FCPGM [Fight Coach, Psychotherapist, Gym Momma]

Persuasion is a lifelong game of molding our environment to the shape we want. Whether you’re convincing a group of friends to eat at a restaurant you like or encourage a child to complete difficult homework when all their friends are on Xbox live. Sometimes, a gentle nudge and a smile is all that’s needed but if a family member has been swallowed up by a doomsday cult, how are you going to get them out? On today’s episode…. We’re talking persuasion tactics and the best ways to effectively communicate your wishes and ideas in a way that actually gets those around you to change their minds, their beliefs or their habits.

Recommended Links:

• Emotions are more persuasive than logic, Olivia Goldhill - Quartz.com:  http://shorturl.at/bnpqK
• Why you will fail to persuade people, James Sudakow - Inc.com: http://shorturl.at/bBDMT
• Why Facts don’t change our mind, Elizabeth Kolbert - NewYorker.com: http://shorturl.at/xDHT
• Psychology in Advertsing, Denille O'Regan - Blog: http://shorturl.at/kCFG4
• How to become a master of persuasion, Kendra Sherry - VeryWellMind.com: http://shorturl.at/jxIQY
• The Power of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini PhD - APA: http://shorturl.at/prBWX

Gym Momma's Quote of the Week:
“To be persuasive, we must be believable. To be believable, we must be credible. To be credible, we must be truthful” - Edward R. Murrow


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Jimmy: https://www.linktr.ee/jamespwhite
Liam-Og: https://linktr.ee/liamoggriffin
Podcast Website: http://www.FCPGM.com/

The Greek storyteller - Aesop - once said “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted”. On the surface, that seems logical, wise and well meaning. However, there are times when kindness, giving or charity cross over the threshold to enablement and other times, when your charity is siphoned off by middlemen to the point that the intended recipient is left no better off than before you gave a penny at all. When does charity really help? When is tough love better than unconditional support?


Book Recommendation (affiliate link):
Dead Aid: Why aid is not working and how there is another way for Africa, by Dambisa Moyo
https://amzn.to/3w8apgD


Recommended Links:
Brene Brown - Empathy vs Sympathy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

Dave Ramsey - Love v Enabling:  https://youtu.be/4M97_i03bnI

Dr Ramani - Toxic relationships: https://youtu.be/JZEyLwy6Z9s

The mental & physical benefits of giving: http://shorturl.at/wzRW2

Feeling Good about Giving: The Benefits (and Costs) of self-Interested Charitable Behavior:
http://shorturl.at/osG18

The Difference between helping and enabling: http://shorturl.at/bosR2

Dr Marlo on Charity, Help, Enabling: http://shorturl.at/rHT12

Gym Momma's Quote:
"Help people help themselves. Don’t judge, just help. In this process, be cautious to simply point them in the right direction and help them get moving. Don’t make your journey theirs, nor make their journey yours”
- Dr Steve Maraboli.


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Podcast Website: http://www.FCPGM.com/

Sometimes in life, we realise the path we’re on no longer leads to the destination we planned on reaching. Other times, the path may lead to the right destination but have an obstruction that forces a detour. In any case, the flexibility to pivot, adapt and overcome is one major attribute of humankind that has allowed us to sail the 7 seas, discover vaccines and land on the surface of Mars. What does it take to become good at pivoting and are there psychological hangovers that can stifle our flexibility…. We discuss that and more, in this episode of the Fight Coach, the Psychotherapist and the Gym Momma.

Recommended Links:

• 10 celebs who pivoted successfully
•  Chael Sonnen - The fighter who pivoted
• The Power of the pivot - by Dr Sarah Sarkis
•  Dan Murray-Serter - Pivoting to turn entrepreneur burn out into a postive
• How Covid has disproportionately affected female entrepreneurs

Book Recommendations:

• Tarzan Economics: Eight Principles for Pivoting through Disruption, by Will Page
• A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters, by Dr Stephen C. Hayes: 

Gym Momma's Quote of the Week:
“Progress is impossible without change and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything” - George Bernard Shaw


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Podcast Website: http://www.FCPGM.com/

In the aftermath of World War 1 and the Spanish Flu pandemic, the devastation of life, culture and economics was akin to a global forest fire. While irreparable and indescribable damage and suffering was inflicted, what was left behind was a metaphorical clearing, a gap for green shoots to reach for the light of the sun. Delicate sprouting leaves that would have previously struggled in the shade of crowded canopies were gifted an opportunity to get a head start in life. How can you position yourself to take advantage of the post-covid landscape and take part in the 21st century’s roaring 20’s?

