Feminine Roadmap

Today on Feminine Roadmap Kristina Mand Lakhiani encourages listeners to beat perfectionism and become flawesome. Kristina spent her life achieving, striving, building and doing what she thought would make her happy. As co-founder of Mind valley, Kristina spent 20 years watching it go from a small home-based business to a world wide platform. At the end of that time she was surprised to find herself feeling unhappy then guilty for that unhappiness. This led her to take a sabbatical that helped her face her battle with perfectionism and helped her return to what she now deems her authentic self- warts and all. She realized that she loved to write so she wrote a book that helps readers begin to uncover their path back to themselves and in turn, live in their flawsomeness. Perfectionism requires us to try harder, do more, struggle to do better and what you’re not good at which breeds fear of trying so we don’t risk losing. Ironically, this is the exact thing that holds us back from living an aligned life, one that empowers us to shine, grow and bring our true value to the world around us. If perfectionism is our only standard, we will never arrive so naturally everything that doesn’t reach that standard is something to be ashamed of or to feel bad about. Kristina has a lot to share that will help you overcome perfectionism and set your feet on a path that is meaningful for you. She encourages you to make an important shift in the relationship you have with yourself: instead of being judgmental, begin to be kind and curious. If you find yourself struggling with perfectionism and feeling unworthy, I encourage you to give yourself the gift of time to sit and listen to this conversation. So grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us. https://www.mindvalley.com/

Today on Feminine Roadmap, a love letter from God with Lori Potts. Lori is the pastor and founder of LAPP Ministries and author of, “It’s OK to Be Beautiful: 30 Days to Healing, Health and Hope for a Beautiful Life”. Her calling is to educate and empower women of faith to know their full worth in Christ. She wants women to have a full knowledge of who they are created to be as well as experiencing complete healing and hope mentally, spiritually and physically. She encourages women to tune out the noise and things of this world that clutter our hearts and minds. When we get overwhelmed with life, responsibilities, and changes we can easily lose our way. As we change our focus off of those things and onto the truth of God’s word, it reestablishes the posture of our heart. The fear, anxiety and worry begins to melt away and peace takes its place. The beauty of seeking God in our lives is that we can trust Him with the outcomes in every area. So often we strive and struggle alone, but we can turn to God as our anchor. When we finally turn to Him, say “Yes Lord”, then we can move forward. God takes care of the details as we lean in, trust and obey. Saying yes to God’s purpose and plan is saying yes to what we were designed to do and be. So today Lori shares how to release what is burdening you and receive the love that God has for you. He has offered us His Son, His word and His unconditional love. There is hope, help and healing waiting for you. Please grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us for this love letter from God. www.itsoktobebeautiful.com

Today on Feminine Roadmap we’re talking about gray divorce with family therapist Linda Hershman. Linda realized that she was seeing more and more couples in midlife considering divorce. She had an opportunity to speak in another country and wondered if gray divorce was an issue that would be relevant elsewhere. What she learned was that gray divorce was, in fact, a global issue. This led her to do a lot of research around the topic in preparation for her presentation in Europe. In this episode we discuss the findings from her research and her counseling practice. Since 1 in 4 marriages in midlife end in divorce, this has become an important area for her to understand. She encourages those considering divorce to take the time to understand why this is happening, identify the fears and real concerns of divorcing later in life. Also she talks about research on the long term effects of divorce on adult children. She advises listeners to consider what they can do if you’re not sure whether or not you want to get a divorce. Also understanding what kind of supports are available to you as you navigate this journey. Often we turn to friends and family but Linda advises listeners to talk to a professional who can give unbiased input and perspective. While every season of marriage has it challenges, midlife has become a difficult frontier for at least 25% of marriages. If you or anyone you know are struggling with this season of your marriage, this episode will offer good insight and advice. Grab a cuppa something wonderful and be encouraged that this can be navigated well. https://lindahershman.com/

