Ever had something ridiculously small happen and suddenly you’re crying like everything has fallen apart?

Yep. Me too.

I recently spilled something in the kitchen and completely lost it. But I wasn’t crying about the spill. It was everything that had built up before it — and suddenly I was thinking, I hate FIFO. I just want my husband home.

FIFO adds an extra layer to everyday overwhelm. We carry the load, push emotions aside because there’s shit to get done, and sometimes even feel guilty telling our partners we’re struggling because they’re away working hard.

In this episode, I’m talking about why we need to stop suppressing our emotions, why it’s okay to cry, and four practical ways to reduce overwhelm before we reach breaking point.

Because sometimes “I can’t do this anymore” really means…

“I can’t do any more today.”

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I hate FIFO. I’ve said it plenty of times.

A couple of months ago, I was crying on FaceTime telling Stef I was done. I didn’t want to be a FIFO wife anymore. I wanted my husband home every night — and there was actually an opportunity for him to move into a Perth-based role.

But once the emotion settled and I really thought about what leaving FIFO would mean for BOTH of us, I realised the answer wasn’t nearly as simple as I thought.

In this episode, I’m talking honestly about when FIFO actually stops being worth it — and why that answer isn’t just about money.

We talk about income, quality time, job satisfaction, kids, mental health, R&R priorities, keeping your relationship connected and protected, and the things FIFO can actually give a family alongside everything it takes away.

Because maybe the question isn’t whether FIFO is good or bad.

Maybe the real question is:

Is FIFO still giving your family enough to justify what it’s costing you — and are BOTH of you still okay with that trade?

This is a very honest look at why, despite absolutely fucking hating parts of FIFO life, I’ve realised that right now… it still works for us.

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FIFO & Cheating: When Should You Actually Worry?

FIFO and cheating is a topic that comes up constantly — but not every change, missed phone call or bad night of reception means your partner is cheating.

In this episode, we’re having a balanced conversation about what actually deserves your attention and what might simply be normal FIFO life.

We talk about why FIFO can create more opportunity and make cheating easier to hide, how blurred coworker boundaries can develop, the difference between privacy and secrecy, changes in communication and intimacy, camp reception and Wi-Fi excuses, and why someone else’s “signs” shouldn’t automatically become evidence in your relationship.

Most importantly, we talk about change, consistency and clusters — knowing what’s normal in your relationship and recognising when that normal genuinely starts to shift.

This isn’t about creating fear or turning you into a detective.

It’s about understanding the difference between fear and genuine changes, communicating before accusing, and protecting the trust and boundaries that keep FIFO relationships connected.

Your relationship still exists when you get on that plane. Your boundaries should too.

The Boundaries That Protect Your Relationship

Boundaries aren’t about controlling your partner. They’re about protecting the relationship you’ve chosen to build together.

In this episode, we’re talking about the boundaries that can help couples feel safer, more secure, respected and connected—from friendships and social media to workplace relationships, communication and those situations that might seem harmless but can slowly create distance or uncertainty.

We also talk about something just as important: open, honest transparency.

If something happens that could cross a boundary or potentially make your partner uncomfortable, being upfront about it helps protect the trust you’ve built rather than leaving room for doubt later.

Because ultimately, healthy boundaries aren’t about creating a list of rules.

They’re about two people saying, “This relationship matters to me, so I’m going to protect it.”

If you’re sitting there thinking, “Okay, but where do we even start?” I’ve created two resources designed to help couples reconnect, communicate and bring some fun back into their relationship:

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These resources are a great place to start. From there, you’ll begin finding your own rhythm, creating your own rituals, and discovering what works best for your relationship.

You can also find these resources through my Instagram and Facebook pages.

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FIFO is already hard on relationships. The distance, the loneliness, the change in routine, missing your person and trying to stay connected while living two completely different lives.

Then add perimenopause into the mix.

In this episode, I’m talking about what the last 8–10 days have looked like for me — the sudden low mood, heightened anxiety and insecurity, needing more reassurance, old wounds feeling fresh again, losing motivation and even losing the excitement I normally have for things I love.

