Fearless Self-Love

It's easy to get caught up in the thoughts racing through our own minds. We can certainly learn from our head, but connecting with our hearts may be the key to finding joy in our everyday lives. "If our hearts are that powerful, why do we live up in our heads?" Guest speaker Kate Berry challenges us to get into our hearts, shift our perspectives, embrace humility, and live a life of genuine joy.

• Why getting out of your head allows you to receive the best messages
• How compassion leaves less room for judgement
• How to bookend your day with practices that bring you joy

Links Mentioned

Heartmath Institute

Tara Brach

The Eight Pillars of Joy (from The Book of Joy)

Nonviolent Communication

Byron Katie

Brene Brown

Show Highlights

4:01 Easeful Living Practice

11:27 Kate Berry introduction

12:13 About Heartset Coaching

13:22 Getting out of your head and into your heart

16:36 Emotions and judgement

20:09 "Inviting My Dragons to Tea"

20:33 Ego, meditation, and the heart

22:42 The First Pillar of Joy: Perspective

25:24 Reality checking

27:55 The Second Pillar of Joy: Humility

39:34 Leaving a trail of joy in your wake

42:23 Seeking pleasure that causes pain

44:15 Surviving and thriving

48:25 The difference between joy and happiness

53:50 Strategies for keeping joy at the forefront

58:21 Courageous Self-Care Tip: Start and end your day with joy

Favorite Quotes

"The best messages that I receive or the changes that I'm able to make always happen when I get out of my head and into my body, particularly when I tune into my heart and my gut." - Kate Berry

"If our hearts are that powerful, why do we live up here in our heads?" - Kate Berry

"Our emotions are huge drivers of our choices." - Kate Berry

"If we're conscious of [our judgement of ourselves], we can see it's actually in a way violence against ourselves. We're not allowing ourselves to be compassionate." - Andrea Catherine

"Don't judge the judgement." - Kate Berry

"There are seven and a half billion people on the planet Earth, which means that there are seven and a half billion different realities, there are seven and a half billion different truths. It's crazy for me to think that my truth is the only truth and that my way of seeing things is the right way." - Kate Berry

"All of us humans are really trying to go for the same things in this world, and that is to love, to be loved, and to be of service." - Kate Berry

"You're special, just like everyone else." - Andrea Catherine

"Am I willing to believe the kind things people have to offer me? And how does that add to believing in my own worth?" - Kate Berry

"I don't know if it matters where I'm headed; it's just a joyride." - Kate Berry

"If I could choose ease or growth, I almost always choose growth, and then I'm like, 'I wish it was easier!'" - Andrea Catherine

"When you are thriving, what are you choosing and what are the common threads that run through each of those moments?" - Kate Berry

Meet Kate

Kate Berry is many things, including a "Heartset" Coach and Joyful Rebel. She helps creative entrepreneurs and healers redefine balance and prioritize their well being so that they can shine their light without burning out. Kate calls Whitefish home, where she embraces the ebb and flow of life with her husband, son, and 2 furry dogs. Visit her online at www.kberrycoaching.com

It’s easy to get caught up in the thoughts racing through our own minds. We can certainly learn from our head, but connecting with our hearts may be the key to finding joy in our everyday lives. “If our hearts are that powerful, why do we live up in our heads?” Guest speaker Kate Berry challenges us to get into our hearts, shift our perspectives, embrace humility, and live a life of genuine joy.

• Why getting out of your head allows you to receive the best messages
• How compassion leaves less room for judgement
• How to bookend your day with practices that bring you joy

Links Mentioned

Heartmath Institute

Tara Brach

The Eight Pillars of Joy (from The Book of Joy)

Nonviolent Communication

Byron Katie

Brene Brown

Show Highlights

4:01     Easeful Living Practice

11:27   Kate Berry introduction

12:13   About Heartset Coaching

13:22   Getting out of your head and into your heart

16:36   Emotions and judgement

20:09   “Inviting My Dragons to Tea”

20:33   Ego, meditation, and the heart

22:42   The First Pillar of Joy: Perspective

25:24   Reality checking

27:55   The Second Pillar of Joy: Humility

39:34   Leaving a trail of joy in your wake

42:23   Seeking pleasure that causes pain

44:15   Surviving and thriving

48:25   The difference between joy and happiness

53:50   Strategies for keeping joy at the forefront

58:21   Courageous Self-Care Tip: Start and end your day with joy

Favorite Quotes

“The best messages that I receive or the changes that I’m able to make always happen when I get out of my head and into my body, particularly when I tune into my heart and my gut.” - Kate Berry

