Finding Noble

“If you develop or even have all of the physical abilities and all of the physical skill sets, THEY ESSENTIALLY ARE USELESS, if you don’t have the right mental skills to help let them come out.”

--Dr. Bobby Low

“We know that there's lots of things that come into our minds as performers or as athletes that interfere with our performance-- that block our performance-- that inhibit our performance... My job is to help unblock all those things and teach individuals the correct thinking patterns. So they can unlock their performance and perform their best.”

Dr. Bobby Low, an accomplished mental strength coach at BYU with a rich background in sport and performance psychology, joins us for a 2 part episode where we come to understand how mental strength opens the door for optimal performance in any endeavor.

He shares how comprehensive mental strength can be built. How words and language impact our brain and body’s ability to perform. We discuss the science behind how motivation and momentum are achieved. How to best handle the challenges of tough teammates and leaders (coaches, teachers, mentors, instructors, etc.) We learn about the important shift from arrogance to confidence and why there is a difference.

And most of all we learn how to best help our own children find joy in the process whilst also unlocking their full potential.

This is one of our favorite episodes yet! Don't miss this one.

*Go check out Dr. Low's new app called: ⁠⁠⁠

⁠MOTYV8⁠⁠.

MOTYV8 is an incredible instrument for building comprehensive mental health intended for kids, parents, and coaches.

Show Notes:

PART 1:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:28 Dr. Bobby Low's Background and Achievements

01:38 Role of Mental Strength in Performance

03:49 Comprehensive Mental Strength Training

05:03 Importance of Mental Skills in Sports

08:11 Practical Applications of Mental Training

09:25 Parental Influence on Children's Mental Strength

12:05 Coaching and Mental Resilience

14:16 Neuroscience of Positive Self-Talk

17:45 Building Mental Strength in Athletes

25:02 Handling Pressure and Resilience

36:13 Present Moment Thinking

36:43 Building Self-Confidence in Team Sports

PART 2:

38:30 Balancing Selfishness and Selflessness

40:46 The Power of Momentum in Sports

41:30 Understanding Flow and Energy in Performance

46:56 Confidence vs. Arrogance

50:53 Parental Influence on Children's Performative Experience

56:37 Intrinsic Motivation and the Value of Effort

01:02:47 Introducing the MOTYV8 App

01:10:20 Final Thoughts on Mental Strength and Health

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“The pain was necessary in order to know the truth. But we don’t have to keep the pain alive in order to keep the truth alive.”
- Mark Nepo

Rachel Guenther teaches us all about Big T and Little T traumatic events as she compares “trauma” to a trash compactor—

Like we’ve pressed the button and shoved down all the garbage inside our bodies to create space to function— Eww.

But that at some point, our bodies (and souls) are going to need to clear out the unnecessary load we are hauling everywhere with us.

Dr. Skinner also adds how trauma changes how safe, or unsafe, we feel in our world. That when we are still in trauma, it’s harder for us to show up in relationships as a parent and as partner.

And how working through trauma is a gift we not only give to ourselves, but also to all the people around us...especially those most dear.

We also learn about the safe, advanced therapeutic processes used to release trauma from the body, such as EMDR and ART. And how these processes work to release the pain from the events stored inside our bodies.

Overall, the key takeaway is that after experiencing some of life’s most harrowing and unfair events, finding safety, trust and healing is very achievable with the right support and resources.

Please join us!

You & us—
We got this,

Carly Red and Dr. Skinner

00:58 Rachel's Journey into Trauma Work
03:48 Defining Trauma
05:26 Impact of Trauma on Self-Perception
06:33 Childhood Experiences and Trauma
09:34 Relational Aspects of Trauma
14:19 Individual Responses to Trauma
19:39 Importance of Perceived Social Support
22:23 Understanding Trauma and Its Symptoms
24:11 Identifying Trauma in Children
26:17 Approaches to Discussing Trauma with Children
29:35 Therapeutic Techniques like ART and EMDR
31:28 The Role of the Body in Trauma Healing
36:06 Trauma and Addiction
43:33 Advancements in Trauma Therapy
47:16 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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“I think the biggest difference between how kids were back when I was younger and how they are now, manifests itself at a High School dance...

