Finding Resilients

An exploration of Dr. Peterson's best selling book through the lens and my research on the most resilient people in the world, Resilients™.

What do you do when a stressful situation hits you out of nowhere? Said in another way: what do you do when the wolf gets through the door? I've had several conversations on this topic recently and have shared the three step process I've learned from Resilients that is more efficient and effective than any other way I know of to handle this situation. The best part? It teaches you how to make the wolf your friend and not your enemy. As always, thank you for listening.

"Follow your passion", we are told, "and everything will magically come together". Judy Hirsh bravely did just this and her's is a story about the extreme sacrifices, difficulties, and need for extreme resiliency that is required of those brave enough to take this pathway. Tough, wise, and honest, Judy shares lessons from her journey that will deeply connect with you.

Linda Biondi is a force of nature. The first time I met her she was helping a group of kids at the library where she works. She was totally “on” – a laser-like focus on the kids and clear instructions to their parents. She was leading everyone with a confidence and clarity that I’ve only see in the greatest Resilient Leaders I’ve had the pleasure of meeting. Seeing this quality of leadership in this environment immediately caught my attention. I waited until she was in between groups of kids and introduced myself.

Within 10 minutes of talking to Linda, I was begging her to be on my Finding Resilients podcast.

Linda’s story is one filled with events that break other people.

Childhood abuse.

Adults who didn’t listen or help.

Job loss.

The death of her husband.

Yet, when we talked, I felt nothing but gratitude and strength bursting forth from her. She described herself as “being surrounded by love” and as “someone who has had an absolutely wonderful life”.

In listening to this podcast, you are going to be blown away by Linda’s vulnerability, honesty, and strength. You will finish feeling stronger and more determined than ever to be good to yourself and other people. She is absolutely amazing.

Is your past going to determine your present and future? Hearing this question, most of us will answer “no”. We feel like we have the control of ourselves to change whatever isn’t working in our lives. Yet, if we are really honest with ourselves, we’ll see that much of what we do every day is based on patterns of behavior we created years ago.
We do this because changing a pattern of behavior is difficult. Anyone who has tried to lose weight, stick to an exercise program, or even switch from a PC to a Mac has felt the pain that comes from trying to change these patterns. Even though we consciously know we need to change, it feels as if our body and brain are fighting us every step of the way. It is incredibly frustrating.
So, I ask you again: is your past going to determine your present and future? The truth is, for many of us, it will.
But, it doesn’t have to…
Look around and you will see people who have made astonishing changes to improve themselves and, as a result, their lives.
What separates these people from those who get stuck in the patterns of the past?
“Inspiration, Motivation, Acceptance, Generosity, Enthusiasm, Spirituality, and Thankfulness – or IMAGEST” says my guest today, Dr. Joy Sweeney. “No matter what you I’ve been through in my life, these things have always gotten me through.”
If anyone has tested out these concepts, it’s Dr. Sweeney. From being a self-described “wildchild” who walked the road of alcohol and drug abuse, to surviving sexual assault and to today being the executive director of The Council For Drug Free Youth, Dr. Sweeney knows what it means to not let your past determine your present or your future.
Strong, honest, positive, and tough as steel, Joy has an incredible story that will leave you feeling powerful and hopeful.
It is my pleasure to have Dr. Joy Sweeney on the Finding Resilients podcast.
My biggest take-aways:
•There is always hope: no matter what you are facing, you have the power to start creating a life with more fulfillment than you could ever imagine. “Be grateful for where you are and be grateful that you have the opportunity to do something even better.”
•“It’s how you respond and react to everything – that is truly what your life becomes.” We only have so much control over what happens in our lives. However, we have much more control over how we respond and react. Instead of getting lost in processing what is happening, get moving. The more you focus on what you can control, the better you will be and the quicker you will get through difficult situations.
•Inspiration, Motivation, Acceptance, Generosity, Enthusiasm, Spirituality, and Thankfulness (IMAGEST) are Joy’s wired automatic responses to difficult situations. “None of this is easy but these are the things I concentrate on to help myself.”
oInspiration: “What inspires me and what can I do to inspire others?”
oMotivation: “What motivates me and what can I do to motivate others?”
oAcceptance: “Accepting myself, loving yourself, accepting others…it is hard to accept others, especially when they are being hurtful to you. Accept yourself first, than accept others.”
oGenerosity: “Being generous – to a fault. As long as you give of yourself lovingly, people can’t take advantage of you.”
oEnthusiasm: “Doing everything that you can to be enthusiastic about your life because it’s your life, you’re here, you woke up today it’s a new day, it’s a beautiful day and you can start today with all of the enthusiasm and love and goodness as if you were just born.”
oSpirituality: “Knowing that goodness, love, and truth, that God is all and all is good…knowing that goodness and love do prevail ultimately…the light is there, you just need to find it.”
oThankfulness: “Without thankfulness, nothing would be worth it in this world. Having the gratitude for all that you’ve had, all that you are, and everything that has occurred up to...

Survivor. First responder. Hero. Guide.

James Williams' story will grab your attention and will inspire you to recognize and embrace your own strength. From surviving abuse as a child to going through the ravages of PTSD resulting from 17 years of being a firefighter, James has always found a way to use what has happened in his life to make himself stronger. Today, he uses all of this knowledge to help other first responders deal with the trauma they face through his Helping Heroes Outdoors organization.

James is an absolutely wonderful guy with a powerful message. I'm honored to have him on the podcast.

As always, thank you for listening.

James' Helping Heroes Outdoors organization: https://www.facebook.com/helpingheroesoutdoorsH2O/

My website with information on The Resilient Pathway: peopledecoder.com

My website with information about my research on Resilients: chadhinklemarketingresearch.com

My email address: [email protected]

Today, I had the opportunity to interview the first Resilient I ever met, Helen Vath. She is the strongest and most resilient person I've ever interviewed, and at 93, has wisdom that only comes from direct experience. I assure you that you will be blown away by her. Thank you for listening.

You have never heard another life story like that of Amy Modglin. I begged her to be on the podcast and I am humbled and honored to help put Amy's story, strength, and light out into your world. Take a listen, she is fantastic.

Amy's Forbes article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2017/07/11/why-resilience-is-necessary-as-a-leader/#5a740f034ad3

To contact Amy:
http://www.johncmaxwellgroup.com/amymodglin/
www.modglinleadershipsolutions.com
https://www.facebook.com/ModglinLeadershipSolutions/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/amymodglin1/
https://twitter.com/ModglinLeader
https://www.instagram.com/modglinleadershipsolutions/

To contact me: [email protected]

My website with information on Resilients like Amy: chadhinklemarketingresearch.com

Disaster preparedness and resiliency expert Kenneth Bibbins joins me on this episode of Finding Resilients. Kenneth is an absolutely amazing guy whose breadth and depth of experience in dealing with trauma and building resiliency can help anyone. This episode is both entertaining and educational. I hope you enjoy it.

To learn more about Kenneth and his business, PrepBiz, which focuses on helping prepare children for disasters and help them build resilience, go here: prepbiz.us

To learn more about my work with Resilients, go here: chadhinklemarketingresearch.com

To email me: [email protected]

In this episode, I interview Dr. Richard Citrin. Not only is Richard a Resilient, he is also a fellow resilience researcher. In this episode, we talk about how Richard has learned how to use the skills and tools of Resilients from firsthand experience and what you can do to use these same skills to create more resilience in your life.

To learn more about Dr. Richard Citrin, you can go to his website here: http://www.citrinconsulting.com/

To read Richard's book (I highly recommend it), you can purchase it from Amazon, here: http://amzn.to/2xsK5jU