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Have you ever been told that you are “too much” or "intimidating"?
OR
Have you ever looked at another woman or femme person and thought “She’s so…”, “Ugh, I can’t believe she…”, or “I hate when they…”?
It’s taught to us from a very early age. We see it in movies, cartoons, magazines, books, even songs; women competing against other women. Women fighting for love interests, jobs, social status, women comparing their motherhood skills, their home decor, their talents and their body shapes. Women comparing themselves against each other, pulling each other down, or putting themselves in the shadow of another.
We get taught to slut shame, body shame, success shame, class shame and so much more.
A few days before recording this podcast I was having a chat on Instagram with a dear friend of mine, Serra. I admitted to her that I had struggled during our 9 year friendship with competition and comparison. I had found myself swinging from having a mega crush on this babe to comparing myself to her, and even internally shaming her for her juicy, vibrant, personality.
We got into a vulnerable chat via private messages and, on her suggestion, decided to pause it and record the conversation for all of you to enjoy.
In this episode we look hard at ourselves, at our own habits and how we not only treat other women but how other women treat us. We pull apart the toxic ways we have been taught to interact by society, but also delve into the vulnerability of grappling with all that shame ourselves. As two women who have both been told we are “too much” and “Intimidating” we also reflect on how to bridge that gap and find our place with other strong women in our life.
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This show features an interview with Serra Stone.
"Serra is an everchanging practise of pulsing, writhing lifeforms, held together by lichen and dawn.
Currently taking form as a queer, neuro-diverse, sex worker, eco-sensual, writer, wildlife carer and artist; Serra considers her most important work is done in ritual with animals who have been killed.
Her written and visual musings are the awkward, painful, decomposing truths of our world with a touch of satirical armour to soften the treacherous path.
She is a (proper) bird nerd, earl grey loving, many book at a time reading mother of one caramel eyed Pitbull currently breathing with Dja Dja Wurrung Country in Central Victoria, Australia."
https://www.instagram.com/serra.stone/
https://www.facebook.com/sarah.hancock.756/
https://medium.com/@connect_92174
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This podcast was recorded in Naam, on the lands of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation.
Fierce-gentle was made possible and supported by a Banyule City Council Business Grant.
Written, recorded and hosted by Fleassy Malay:
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Music by Rory McDougall:
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