Are you afraid of commitment?  It’s a common struggle, affecting both men and women today. Whether it’s a hesitant date or a marriage that feels stuck, commitment fears can sneak in and create roadblocks.

 

Meet Joe Sikorra 

 

In this episode of "Trending with Timmerie," you'll hear from Joe Sikorra, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of "The Whole World Is Going Crazy But You Don't Have To." Joe’s wisdom is both profound and practical, blending faith and psychology to help navigate today’s chaotic world.

 

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Understanding Fear of Commitment

 

Joe kicked off by explaining why commitment is so vital. It’s the bedrock of our relationships, key to happiness, and crucial for finding meaning. Yet, so many of us are shackled by fear. Let’s dive into why this happens:

 

Childhood Trauma: Did you grow up in a turbulent home? Experiences of neglect, abuse, or witnessing divorce can plant deep fears of trust and stability.

 

Self-Sabotage: Do you find yourself making excuses to avoid deepening relationships? This might be a sign of underlying fears.

 

Cultural Pressures: Today’s social media culture can make us feel like we need to be perfect, further fueling our fears.

 

Recognizing the Signs

 

Red Flags to Watch For:

 

Anxiety: Do you feel a sense of dread about getting close to someone?

 

Avoidance: Do you often cancel plans or avoid making them in the first place?

 

Self-Sabotage: Do you engage in behaviors that push people away, even if you don’t mean to?

 

Take a moment to ask yourself:

 

Do I feel nervous about getting closer to my partner or friends?

 

Do I often avoid deep conversations or commitments?

 

Can I trace these feelings back to something in my past?

 

Healing and Moving Forward

 

Therapy and Faith:

 

Therapy: Talking to a professional can help you understand and heal from past traumas.

 

Prayer and Faith: Building a deeper relationship with God can provide a sense of safety and trust.

 

Steps You Can Take:

 

Reflect on Your Past: Consider how your childhood experiences might be affecting you now.

 

Seek Help: Therapy can offer tools and insights to overcome fears.

 

Nurture Your Faith: Engage in prayer and spiritual practices to build trust in God’s love.

 

There’s Always Hope

 

Joe’s message is clear: No matter your past, healing is possible. By understanding the roots of your commitment fears and actively working to overcome them, you can build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Remember, with faith and effort, you can break free from the chains of fear and embrace the joy of committed love.

 

Take a deep breath, and know that with understanding, therapy, and faith, you can overcome your fears and build the loving, committed relationships you deserve.