I worry that there is a fear of intimacy, and I'm not talking about sexual intimacy.”

What keeps a High School principal up at night? Find out with Principal Peter Glahn-- as he shares the evolution of adolescent resilience, the culture of unity formed from school programs and extracurriculars, the power of relationship and the irreplaceable practice of peer interaction.
 
From slow dances to smartphones, learn what life might just be like for the teens in your life... after all, principals and teachers could potentially see more and know more-- being with our kids all day in, day out. 
 
Tune in for this one, on this week of Finding Noble!

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
01:13 Principal Glahn's Journey to Education
02:35 Challenges and Rewards of Being a Principal
07:17 Impact of Extracurricular Activities
09:14 Social Dynamics and Technology
13:52 COVID-19's Impact on Students
19:03 Addressing Bullying in Schools
21:46 Addressing Criticism and Respect
22:04 Parental Reactions and Curiosity
22:48 Mob Mentality and Peer Influence
24:04 Handling Bullying: School and Home Approaches
25:55 Motivating Bullies to Shift to Positive Influencers
26:56 Teenagers and Human Connection
33:02 Parenting Teenagers: Balancing Authority and Relationship
39:35 Concluding Thoughts and Future Conversations

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“Our experience with how the world views us, might shape how we view the world.”

In this episode, we discuss how bullying and social stress can shape our children’s longterm view of themselves & the world, and also shape their future personal relationships.

Whether our child is the bullied or the bully, we loved hearing our experts emphasize the critical moments where our children interpret to us their experiences.

“So, the interpretation of it may be the most important thing. Because the moment they start interpreting it, they are actually doing what I call their own version of therapy.”

— Dr. Kevin Skinner

Rather than internalizing wrong beliefs our children, or even we, pick up during these socially stressful years— we learn how confirming & reaffirming our family’s personal value systems can change how we all actually want to see the world, and also how the world might actually just see us.

Our societies are only as healthy as our relationships. And it starts at home. We can practice and eventually become, what Dr. Skinner calls: Promoters of Healthy Relationships.

Join us now on Finding Noble!

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“I'm only echoing what we've all heard, but this is the loneliest generation...”

--Dr. Jeff Wilks

This week's episode features Professor Dr. Jeff Wilks: an associate dean at BYU Marriott School of Business,

And Andrea Rowley: parent coaching expert and chief clinical coaching officer at Noble Health. (https://noble.health/)

Together, they help us understand and respond to the college student mental health crisis.

We learn of the increasing rates of depression, anxiety, unrelenting performance pressure and the epidemic of loneliness-- as part of the college students' experience and we explore the initiatives being undertaken to address them.

We also discuss how parents can prepare their children NOW for their young adult years. AND loads more. So please--

Join us this week on Finding Noble!

00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast
00:23 Meet the Guests: Dr. Jeff Wilkes and Andrea Rowley
02:21 Mental Health Crisis on College Campuses
02:45 Jeff's Insights on Student Mental Health
09:16 Andrea's Perspective on Coaching Young Adults
10:41 The Pressure of Performance and Comparison
12:59 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Goals
14:39 Reframing and Building Self-Efficacy
23:59 The Impact of Loneliness
28:46 Favorite Books and Their Impact
29:10 BYU's University 101 Course
30:09 Building Deep Relationships
33:26 Hope for the Future
35:08 Mental Health in Professional Settings
38:38 The Role of Coaches and Safe Spaces
46:27 Mindfulness and Technology
48:03 Advice for Parents
55:28 Final Thoughts and Resources

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“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”
-- John Steinbeck, East of Eden 

“Shame is always relational. Be cautious not to shame yourself because parental shame influences every interaction you're going to have with your child. It will influence how you communicate with them. It will influence the way you express love to them.