“If our hearts are that powerful, why do we live up here in our heads?” - Kate Berry

“Our emotions are huge drivers of our choices.” - Kate Berry

“If we’re conscious of [our judgement of ourselves], we can see it’s actually in a way violence against ourselves. We’re not allowing ourselves to be compassionate.” - Andrea Catherine

“Don’t judge the judgement.” - Kate Berry

“There are seven and a half billion people on the planet Earth, which means that there are seven and a half billion different realities, there are seven and a half billion different truths. It’s crazy for me to think that my truth is the only truth and that my way of seeing things is the right way.” - Kate Berry

“All of us humans are really trying to go for the same things in this world, and that is to love, to be loved, and to be of service.” - Kate Berry

“You’re special, just like everyone else.” - Andrea Catherine

“Am I willing to believe the kind things people have to offer me? And how does that add to believing in my own worth?” - Kate Berry

“I don’t know if it matters where I’m headed; it’s just a joyride.” - Kate Berry

“If I could choose ease or growth, I almost always choose growth, and then I’m like, ‘I wish it was easier!’” - Andrea Catherine

“When you are thriving, what are you choosing and what are the common threads that run through each of those moments?” - Kate Berry

Meet Kate

Kate Berry is many things, including a "Heartset" Coach and Joyful Rebel.  She helps creative entrepreneurs and healers redefine balance and prioritize their well being so that they can shine their light without burning out.  Kate calls Whitefish home, where she embraces the ebb and flow of life with her husband, son, and 2 furry dogs. Visit her online at www.kberrycoaching.com

In life, we can often feel as if the present moment is escaping us. Between work schedules, family and relationship priorities, and our own needs, we can get lost in the illusion of busyness. Mindfulness can help bring us back into awareness, allow us more availability to be with ourselves and others, and inform every moment of our lives. Join me as I interview Meditation Teacher, Gina Garlie, who like most of us became caught up in planning for life rather than actively living it. With 15 years of experience, she shares about how meditation has benefited herself, her relationships, and the community around her. Listen as she explores how acceptance and the courage to notice our true self helps us find self-care in every moment, connection to all other things, and a clearer perspective.

• How to become mindful without changing your routine
• Why being present with ourselves informs our relationships with everything else
• How to generate joy and hold suffering

Links Mentioned

Open Sky Sangha, Meditation Community in Kalispell, MT

Tara Brach, Author and Meditation Teacher

Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist Monk and Author

"Peace is Every Step" Book by Thich Nhat Hanh

The Algebra Project, Nonprofit Organization

Grounded Here

Show Highlights

05:59 Easeful Living Practice, Simple Centering

12:52 Welcome to Open Sky Sangha in Kalispell, MT

17:10 Being available to yourself and others: "Enjoying the Present Moment"

19:55 Recognizing "bells of mindfulness" in everyday life

24:42 What it means to be mindful to the "fullness of life"

27:05 History of Open Sky Sangha and connection in practice

30:25 Three jewels of Buddhist practice: Buddha, dharma, and Sangha (community)

33:10 "Listening with bigger ears"- noticing how we relate to others

36:55 Mindful experiences in community- "we're all suffering"

41:19 How mindfulness changes our experience in being

45:22 Habit energy

39:00 Inter-are vs Inter-be: Inter-being= no separate self

52:45 Generating joy to hold suffering: Self-care in every moment

54:30 Cultivating Joy

Favorite Quotes

"[Mindfulness] really informs every moment." - Gina Garlie

"If I bypass my emotions and my connection with who I am and what I'm feeling, then I'm not really being true and authentic." - Gina Garlie

"You didn't change your routine; you just changed how your mind was in the moment." - Andrea Catherine

"...allowing there to be pain and joy in the moment." - Gina Garlie

"We all have aspects that are enlightened within us." - Gina Garlie

"It's allowing us to use our mindfulness practice to deepen our relationships and also come face to face with our judgments- because we have them." - Gina Garlie

"We can become more quiet and that can be a gift to a lot of relationships." - Gina Garlie

"If you're not ready to forgive someone else, then you need more self-compassion." - Tara Brach

"It's so easy to forget that all we have is this moment." - Andrea Catherine

"We need to be able to hold the suffering but not until we're able to touch joy." - Gina Garlie

Meet Gina

Meet Gina Garlie, 8th grade science teacher and meditation teacher at Open Sky Sangha in Kalispell, MT. She helps adults and children come into the present moment and teaches awareness techniques to help others listen to the "bells of mindfulness" in everyday life. Her personal experience and journey through meditation over the past 15 years gives her a wealth of knowledge about just being. Catch her at a meditation class, schedule listed here http://www.openway.org.

