Feeling Yourself with Natalie Lee

Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of birth trauma

I am joined this week by the lovely DJ, presenter and Dating and Empowerment coach, Ashely James.

We discuss some of the pre-conceptions that people hold about motherhood, particularly around sex.

After suffering a particularly challenging and traumatic experience at the birth of her son Alfie, Ashley shares how she felt lost within motherhood, and her journey to building herself and her confidence back.

Ashley is so honest in this chat and I’m so grateful to her for sharing her own experiences.

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 This week I am joined by erotic film maker and producer and Erika Lust. I’ve been such a big fan of Erika’s work that champions female pleasure through her story lines and creative direction. 

Erika founded Erika Lust Films after she grew frustrated at the lack of erotic films that she felt were made for her pleasure.

We chat about, everything from why the porn industry has such a bad reputation to the need for better sex education for children, and why she is unable to share her content on Instagram anymore. 

This chat opened my eyes to the ways that porn can be both pleasurable and empowering to women.

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Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of sexual assault.

Joining me this week is none other than music producer, artist and pioneer of drum and bass Mr Goldie.

Having grown up in care, and suffered sexual trauma from a young age, Goldie shares his journey to healing, from getting better in touch with his ‘inner child’, to using techniques such as yoga and meditation, which has been massively helped along by two of his biggest supports, his wife and youngest child.

This is such a raw and honest chat and I hope it sheds some light on the often challenging path to healing after sexual trauma.

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Amelia is mentioned in the very first chapter of my book ‘Feeling Yourself’ as the lady with her finger in my vagina so I couldn’t not have her on my podcast!

I went and saw Amelia for a sexual healing process and the journey was totally not what I expected, in the most brilliant way. We speak about my client journey with Amelia, and Amelia’s own experiences in healing her own sexual trauma, to becoming a sexual healer, and the process behind Yoni massage, and accepting vaginas in all their shapes, sizes and colours.

There are so many misconceptions behind Yoni massage and I hope this episode helps to banish some of those pre conceptions and you will all want to book an appointment with Amelia after listening!

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We’re back for our second episode of Feeling Yourself and this week I am delighted to be joined by author, presenter, content creator and self love advocate Chidera Eggerue ( AKA The Slumflower).

Chidera describes herself as a maverick who is great at ‘being herself’ and with this in mind we discussed the theme of liberation.

Chidera tells Nat all about how she has reframed liberation in her mind in terms of accepting herself as a sensual and sexual woman, which has even allowed her to take up the new hobby of pole dancing, and stepping into on the role of a dominatrix.

This episode inspired me to harness my power as a woman and lean into my power, and I hope it does the same for you.

There’s also a super spicy quick fire round…

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I am SO thrilled to annouce the first guest on the Feeling Yourself podcast as none other than Nina Tame - the self proclaimed “disabled step mum you never knew you needed”. I’ve followed Nina’s journey online for a while now and was overjoyed to find out she’s just as lovely in real life as she is online. I’ve been giving each of my guests the choice to discuss a theme related to a chapter in my book and Nina unequivocally chose orgasms! We discuss how she regularly has 6 a night, her changing relationship with her body and how her relationships have impacted this, and her ability to have nipple orgasms. Its safe to say we’re all going to want to live a little more Nina after listening to this! 

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In this honest and revealing podcast, Natalie Lee speaks to guests to dig deep into their own relationships with sex to expose the shame that many of us feel. 

This summer Natalie releases her debut book Feeling Myself which takes us through her journey, from traumatic beginnings to marriage, motherhood and eventually experiencing sexual freedom after divorce as she turned 40. Feeling Yourself is a continuation of this conversation and the story of learning to be your true self in a society that doesn't prioritise your pleasure. It is a podcast for every woman to feel empowered by and to learn the tools to experience their own emancipation too.

"Trauma, porn, masturbation, sexuality, sex after motherhood, sex when you feel sh*t about your body, sex after separation... these are all topics around which we skirt delicately, as if they're bombs which will explode if we prod them too curiously. In this way, sex is intimately connected with shame. Like most of us, shame has followed me around for most of my life. I felt shame for the colour of my skin, shame for being female, and shame for wanting more, but I also felt shame around the subject of masturbation. Even as an adult, I carried an intense feeling that masturbation was somehow dirty. I look back on this now and realise how warped our approach to sex is and how the shame that surrounds these conversations holds women back."

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