Today on Feminine Roadmap: Finding what’s next with artist Louise Barson. After many years in a corporate career in accounting, at the age of 59 Louise decided it was time for a change. The thing was that she had no idea what that was going to be until she needed to renew her passport. When she had to fill out the occupation box she thought I’ll put artist and then forgot about it. A few months later her husband reminded her that she hadn’t begun being an artist so she took that gentle nudge and started. Since creating Christmas cards in her new role as artist she hasn’t looked back. Louise found her next season through painting. In this episode she shares some of the mindsets and practices that can help someone who is looking at their next season without an idea of what’s next. She encourages people to start slow looking – taking the time to see what’s in front of you, what brings you joy, what lights you up. Also practicing slow enjoyment, taking the time to be present with your days and what you’re experiencing. There are little clues all around us that can lead us to what’s next. Reconnecting with life in this way can not only help guide us but it grounds us and gives us a sense of joy and purpose. When we are seeking what’s next, joy is a big element of that journey. Find things that invigorate you and be open to the positive things coming your way. If you are looking for what’s next, this conversation will encourage and inspire you to not hold back. Go ahead grab a cuppa something wonderful and give it a go, see what happens. www.louisebarson.co.uk www.feminineroadmap.com

Today on Feminine Roadmap: Finding your midlife passion with Mary K. Savarese. Mary shares how finding her passion in writing fiction literally saved her life and helped her heal. She is on a mission to inspire other women in midlife to stop procrastinating in finding a hobby that brings them joy. In her books she blends fantasy, romance and history to create a world where readers can escape the real world and get lost in the world of her characters. Writing for her was a path to wholeness and healing, giving her life direction, focus and a place to find joy. When she came to the crossroads of midlife she realized that connecting to what was in her heart, what brought her joy was going to be the key to her next season. Her encouragement to listeners is to take the time to become present to what it is that lights you up, what you’re drawn to and what brings you joy. Start slowly and experiment with things, figure out what parts of that you like and what you don’t. One important step is to be open to the outcome possibly being just for the joy of it. Mary touches on how we have spent a lifetime of service and accomplishing tasks begins to transition as we are in midlife. That transition from all the doing for others to connecting with yourself can be adventure if we lean in. Curiosity, courage and a willingness to take a posture of being a learner go a long way in helping find your midlife passion. For some, it’s an obvious thing while for others it’s more of a treasure hunt. No matter where you find yourself on your midlife journey, this conversation will spark inspiration. If you or a friend need a hit of “yes you can so just go for it” then this episode is for you! Grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us. www.maryksavarese.com www.feminineroadmap.com

Today on Feminine Roadmap an insightful conversation about emotional contagion with retired clinical psychologist Dr. Bruce Hutchison. The world events of the past 3 years has left a massive emotional aftermath in its wake on our society. Dr. Bruce reminds us that emotions don’t think and that has contributed to the current state of emotional turmoil we are experiencing. He talks about how to handle emotions personally, in society, and politics. When we carry on conversations, he shares how to become more emotionally aware of yourself and the person or people we are talking with. Since we all feel emotion, it is important to first become aware of our own emotional state while becoming present to the states of others. Emotions flow through society, passed on by mirror neurons. It’s natural to begin to merge with others emotions especially when the situation is more charged. Our emotions naturally intensify during times of turmoil and can easily begin to run rampant causing arguments, division and the cancel culture as we have been experiencing. Without becoming present to our selves and others there is a danger of the emotional contagion continuing unchecked. Once we begin to change our thoughts and behavior, we can begin to change our emotional state. As we practice slowing ourselves down, paying attention to our body position, tone of voice, and breathing, we can change our behavior. Stepping back for a moment can often help give us a little perspective and bring our emotions in check. Dr. Bruce encourages listeners to be aware that emotions drive behavior and practice helpful, correct thoughts to manage your own emotions. He stresses how important it is to regulate our emotions in order to turn the tide of emotional turmoil in ourselves and our sphere of influence. Please grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us for this sprovacative conversation. www.bruhut.com www.feminineroadmap.com

Today on Feminine Roadmap: Permission to not slow down with Jill Phillips. Jill found herself unhappy and uninspired when she hit midlife. Her life dramatically changed with a divorce and a cancer diagnosis, along with that a new life. She wanted to do something she hadn’t done before so she decided to go back to school and get her degree which included learning to write a thesis. A byproduct of this dynamic shift in her life was a mission to find out what she could do. At 58 years old with a degree in hand she began to explore other things that she found interesting. She hired a personal trainer at 61 years old and lost weight she’d ben carrying around for years. Her fitness journey lead to learning to run so she could do her first 5K. Jill wisely reminds listeners that they don’t have to first or the fastest at what they choose, they just need to prepare and enjoy! Her next adventure was writing down her family stories and ended up with a published book. She is living proof that age is not a restriction and you have permission to not slow down as you age. She said that she’s done more in the last 10 years than she had done for decades before. As she approaches 70, Jill is looking forward to what her next big experience will be. She encourages people in midlife and beyond to try something new, meet new people, and find out about yourself in the process. Break out of the things you think you know about yourself and your capabilities. Be kind to yourself, prepare, fuel your mind and body well then give things a go. If you are just getting started and you’re a midlifer, grab a cuppa and listen to Jill’s story. You have permission to move forward and not slow down! RESOURCES: https://Jmphillipsauthor.com Music by www.bensound.com