In life, we can often feel as if the present moment is escaping us. Between work schedules, family and relationship priorities, and our own needs, we can get lost in the illusion of busyness. Mindfulness can help bring us back into awareness, allow us more availability to be with ourselves and others, and inform every moment of our lives. Join me as I interview Meditation Teacher, Gina Garlie, who like most of us became caught up in planning for life rather than actively living it. With 15 years of experience, she shares about how meditation has benefited herself, her relationships, and the community around her. Listen as she explores how acceptance and the courage to notice our true self helps us find self-care in every moment, connection to all other things, and a clearer perspective.

• How to become mindful without changing your routine
• Why being present with ourselves informs our relationships with everything else
• How to generate joy and hold suffering

Links Mentioned

Open Sky Sangha, Meditation Community in Kalispell, MT

Tara Brach, Author and Meditation Teacher

Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist Monk and Author

“Peace is Every Step” Book by Thich Nhat Hanh

The Algebra Project, Nonprofit Organization

Grounded Here

Show Highlights

05:59   Easeful Living Practice, Simple Centering

12:52   Welcome to Open Sky Sangha in Kalispell, MT

17:10   Being available to yourself and others: “Enjoying the Present Moment”

19:55   Recognizing “bells of mindfulness” in everyday life

24:42   What it means to be mindful to the “fullness of life”

27:05   History of Open Sky Sangha and connection in practice

30:25   Three jewels of Buddhist practice: Buddha, dharma, and Sangha (community)

33:10   “Listening with bigger ears”- noticing how we relate to others

36:55   Mindful experiences in community- “we're all suffering”

41:19   How mindfulness changes our experience in being

45:22   Habit energy

39:00   Inter-are vs Inter-be: Inter-being= no separate self

52:45   Generating joy to hold suffering: Self-care in every moment

54:30   Cultivating Joy

Favorite Quotes

“[Mindfulness] really informs every moment.” - Gina Garlie

“If I bypass my emotions and my connection with who I am and what I'm feeling, then I'm not really being true and authentic.” - Gina Garlie

“You didn't change your routine; you just changed how your mind was in the moment.” - Andrea Catherine

“...allowing there to be pain and joy in the moment.” - Gina Garlie

“We all have aspects that are enlightened within us.” - Gina Garlie

“It's allowing us to use our mindfulness practice to deepen our relationships  and also come face to face  with our judgments- because we have them.” - Gina Garlie

“We can become more quiet and that can be a gift to a lot of relationships.” - Gina Garlie

“If you're not ready to forgive someone else, then you need more self-compassion.” - Tara Brach

“It's so easy to forget that all we have is this moment.” - Andrea Catherine

“We need to be able to hold the suffering but not until we're able to touch joy.” - Gina Garlie

Meet Gina

Meet Gina Garlie, 8th grade science teacher and meditation teacher at Open Sky Sangha in Kalispell, MT. She helps adults and children come into the present moment and teaches awareness techniques to help others listen to the “bells of mindfulness” in everyday life. Her personal experience and journey through meditation over the past 15 years gives her a wealth of knowledge about just being. Catch her at a meditation class, schedule listed here http://www.openway.org.

There's something to be said about opening ourselves up to life and letting go of the reins. You know, meeting life and our experiences in the here and now. Easy, right? If you're like me and catch yourself holding on to expectations, you may be causing more suffering than necessary. Join me as I interview Integrational Coach, Denise Dryden, about fearlessly showing up and cultivating surprise within ourselves, life, and our relationship with others. She has extensive experience working with parents struggling to integrate new experiences into their parenting strategies, but this episode reminds us why continuous integration is important for all of our lives.