FCPGM Challenges:
1. Marlene says: Shop Local and support your community
2. Liam-Og says: Evaluate your career to make sure you're in a position to catch the next wave
3. Jimmy says: Take a mental health audit:
https://www.thinkmentalhealthwa.com.au/mental-health-self-assessment-checklist/

Gym Momma's Quote:
"In the rush to get back to normal, use this time to decide which parts of normal are worth rushing back to"
- Dave Hollis

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With over 9,000 deaths per year in Ireland related to Cancer, it accounts for approximately 30% of annual mortality. While treatments and medications are improving year on year, there’s still a long, long way to go. Cancer patients have their lives turned on its head with news of a diagnosis. Apart from the physical manifestation of the illness, there comes the emotional strife, not just to the patient themselves, but to their family too. Today, we’re meeting with someone who runs a center which aims to offer support to those who find themselves in that very position. What are the things that people battling Cancer find helpful? How has 2020 affected the service? How can we support the cause?

Gym Momma's Quote:
"Surround yourself only by people who are going to lift you higher"
- Oprah Winfrey

Cork Cancer Care Centre Website:
www.CorkCancerCareCentre.ie

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Once upon a time, you would choose your profession upon leaving school and that would be it for the next 45 years. Reinventing one’s self was reserved for celebrities or those lucky enough to inherit a trust fund. Fortunately, this is no longer the case and there are endless opportunities for us all to choose our own paths. When is the right time to consider reinventing yourself and how can you do it successfully? On today’s episode, we’re looking at how possible it is to turn your own life upside down. Is it beneficial, detrimental or the just another symptom of what’s now referred to as the New Normal.

Gym Momma's Quote:
"Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself"
- Mireille Guiliano

Recommend Books (amazon affiliate links): 

Emotional Intelligence, Book by Daniel Goleman   (Self- Awareness): https://amzn.to/3nQ3Vic

Reinvent yourself, by James Altucher: https://amzn.to/3nTcFEl

On Tuesday’s, I’m a buddhist, by Michael Hardingt: https://amzn.to/3frWhrq

Grandma Moses, by Anna Mary Robertson: https://amzn.to/2UUh1Pb

FCPGM Top Tips:

1. Self- Awareness (Who are you ?) Discover Your Strengths
2. What is your Why ? Step outside your comfort zone with courage
3. Set Goals (SMART)   Make a Plan
4. Be Realistic and in line with your values, Try things out
5. Consider others too, use your support group, like minded people and those with experience 
6. Self- Compassion / Be kind to yourself, accept setbacks, learn from them and move forward again
7. Take steps to begin and start now 

Recommended Links:

Reinventing yourself at 60: http://shorturl.at/nIS05  

How to reinvent yourself and change your life for the better: http://shorturl.at/luDW0  

(Reinvent yourself [Psychology Today]: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/articles/201405/reinvent-yourself?fbclid=IwAR3GOH4ni86wIcsAo-W5dP5nG7I_LERIH1njOJfDYlGSBAlHrt0WhYmnbdM  

Turn back time and hack your biology: http://shorturl.at/uwMS1  

5 steps to reinvent yourself: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-steps-to-reinvent-yourself/?fbclid=IwAR0BpBtZYHvt6vj3u-AI4fESUjklJbywud_x-RDWzwjKBOdrbVqnxy3Jbrk  

Springboard Courses: https://springboardcourses.ie

The 7 reinventions of Madonna https://whatutalkingboutwillis.com/madonnas-7-notorious-reinventions/

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Have you ever felt taken for granted, or get anxious when somebody asks for what you’d consider too much? Do you find yourself agreeing to things that are not necessarily in your best interest? Well, you need some proper boundaries. On today’s episode, we’re building healthy relationship dynamics by laying out ground rules that guarantees your own long term mental health.