Today on Feminine Roadmap we’re talking about going from crisis to oasis with Denise Belisle. Denise empowers women to rock their midlife by shifting from crisis to oasis. Crisis can be a state of being that at some point in our lives was a protective state that served to keep us feeling safe. As adults the key is to begin to identify the ways we have been programmed to survive or protect ourselves and shift those habits. Once we are able to recognize those patterns in our lives we can step into the drivers’ seat and consciously choose our behavior. The first step to change is to become aware of the ways we sabotage ourselves, the root cause of our reactions. Once we do this then we can choose to take responsibility and choose our responses. The power of taking personal responsibility and choosing a better way of being stems from a healthy relationship with ourselves. When we are comfortable in our own skin, moving from judgement to acceptance then we can effectively change and move forward. We are not responsible for the actions or reactions of others only ourselves. Moving from crisis to oasis begins and ends with our ability to recognize our own habits and patterns that need to be changed and then changing them. We cannot control or change anyone else, that game leads to chaos and crisis. But when we live in our own skin, growing and becoming the best version of ourselves apart from what others do or don’t do, we find oasis. IF you find yourself feeling a sense of chaos or crisis in your life and relationships, this episode is for you. Please grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us to find your oasis. RESOURCES: https://denisebelisle.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@DeniseBelisle [email protected]

Today on Feminine Roadmap we are talking with Dr. Salome Masghati on optimizing your health and healing. Dr. Salome is passionate about helping her clients to understand the whole perspective on their health. The whole picture of health includes the mindset, body, trauma, epigenetics and environment. As an allopathic doctor, she found that she wanted to be able to provide a more holistic approach to health and healing for her clients so she added functional medicine to her resume. Functional medicine approaches health by looking at a patient as an individual with a systems-based biology approach. A functional medicine doctor takes a holistic approach by considering the full picture of your physical, mental, emotional, and sometimes even spiritual health. The beauty of this approach is getting beyond the symptom itself to the root cause of that symptom so that true healing occurs. Dr. Salome encourages those new to functional medicine to trust the process and understand this approach takes time. Functional medicine requires a mindset shift toward medicine from a quick fix to a long-term solution. This will take time, work, and changes in behaviors and habits with long-lasting results for your health. In our conversation, Dr. Salome wants listeners to understand that a lot of things are in your hands to optimize your health. Her goal is to help people thrive within the reality of the lives they are living. She encourages learning to trust your body and to be persistent in finding answers for your health challenges. That journey often requires being willing to find the right physician to be your partner on the journey. It’s important to make time for your health while you’re healthy by taking time for self-care which is a big key to healing. If you are curious about functional medicine, how it works and why it’s different, this episode is for you. Please grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us for this great conversation about true health and healing.
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Today on Feminine Roadmap, wise financial advice for widows with Stacy Francis. Stacy is a financial advisor, founder of the non-profit Savvy Ladies and champions women to take control of their finances so they can achieve financial security. From a personal experience in her family, she became passionate about helping women to be financially secure after the loss of a spouse. Her advice is straightforward, practical and easy to follow. Stacy encourages women to get their team in place: a state planning attorney, a financial advisor and a grief recovery coach or counselor. Often women are overwhelmed with all of the decisions that seem to be looking and all of the details that come with the loss of a spouse. One of her biggest pieces of advice is to understand how grief can cause our brains to feel foggy and to know that it won’t last forever. You have time to make decisions and by having a team in place, you are able to rely on wise advisors to help guide you through everything that needs to be handled. The other resource she reminds listeners they have is friends and relatives that offer to help, she gives list of items that they can take care of to help reduce the tasks on your plate. Whether you are a widow in need of sound advice or know a friend who may need the encouragement, please grab a cuppa something wonderful and join us. This episode is one to hang on to and share with your friends.

Francis Financial Website https://francisfinancial.com/
Savvy Ladies Website https://www.savvyladies.org/
Widow Whitepaper https://francisfinancial.com/financial-help-for-widows/
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