• How to replace disappointment with surprise
• How to be uncomfortable with uncertainty (or comfortable with discomfort)
• Why life is a "continual process of integrating"

Denise Dryden's website

Transformational Presence Coaching

Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking (book)

Aria Mae on Fearless Self-Love Podcast

Grounded Here

11:49- What is integrational coaching

17:29- Four pillars of coaching: Helping to adjust goals and expectations for flexibility

20:59- Letting go of expectations : Attachments > Disappointment > Relationship Killer

22:04- Presence and why it's important: Listening with your eyes, ears, and body

24:54- How to build trust within our world/life

27:18- How to replace disappointment with surprise: Four pillars

30:55- Spiritual bypassing and how it inhibits our growth

37:09- How to be uncomfortable with uncertainty

44:29- The Yes/No tool for guidance: Tapping into and trusting our intuition

56:53- "Parenting forward": Tools for parenting with presence and curiosity

"When we're adhered to an expectation or attachment, the only emotion we can have is disappointment." - Denise Dryden

"This is what I want, I might not get it." - Andrea Catherine

"Presence is the idea that all of us have shown up and are paying attention." - Denise Dryden

"Follow the energy." - Denise Dryden

"It's choice- to choose to be." - Denise Dryden

"Their emergency can't always be yours." - Denise Dryden

"We are constantly reacting to a checklist from outside, rather than choosing how we want to interact with it." - Denise Dryden

"Sometimes obstacles are in our way to point us in the right direction." - Andrea Catherine

"I can hardly wait to see what today brings." - Denise Dryden

Denise Dryden is an Integrational Coach, mother, and adventurer who uses intuitive wisdom to help parents, families, and individuals restore alignment for better living within themselves and their relationships. She is passionate and experienced working with parenting, relationships, lifestyle choice, and metaphysical exploration. Visit her website at https://www.denisedrydencoaching.com for free downloads, video content, podcasts, and more.

There's something to be said about opening ourselves up to life and letting go of the reins. You know, meeting life and our experiences in the here and now. Easy, right? If you're like me and catch yourself holding on to expectations, you may be causing more suffering than necessary. Join me as I interview Integrational Coach, Denise Dryden, about fearlessly showing up and cultivating surprise within ourselves, life, and our relationship with others. She has extensive experience working with parents struggling to integrate new experiences into their parenting strategies, but this episode reminds us why continuous integration is important for all of our lives.

• How to replace disappointment with surprise
• How to be uncomfortable with uncertainty (or comfortable with discomfort)
• Why life is a “continual process of integrating”

Denise Dryden’s website

Transformational Presence Coaching

Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking (book)

Aria Mae on Fearless Self-Love Podcast

Grounded Here

11:49- What is integrational coaching

17:29- Four pillars of coaching: Helping to adjust goals and expectations for flexibility

20:59- Letting go of expectations : Attachments > Disappointment > Relationship Killer

22:04- Presence and why it's important: Listening with your eyes, ears, and body

24:54- How to build trust within our world/life

27:18- How to replace disappointment with surprise: Four pillars

30:55- Spiritual bypassing and how it inhibits our growth

37:09- How to be uncomfortable with uncertainty

44:29- The Yes/No tool for guidance: Tapping into and trusting our intuition

56:53- “Parenting forward”: Tools for parenting with presence and curiosity

“When we're adhered to an expectation or attachment, the only emotion we can have is disappointment.” - Denise Dryden

“This is what I want, I might not get it.” - Andrea Catherine

“Presence is the idea that all of us have shown up and are paying attention.” - Denise Dryden

“Follow the energy.” - Denise Dryden

“It’s choice- to choose to be.” - Denise Dryden

“Their emergency can't always be yours.” - Denise Dryden

“We are constantly reacting to a checklist from outside, rather than choosing how we want to interact with it.” - Denise Dryden

“Sometimes obstacles are in our way to point us in the right direction.” - Andrea Catherine

“I can hardly wait to see what today brings.” - Denise Dryden

Denise Dryden is an Integrational Coach, mother, and adventurer who uses intuitive wisdom to help parents, families, and individuals restore alignment for better living within themselves and their relationships. She is passionate and experienced working with parenting, relationships, lifestyle choice, and metaphysical exploration. Visit her website at https://www.denisedrydencoaching.com for free downloads, video content, podcasts, and more.