For a while, I genuinely didn’t feel like myself.

And when your husband is FIFO, the person who feels like your safety net isn’t physically there to give you the hug or reassurance you might desperately need in those moments.

I talk about how I got through those days without pretending I was fine, the tools I used to stop myself spiralling further, how Stef supported me from site, and something I didn’t expect — how our FIFO Relationship Box and connection prompts naturally gave my anxious brain some of the reassurance it was searching for without putting all of that pressure on him while he was working.

This isn’t an episode about having all the answers. I’m still figuring this out too.

It’s about recognising that perimenopause can add a whole new emotional layer to FIFO life — and maybe we need to give ourselves a little more grace while we learn how to navigate it.

Because apparently surviving FIFO wasn’t enough of a challenge. Now we’re adding perimenopause. 😂

Starting FIFO life can feel overwhelming. One minute you’re trying to hold it together, and the next you’re wondering why everyone else seems to cope better than you.

But what if the problem isn’t you?

In this episode, I share a simple analogy that completely changed the way I look at FIFO life. We wouldn’t expect someone to jump behind the wheel of a car and know exactly what they’re doing on day one, so why do we expect ourselves to instantly know how to navigate one of the biggest lifestyle changes a relationship can face?

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at FIFO, this episode is your reminder that you’re not failing—you’ve just got your L plates on.

If you’re looking for more support, I also create FIFO relationship resources, children’s books, learning packs, and printable tools designed to help FIFO families feel more connected and understood. You’ll find links to my Payhip store on my Instagram and Facebook pages.

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R&R is supposed to be the best part of FIFO life… so why can it sometimes leave you feeling flat, emotional or completely exhausted once it’s over?

In this episode, I talk about the emotional hangover that can follow R&R—the constant transitions, shifting routines, emotional highs and lows, and why this experience is far more common than most people realise.

If you’ve ever wondered why you feel “off” after your partner flies back to site, this episode is for you.

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Have you ever found yourself thinking…

“I organised the holiday.”

“I planned the date night.”

“I was the first one to apologise… again.”

Without even realising it, many of us keep a silent scorecard in our heads. We collect disappointments, store them away, and before we know it, we’ve built a prosecution case against the person we love.

In this episode, I share a random epiphany that hit me and why I think so many of us do this without even noticing.

We’ll talk about:

* Why our brains naturally remember disappointments more than appreciation.

* The two files we all keep in our minds.

* How to intentionally strengthen your appreciation file.

* Why “Talk it. Work it. Shred it.” can stop little hurts becoming years of resentment.

* And how to get back to being teammates instead of scorekeepers.

If you’ve ever caught yourself mentally keeping score in your relationship, this episode is for you.

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Have you ever wondered what would happen if you stopped organising the dates… stopped initiating the deeper conversations… or stopped being the one who always keeps the relationship moving forward?

In this first episode of Season 2, we dive into a conversation that many FIFO wives and long-term couples quietly wrestle with but rarely talk about.

Is “chasing” really the right word… or are we actually talking about continuing to pursue the person we’ve chosen?

In this episode, I share my own reflections on how our emotional needs change as we grow older, why relationships can slowly slip into routine, and why curiosity, intention and emotional connection matter just as much after 5, 10 or 20 years together.

This isn’t about blaming our partners.

It’s about asking ourselves how we can continue choosing each other through every season of life.

If this episode resonates with you, I’d love for you to share it with your partner. Sometimes the most meaningful conversations begin by simply listening together.

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Have you ever wondered why your FIFO partner reads your message but doesn’t reply? Why communication can suddenly stop during the day? Or what actually happens on site that keeps them so busy?

In this episode of the Soft Reset Studio Podcast, I sit down with answers from my husband, a FIFO Site Manager, who shares what a typical day really looks like—from the responsibilities of keeping a crew safe to the reality behind unread messages and missed calls.

This episode isn’t about telling FIFO wives to expect less. It’s about understanding each other’s world so we can build stronger, healthier relationships through communication, empathy and connection.

If you’re a FIFO wife, FIFO partner or work away from home yourself, I hope this episode gives you a new perspective.

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