A very short episode - thoughts inspired by a song...

on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ETC85CgzTHM?si=IVQK0dxc12Us_4g9
on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2UHK8agSYWJUzMuQTPMCVq

We discuss why transition out of the IFB feels like living in a foreign culture, IFB social hierarchy and potential inbreeding, with background music by Poppy the guinea pig.

CD Code: MUSICEPISODE24

We finally tackle a much requested topic - Christian Music. So many rules, so little sense. So what music is ok - and why do Christians make up so many rules about it?

Recommended Resources:
Postmodern Jukebox
Our CD - discount code: MUSICEPISODE24

A number of people in the Deconstructing/Advocate community read this situation shockingly wrong. So what's really going on?

This is a very heavy and long episode, but we felt it couldn't really be any shorter without leaving out anything important.

Recommended Resource:
The War of Return
Helpful links and resources:
Buzzwords Info Sheet
Israel: A Simple Guide by Noa Tishby
Roots Metals / Debbie Lechtman
Unpacking Israeli History
Hen Mazzig
Amanda (on TikTok)
Lizzy Savetsky
Meira Cowland
Political Jew
Yoseph Haddad
Honest Reporting
The Quad (YouTube series)
Emily Schrader

We discuss the toxic IFB teachings on "purity" and how it is destructive, harmful, and not even close to the truth. Once you start really examining it, the evangelical view of sex is quite disturbing.

Resources:
Bare Marriage
She Deserves Better
Andrew Bauman

God Made All of Me
X-Spot
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures
Anatomy for Kids

5 Myths Article by Dr. Camden Morgante
On Elizabeth Eliot's terrible Courtship
Awful TGC article
The Purity Hoax by Jonathan Poletti
TGC Background FAQS on Purity Culture

Our previous episodes on courtship

We explore something we have noticed - when people recognize and reject legalism and think that they have somehow arrived at a new and better Christianity. But it isn't enough and we discuss why.

Resources:
Rebecca Davis' Blog - HeresTheJoy.com
The Unvarnished Truth Podcast
Untwisting Scriptures Books 1-4

A discussion on how financial teaching and practices in abusive churches affect the lives of those under them - for years.

Recommended Resource: Pagan Christianity

Other links:
Reporting on Franklin's Graham's behavior
More about Faith Promise
The Naked Bible Podcast on Melchizedek
Our Instagram profile

We discuss why we longer attend and institutional church, why it's good to take a break from church, and what "church" actually is (despite what we think of).

Resources:
Broken Trust by F. Remy Diederich
Pagan Christianity by Frank Viola and George Barna
Heiser on Hebrews 10:25 - Naked Bible Podcast
Bare Marriage episode on Grooming
58 to 0 by Jon Zens
Jesus Storybook Bible
Meredith Anne Miller
The Garden, the Curtain, and the Cross
24 Family Ways
Books on Trauma Triggers: 1) The Body Keeps the Score (TW), 2) The Deepest Well, 3) Trauma and Recovery
Wolfbane Books
Interview about Pastors and Burnout
Roys Report Interview about Healing from Abusive Churches

We share our thoughts and analysis of Jinger Duggar's recent book. What's good, the import context of the book, what's bad, and what's missing.

Recommended Resources:
Untwisting Scriptures, Book 1 by Rebecca Davis
Untwisting Scriptures, Book 3 by Rebecca Davis
Quiverfull by Kathryn Joyce

Documentation  of articles mentioned in the episode

TW: Discussion of Child Abuse, Death of a Pet, Suicidal Thoughts

We talk with Olivia about her experience growing up under an abusive, narcissistic mother while under the influence of a toxic, abusive IFB "church" cult under a very controlling and untrustworthy pastor. We also talk with her about how she escaped, the honest struggles of her journey out, and how she has become a voice and advocate for others who grew up in the same cult-like church.

Olivia's Instagram: olivia_thedoula
Olivia's Facebook: Olivia Olds

Book - Feeling Great by Burns