Kat and Phoebe discuss last month’s big viral article on the plight of the millennial white guy (and violently disagree)! Also: Kat confesses to being a diversity hire, and Phoebe vows to professionally wrestle any man who dares tread on the sacred turf of straightness studies. This is our free episode for January; if you enjoy it, please consider subscribing!

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Jacob Savage, unlike Dan Savage, knows not where the men are: https://www.compactmag.com/article/the-lost-generation/

Jacob Savage’s previous disappearance-based essay: https://www.tabletmag.com/sections/news/articles/the-vanishing

Oliver Traldi doing straight men studies: https://thepointmag.com/criticism/the-masculine-mystique/

Kat and Phoebe discuss the pressure to be part of a clique, the (over?) valuation of female friendship, Phoebe’s thesis on heteronormativity, and Kat’s theory of the naturally-occurring eccentrics who just vant to be alohn.

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Early access for premium subscribers! Kat and Phoebe discuss modern love, traditional marriage, and the New York Times “gray divorcée” who is the latest main character in the discourse.

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The original offense: Opinion | It’s OK That Our Long, Mostly Good Marriage Ended - The New York Times

The origin story: His and Her Books Tattle on Marriage - The New York Times

Kat’s interview with Cathi: Two Drinks with. . . a Very Modern Lover

Phoebe on Overcorrections:

In a special post-Thanksgiving dispatch, Kat and Phoebe discuss dead squirrel drama, stupid murderers, dine-and-dash influencers who might be robots, and the seasonal affliction known as Labubu Buyer’s Remorse.

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Irresistible Deals Put Them in Debt. Now They’re Trying to Manage Their Overspending.

How Not to Get Away With Murder: The stranger-than-fic…

Kat tells a story about stalking a businessman in a London suburb; Phoebe tells the origin story of the shirtless men on her book jacket. Then: a discussion on the latest in male cancellations, and, by popular demand, the Olivia Nuzzi book excerpt and surrounding drama.

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Pre-order Phoebe’s book here! Right here! Right now!

As Summers Sought Clandesti…

Early access for paid subscribers! Kat and Phoebe discuss female testosterone junkies and an essay about feminization that broke the internet.

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Susan Dominus’s incredible article about women doing the T for non-trans reasons: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/22/magazine/testosterone-women-health-sex-libido-menopause.html

Phoebe’s got a long beard now:

Helen Andrews in Compact: https://www.compactmag.com/article/the-great-feminization/

Kat’s marriage proposal to Helen Andrews:

Phoebe will NOT be attending the Kat-Helen wedding:

Honorable mentions:

Phoebe debuts a sexy new limited-edition podcast voice (available only while seasonal respiratory virus lasts)! Then: new developments in last week’s spon-con meltdown, and some extremely sour grapes over the continued survival of cancelled men at cancelled magazines.

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Tolentino retraction-watch:

https://www.instagram.com/jiatortellini/

What Is Lorin …

Kat and Phoebe break their previously RIGID rule against oversharing about their romantic histories to reveal which male celebrities once looked at them with maybe lust, or maybe a potent mix of disgust and curiosity, who knows. Then: the cancellation-in-progress of Jia Tolentino over an ill-advised piece of sponcon and the cancellation anthems of Taylo…

Kat and Phoebe discuss the fallout from the acquisition of the Free Press, including an epidemic of Bari Weiss derangement syndrome and Kat’s betrothal to the reanimated corpse of Dan Rather Walter Cronkite. (Sorry, Dan!) Then: a great new novel, the plight of the “visible Jew”, and Bluesky’s live nude waffles problem.

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PSA: All of the Free Press (i…

Kat and Phoebe are joined by special guest Katie Herzog to discuss sobriety narratives, publishing journeys, and Katie’s new book, which you should all buy immediately.

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Order Katie’s book here!

No, seriously, did you order yet?

Fresh, hot, FULLY NUDE self help right here, y’all.

Read an excerpt from Katie’s book at The Free Press:

Also mentioned:

Kat’s piece on psychedelics: The Middle-Class Women Who Are Tripping Balls

Phoebe on Ozempic, etc: Is Jewish dieting culture over? Reading ‘This is Big’ in the age of Ozempic