…When you give love without shame, they know they're loved. But when you parent with your shame, they will feel that there's something off and you will feel like there's something off. So if you're stuck with shame, make sure you deal with it.”
— Dr. Kevin Skinner
(From this week’s episode)

This week we deal with why we experience shame, why it hurts us, our homes, and how we can actually start to remove it from ourselves and our relationships. Please join us!

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“Children themselves are innately mindful. It takes a parent who’s preoccupied in constant activity to teach them not to be that way.”

Turns out our kids are already pretty great at practicing mindfulness— that is, until we get in the way...

Ouch.

This week, Mindfulness expert and therapist, Dallin Bruun, helps us parents re-learn to pay attention. To it all. To life. To the people around us. And even to all emotion… emotions we often label as good or bad, right or wrong.

Dallin studied under Jon Kabat-Zinn (aka. the godfather of modern mindfulness) at Umass Medical and holds a litany of other titles and credentials. He is full of so much unpretentious wisdom and real life, real human experience.

We discuss how mindfulness helps us stop being dead inside, how to stop judging and labeling emotions. And how to begin acknowledging all emotion, all our whole selves with compassion.

We all need this.

Our kids need this from us.

So please join us for our first episode of season 2— with guest expert & Mindfulness Master, Dallin Bruun.

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"I love this rule!"...said no child/teenager ever.

But this week we find out how it might actually be possible to get our kids onboard with the rules we make.

Dr. Skinner shares the secret sauce:

Relationships before rules. Care not control.

...And the importance of collaborating and connecting with our kids over the why's behind the boundaries we make as parents.

Sure this may sound like you might be adding more work to your already full plate as a parent, all this relationship building and communication-- but in this episode we learn how this front work actually eliminates future friction and stress-- And even forges bonds suffuse with so much love, safety, and care between parent and child.

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Today on Finding Noble we address the exhausting challenges of parenting in a digital age.

Technology doesn't own us! But sometimes it feels like we've lost all power.

Our goal here is to help you create collaborative guidelines as a family to ensure technology is serving rather than hindering personal development and connection in your family relationships.

We stress on how technology is profoundly effecting our kid's mental health, the importance of maintaining a positive parent-child relationship within your discussions around technology, and the necessity for educating your own kids on the impact of digital devices, social apps, etc.

Dr. Skinner also discusses the power of teaching AND modeling self-regulation.

Yikes!... This means more awareness and accountability as parents and taking intentional control over our own technology habits.

We hope this helps diminish tension around technology in your home and homes everywhere!

Thank you for all the unseen goodness you do. Keep going.

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"Get comfortable with the uncomfortable." -Devon Mills (And Johann Hari)

In this episode Carly and Dr. Skinner welcome expert Dr. Devon Mills, founder of Thrive Counseling in Atlanta. Together Dr. Skinner and Dr. Mills, both with decades of research and empirical evidence to back it, powerfully examine the harm pornography poses with our young people.

We go over the average age of first exposure, the developmental dangers, and the detrimental effects of early exposure.

We cover how the challenges of pornography have evolved with technology advancing at such an extreme pace, and the necessity for proactive and supportive parental involvement.

Dr. Devon Mills and Dr. Skinner invite parents to have the crucial, albeit admittedly uncomfortable, conversations with their children about pornography and sexuality.

We discuss what the most helpful and also the least helpful responses are when learning of a child's pornography exposure.

We also touch on the importance of not vilifying sex, the role of consistent and frequent dialogue, and understanding our own beliefs about pornography to effectively communicate them with our children.

This episode you really don't want to miss!

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Also:

Find Devon's course from Parent Guidance here:

How to Respond When Your Child Says They are Struggling with Pornography

https://parentguidance.org/courses/25585/