestly? That’s exactly why it matters.

In this episode, I open up about:
✨ How old wounds and betrayals can creep back into present-day love (sometimes in the form of dreams that shake you awake)
✨ Why my biggest fear isn’t actually being cheated on - it’s not backing myself if it happens again
✨ The way teenage hurts still echo in adulthood, shaping the way we show up in intimacy
✨ Why healing is less about “getting over it” and more about seeing the patterns that quietly bleed into our now

This podcast is raw, unfiltered, and perfectly imperfect - no fluff, no over-polished advice. Just real-life truth bombs, human stories, and gentle invitations to notice where you might still be carrying hurts that deserve your attention.

Come hang out with me:
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Welcome back to Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎙️

In this episode, we’re unpacking Rule #6: The Ice Queen Always Wins.

If you’ve ever found yourself shutting down, blaming your partner, or creating distance instead of connection, you might know this archetype all too well.

The Ice Queen shows up when we’re in deep self-protection mode - longing for love but terrified to let it in.

We’ll explore:
✨ What the Ice Queen really is (and why so many women secretly identify with her)
✨ How blame, control, and power plays sabotage intimacy
✨ The connection between nervous system dysregulation and self-protection
✨ My own recent “Ice Queen moment” and how I pulled myself out of it
✨ Practical ways to soften, regulate, and open to love (even when it feels scary)

This episode is raw, real, and a big dose of truth-telling. If you’ve ever armored up, pushed your partner away, or found yourself playing the victim while secretly craving closeness - you’re going to feel seen. And you’ll walk away with tools to shift from icy disconnection to vulnerable connection.

Come hang out with me:
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Welcome back to Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎙️

In this episode, we’re tackling Rule #5: No one is coming to save you.

This might sting a little, but it’s one of the most powerful truths when it comes to relationships and personal growth.

We’ll dive into:
✨ Why waiting for your partner to “rescue” you keeps you stuck in self-protection
✨ How unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy and connection
✨ The sneaky ways we project our wounds onto our partner (and miss the love that’s actually there)
✨ What it really looks like to take radical accountability in love
✨ Why discomfort and vulnerability are necessary for growth and deeper connection

This episode is real, raw, and packed with tough love. I’ll share stories from my own relationship and break down how I shifted from expecting to be saved to learning how to ask for what I need, receive love, and grow through the hard stuff.

Come hang out with me:
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Welcome back to Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎙️

In this episode, we’re breaking down Rule #4: Sex is the secret to a happy marriage. Spoiler alert - it’s not that simple.

We’ll cover:
✨ Why there’s no “gold standard” for how often couples should be having sex
✨ The difference between going through the motions vs. deep, connected intimacy
✨ How self-protection, exhaustion, and seasons of life impact sex in long-term relationships
✨ Why comparison to friends, family, or society sabotages your connection
✨ Practical reflection questions to help you and your partner explore what enough really looks like for you

This conversation is raw, honest, and a little bit spicy. We’ll unpack the conditioning around sex, shame, and performance, and I’ll share personal truths from my own relationship (yes, even with four kids and a business in the mix). You’ll walk away with permission to throw out the rulebook and redefine intimacy on your terms.

Come hang out with me:
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Welcome to Episode 3 of Fuck the Rules of Love! 💫

This week, we’re unpacking Rule #3: I shouldn’t have to ask - that unspoken expectation that your partner should just know what you need, when you need it. Spoiler: he can’t read your mind, and expecting him to will only leave you frustrated.

In this episode, you’ll discover:
✨ Why comparing real life to romance novels, fairy tales, and movies sets unrealistic expectations for love
✨ How unspoken expectations can create resentment and disconnect in your relationships
✨ Why learning to ask, communicate, and receive is actually a sign of strength, not weakness
✨ How self-protective mechanisms can sneak in and make you feel undeserving of attention, care, or love

This episode is raw, real, and perfectly imperfect - no sugarcoating, just honest reflection to help you step into your power, communicate clearly, and reclaim control over your relationship.

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