Gym Momma's Quote:
"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others" - Brene Browne

FCPGM Tips

1. Self- Awareness ( What are the boundaries that you feel you need to build and why ?  Where do you need them emotionally)
2. Listen to your Feelings / Gut (Its you bodies way of giving you information)  Maybe like saying no might be a boundary !!  You should be No1 to you and be ok with the stuff you do or accept
3. Self- Compassion / Be kind to yourself 
4. Build your assertiveness skills (using compassion & empathy)
5. Start small ( Take them 1 at a time) it’s a bit  like building a new habit, the more you practice and do it the easier it becomes

Recommended Links:

Boundaries with Brene Browne [Youtube} https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5U3VcgUzqiI  

How to Set Strong Boundaries, Julia Kristina [Youtube] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zq4WHLyjBZU 

4 Ways to Set and Keep Your Personal Boundaries. Plus, how to get yourself out when all efforts fail [Article]  https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/romantically-attached/201608/4-ways-set-and-keep-your-personal-boundaries  

What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? [Article] https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-are-personal-boundaries-how-do-i-get-some/ 

Recommended Books: 

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Bruce Patton: https://amzn.to/338Wafg

Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ, by Daniel Goleman: https://amzn.to/3nM5aPC

But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath, by Dr Sherri Campbell https://amzn.to/3kTOBzk

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Why do something today when you can put it off until tomorrow? Procrastination is one of the single easiest habits to learn and one that’s hugely difficult to overcome. Why do we do it to ourselves? How can we cure it? On today’s episode, we’re not going to postpone this matter any further. Today is the day to deal with putting stuff on the long finger. Put your devices on “Do not Disturb”, lock yourself into a quiet room and let’s sort this Manyana disease once and for all.

Recommended Books:
Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Martin Seligman: https://amzn.to/3p5lUCG

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff: https://amzn.to/3lfCoFV

The Procrastination Equation, by Piers Steel: https://amzn.to/32uvRjk

Recommended Links:
7 steps to cure procrastination: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irp5ghCVNAM

Ted Talk - Tim Urban - Inside the mind of the master Procrastinator: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU

What can we Learn from the Optimistic Explanatory Style: https://afsconsulting.ca/on-procrastination-part-4-what-can-we-learn-from-the-optimistic-explanatory-style/   

The Science Behind Procrastination: http://shorturl.at/jszRW  

Why You Procrastinate: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html 

Gym Momma's Quote:
"Every day spent procrastinating is another day spent worrying about that thing. Do it NOW and move on wither you life!"

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Why do something today when you can put it off until tomorrow? Procrastination is one of the single easiest habits to learn and one that’s hugely difficult to overcome. Why do we do it to ourselves? How can we cure it? On today’s episode, we’re not going to postpone this matter any further. Today is the day to deal with putting stuff on the long finger. Put your devices on “Do not Disturb”, lock yourself into a quiet room and let’s sort this Manyana disease once and for all.

With Social Distancing and successive lockdowns, it seems we’re all experiencing loneliness in 2020 a bit more than usual. For some it’s harrowing to go without daily social contact. For others, alone time is relaxing or productive. It seems to be highly subjective. But what’s the purpose of feeling lonely? And are there dangers to chronic loneliness? On today’s episode, we’re discussing the feelings of being lonely. While Covid has certainly amplified this issue, it’s not a new phenomenon; But has 2020 given us a chance to learn about loneliness and how to deal with it better?

Recommended Books:
Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body, by Daniel Goleman and Richard J. Davidson: https://amzn.to/354BUwT

The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle: https://amzn.to/3p8kis0

Dealing with Loneliness: Learn How to Deal With and Overcome Loneliness to Never Feel Alone Again, by Mary Jane Perrusso: https://amzn.to/3k8QGGY

Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts by Winch Ph.D., Guy (2014): https://amzn.to/3p90Rzl

Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, by John T Cacciopo and William Patrick: https://amzn.to/2U4lXk8


Gym Mommas's Quote:
"The Real Loneliness is living among all these kind people who only ask one to pretend"
- Edith Wharton


Recommended Links:
Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell - “Loneliness”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3Xv_g3g-mA

7 signs of loneliness - Youtube - Psycho2Go.net https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VcHuQt3fYY

MedCircle Series on Dealing with Loneliness: Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3utpgoJaAk

Can Loneliness Kill you? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuWsHyuLD_E

Mad study on effects of loneliness on cold symptoms: https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/hea-hea0000467.pdf

Loneliness a disease https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3890922/  

How loneliness can make you sick https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2017/09/loneliness-sick   

Loneliness affecting the brain http://shorturl.at/tAPR7


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