Our culture can have a strong effect on the way we see ourselves and our role in society, especially between gender and sex. The messages men receive within our culture usually reinforce the "rough and tough" advice that's been passed down through generations, and often times, shows up within their relationships with others. Listen to this follow-up interview with guest speaker, Dave Cavnar as he reminds us why self-love isn't just for women. He shares his story honestly and provides insight into nourishing yourself first, along with tips to get started. This one's deep, so grab a friend or take note; you'll want to share these insights with all the men in your life.

• How a morning routine sets the tone for the day

• How to find balance between pushing boundaries and easeful play

• Why we're worthy of creativity and self-love

Links Mentioned:

Tim Ferriss

Some Things Are NOT Negotiable

5 for Love: Free Self-Loving Self-Care video series

Global Purpose Expedition

A Planet On Purpose by Brandon Peele

Feeding Your Demons (meditation practice)

The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer

The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin

REVOLUTION: 31 Days of Yoga by Yoga with Adriene

Dave Cavnar's website

Show Highlights:

3:20 Easeful Living Practice

9:20 Dave Cavnar introduction - a year-and-a-half later

10:41 Living a simpler life

13:41 Prioritizing internal creative work over external requests

14:34 "The Morning Thing" and nourishing creative outlets

18:47 Not taking things too seriously

21:45 "If I was my significant other, what would that look like?" and other conversations with yourself

24:02 Fear and uncertainty

32:46 Feeding Your Demons, a meditation practice

34:45 Experiencing rejection

37:20 Doing what scares you

38:27 Playfulness and intuition

52:07 "Letting down our adult"

56:28 Path to Dave's latest project

59:18 Dave's project: yoga and doodles, The Dao of Doodle

1:08:10 Calls to action

1:13:42 Courageous Self-Care Tip: "Find something that can be the foundation for your day" and "Find your own doodle"

Favorite Quotes:

"Elegance in simplicity… I think it takes awhile to figure out your own formula." - Dave Cavnar

"One of the most common threads, across all fields, for people that are considered successful in their field is a morning routine and meditation." - Dave Cavnar

"I find [a morning routine is] just an experience with what feels the best for you and what gives you energy." - Dave Cavnar

"If I can manage to do… the creative piece and the little meditation; if that's all that I do [in the morning] it's hard to knock me off track." - Dave Cavnar

"All we know is that we have the moment with us right now, right? So you might as well play and have fun." - Andrea Catherine

"Sometimes bad things do happen but, most of the time, we have each other's best interests in mind." - Andrea Catherine

"Everything we go through, all the trials and tribulations, I believe lead to the beautiful places. The hardest path leads to the most beautiful waterfall." - Dave Cavnar

"I know that when I betray something I told myself I'm gonna do, I don't really buy into it yet." - Andrea Catherine

"There are practical aspects to living that require us to wear those adult hats, but why not turn it backwards and be playful in that?" - Dave Cavnar

"We are on the leading edge of our lives; at any moment you can start new and just totally change your life." - Dave Cavnar

"Creativity and play and self love … we don't have to earn them; they become part of our foundation and part of what's essential for us to thrive." - Andrea Catherine

"You could not be more deserving." - Abraham

Meet Dave:

Dave Cavnar is a self-described doodler, learner, and ponderer. He is fascinated by consciousness, purpose, Soul, and each of our individual paths. Currently you can find him falling in love with himself and his life on Instagram @dvcavnar and you can read the first few chapters of Being Human / Human Being on his website https://davidcavnar.com/

Our culture can have a strong effect on the way we see ourselves and our role in society, especially between gender and sex. The messages men receive within our culture usually reinforce the “rough and tough” advice that's been passed down through generations, and often times, shows up within their relationships with others. Listen to this follow-up interview with guest speaker, Dave Cavnar as he reminds us why self-love isn't just for women. He shares his story honestly and provides insight into nourishing yourself first, along with tips to get started. This one’s deep, so grab a friend or take note; you'll want to share these insights with all the men in your life.

• How a morning routine sets the tone for the day

• How to find balance between pushing boundaries and easeful play

• Why we’re worthy of creativity and self-love

Links Mentioned:

Tim Ferriss

Some Things Are NOT Negotiable

5 for Love: Free Self-Loving Self-Care video series

Global Purpose Expedition

A Planet On Purpose by Brandon Peele

Feeding Your Demons (meditation practice)

The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer

The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin

REVOLUTION: 31 Days of Yoga by Yoga with Adriene

Dave Cavnar’s website

Show Highlights:

3:20 Easeful Living Practice

9:20 Dave Cavnar introduction - a year-and-a-half later

10:41 Living a simpler life

13:41 Prioritizing internal creative work over external requests

14:34 “The Morning Thing” and nourishing creative outlets

18:47 Not taking things too seriously

21:45 “If I was my significant other, what would that look like?” and other conversations with yourself

24:02 Fear and uncertainty

32:46 Feeding Your Demons, a meditation practice

34:45 Experiencing rejection

37:20 Doing what scares you

38:27 Playfulness and intuition

52:07 “Letting down our adult”

56:28 Path to Dave’s latest project

59:18 Dave’s project: yoga and doodles, The Dao of Doodle

1:08:10 Calls to action

1:13:42 Courageous Self-Care Tip: “Find something that can be the foundation for your day” and “Find your own doodle”

Favorite Quotes:

“Elegance in simplicity… I think it takes awhile to figure out your own formula.” - Dave Cavnar

“One of the most common threads, across all fields, for people that are considered successful in their field is a morning routine and meditation.” - Dave Cavnar

“I find [a morning routine is] just an experience with what feels the best for you and what gives you energy.” - Dave Cavnar

“If I can manage to do… the creative piece and the little meditation; if that’s all that I do [in the morning] it’s hard to knock me off track.” - Dave Cavnar

“All we know is that we have the moment with us right now, right? So you might as well play and have fun.” - Andrea Catherine

“Sometimes bad things do happen but, most of the time, we have each other’s best interests in mind.” - Andrea Catherine

“Everything we go through, all the trials and tribulations, I believe lead to the beautiful places. The hardest path leads to the most beautiful waterfall.” - Dave Cavnar

“I know that when I betray something I told myself I’m gonna do, I don’t really buy into it yet.” - Andrea Catherine

“There are practical aspects to living that require us to wear those adult hats, but why not turn it backwards and be playful in that?” - Dave Cavnar

“We are on the leading edge of our lives; at any moment you can start new and just totally change your life.” - Dave Cavnar

“Creativity and play and self love … we don’t have to earn them; they become part of our foundation and part of what’s essential for us to thrive.” - Andrea Catherine

“You could not be more deserving.” - Abraham

Meet Dave:

Dave Cavnar is a self-described doodler, learner, and ponderer. He is fascinated by consciousness, purpose, Soul, and each of our individual paths. Currently you can find him falling in love with himself and his life on Instagram @dvcavnar and you can read the first few chapters of Being Human / Human Being on his website https://davidcavnar.com/

Our culture can have a strong effect on the way we see ourselves and our role in society, especially between gender and sex. The messages men receive within our culture usually reinforce the "rough and tough" advice that's been passed down through generations, and often times, shows up within their relationships with others.

Listen in with guest speaker, Dave Cavnar as he reminds us why self-love isn't just for women. He shares his story honestly and provides insight into nourishing yourself first, along with tips to get started. This one's deep, so grab a friend or take note, you'll want to share these insights with all the men in your life.

• Why men need self-loving self-care too

• How silence can teach us about ourselves

• Why being selfish is an important part of self-care

Links Mentioned:

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The Rhythm of Life (book) by Matthew Kelly, https://www.amazon.com/Rhythm-Life-Matthew-Kelly/dp/1942611404

Into the Wild (book) by Jon Krakauer, https://www.amazon.com/Into-Wild-Jon-Krakauer/dp/0385486804

5 for Love: Free Self-Loving Self-Care video series, www.groundedhere.com/5

Dave Cavnar's website, https://davidcavnar.com

Show Highlights:

1:30 Easeful Living Practice: Writing Exercise

3:40 "Love, Rest" Poem by Andrea Catherine

7:10 Interview with Dave Cavnar begins

10:50 Difference between self-love and selfishness. Is there?

15:10 Mentality of scarcity vs abundance

17:29 Energy shifts between selfish and selfless: Seeing both as opportunities to receive

23:00 Spirituality and the intersection of self. Loving ourselves as a step to loving others

27:15 Self-focus without self-love. Our "self" as always under construction

31:05 The journey of self-love: Perfection, judgment, human kindness, and forgiveness

37:00 Self-love for men: Dave's story of coming home to himself

45:21 New messages for young men: "What story do you want to tell?"

49:50 Ways to encourage and nourish yourself: Tips to get started

57:00 Continuing to build connection

61:50 Courageous Self-Care Tip: "Enter the classroom of silence"

63:55 Andrea shares...and how you can start living the life you want

Favorite Quotes:

"Self-love is recognizing that...you can put yourself first." - Dave Cavnar

​"When you're truly embracing the idea that you're complete and you know yourself fully, then you can benefit those around you." - Dave Cavnar

"...being self-focused without actually feeling self-love." - Andrea Catherine

​"Just because you're under construction, doesn't mean you're not complete." - Dave Cavnar

​"If your cup is empty, you can't share what you don't have." -Dave Cavnar

​"...when I forgive myself or others, it frees me up from being attached to the action and the association I have with that action." - Andrea Catherine

"In reality, there's nothing more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future." - Christopher McCandless

​"Move. Learn. Breathe. Repeat." -Dave Cavnar

"You have to enter the classroom of silence." - Matthew Kelly

Meet Dave:

Dave Cavnar is a self-described doodler, learner & ponderer. He is fascinated by consciousness, purpose, Soul, and each of our individual paths. Currently you can find him falling in love with himself and his life on instagram @dvcavnar and you can read the first few chapters of Being Human / Human Being on his website https://davidcavnar.com/

Our culture can have a strong effect on the way we see ourselves and our role in society, especially between gender and sex. The messages men receive within our culture usually reinforce the “rough and tough” advice that's been passed down through generations, and often times, shows up within their relationships with others.

Listen in with guest speaker, Dave Cavnar as he reminds us why self-love isn't just for women. He shares his story honestly and provides insight into nourishing yourself first, along with tips to get started. This one’s deep, so grab a friend or take note, you'll want to share these insights with all the men in your life.

• Why men need self-loving self-care too

• How silence can teach us about ourselves

• Why being selfish is an important part of self-care

Links Mentioned: 

​

The Rhythm of Life (book) by Matthew Kelly, https://www.amazon.com/Rhythm-Life-Matthew-Kelly/dp/1942611404

Into the Wild (book) by Jon Krakauer, https://www.amazon.com/Into-Wild-Jon-Krakauer/dp/0385486804

5 for Love: Free Self-Loving Self-Care video series, www.groundedhere.com/5

Dave Cavnar’s website, https://davidcavnar.com

Show Highlights:

1:30  Easeful Living Practice: Writing Exercise

3:40   “Love, Rest” Poem by Andrea Catherine

7:10   Interview with Dave Cavnar begins

10:50  Difference between self-love and selfishness. Is there?

15:10  Mentality of scarcity vs abundance

17:29  Energy shifts between selfish and selfless: Seeing both as opportunities to receive

23:00  Spirituality and the intersection of self. Loving ourselves as a step to loving others

27:15  Self-focus without self-love. Our “self” as always under construction

31:05  The journey of self-love: Perfection, judgment, human kindness, and forgiveness

37:00  Self-love for men: Dave’s story of coming home to himself

45:21   New messages for young men: “What story do you want to tell?”

49:50   Ways to encourage and nourish yourself: Tips to get started

57:00   Continuing to build connection

61:50   Courageous Self-Care Tip: “Enter the classroom of silence”

63:55   Andrea shares...and how you can start living the life you want

Favorite Quotes:

“Self-love is recognizing that...you can put yourself first.” - Dave Cavnar

​“When you're truly embracing the idea that you're complete and you know yourself fully, then you can benefit those around you.” - Dave Cavnar

“...being self-focused without actually feeling self-love.” - Andrea Catherine

​“Just because you're under construction, doesn't mean you're not complete.” - Dave Cavnar

​“If your cup is empty, you can't share what you don't have.” -Dave Cavnar

​“...when I forgive myself or others, it frees me up from being attached to the action and the association I have with that action.” - Andrea Catherine

“In reality, there's nothing more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future.” - Christopher McCandless

​“Move. Learn. Breathe. Repeat.” -Dave Cavnar

“You have to enter the classroom of silence.” - Matthew Kelly

Meet Dave:

Dave Cavnar is a self-described doodler, learner & ponderer. He is fascinated by consciousness, purpose, Soul, and each of our individual paths. Currently you can find him falling in love with himself and his life on instagram @dvcavnar and you can read the first few chapters of Being Human / Human Being on his website https://davidcavnar.com/