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- The Ultimate Guide To Dating In 2026 - #054
Today's episode is the ultimate deep dive into the world of dating in 2026. We talk about the problems with modern dating, how to be more comfortable socially, how to talk to strangers, how to meet women, how to get a girl's number, how to plan first, second, and third dates and how to ask her to be your girlfriend.
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39 min - the fear of being average - #053
In this episode I'm talking about the fear of being average, and why wanting a normal life with a regular job, a few friends, and some hobbies that don't make money has somehow become embarrassing. I break down the two types of guys this pressure creates: the grindset guy filming every second of his hustle, and the checked-out basement guy who's decided the whole game is rigged. They look like opposites, but I explain why they're both running from the same thing, and why neither one can accept being ordinary.
I get into why the internet keeps pushing us toward these extremes, how it plays out in dating, the "normie" insult, main character energy, and how Maslow's hierarchy fits into all of it. The main point is that a lot of the people telling you normal is a failure are the ones selling you the exit, and your dissatisfaction is what makes them money. I close with one small thing you can try this week to notice where that "not enough" feeling is actually coming from.
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21 min - open your eyes, the world is beautiful - #052
In today's episode, I talk about how easy it is to fall into a doomer trap, how to have hope in a hopeless society, the beauty and humanity of the world around you, and how everything will be okay if you slow down and pay attention to what's happening in your life.
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14 min - why you feel empty, bored, and unfulfilled - #051
In today's episode, I talk about why you feel empty, bored, and unfulfilled through the lens of Alan Watts and his discussions on the different models of the universe. This video dives into Alan Watts' ceramic, fully automatic, and dramatic models of the universe, how to find meaning in the world, and much more!
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24 min - 1 hour of dating advice that changed my life (compilation)
In today's episode, I go through 1+ hour of dating advice, from dealing with rejection to addressing the problems with the modern dating scene. This is a compilation of previous uploads that are focused on dating and dating advice.
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1 hr 18 min - slowing down will change your life - #050
In today's episode, I talk about the burnout and frustration that so many of us feel when caught in the relentless cycle of modern adult life and the corporate grind. I explore how our society indoctrinates us to constantly live for the future: climbing the ladder, increasing our spending, and hyper-optimizing our day, which robs us of the simple joys we used to effortlessly experience as kids.
Instead of constantly stressing over how far we have left to go, I share a few practical ways to actually slow down and enjoy the present moment. From ditching the need to be hyper-productive and taking intentional time just to sit and think, to learning a lesson in mindfulness from our dogs and reconnecting with nature, this is a reminder that we should be working to live, not living to work.
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14 min - why you don't feel like an adult - #049
If you are above the age of 18 and still don't feel like an adult, there's a good reason for that. In today's episode, I talk about the rite of passage that comes with adulthood, the increase in responsibilities, and how to grow up properly and take control of your life.
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16 min - the spectacle of modern dating - #048
In today's episode, I talk about the spectacle of modern dating: how dating apps have destroyed people's brains, the commodification of romance, the social media spectacle and how to take charge of your dating life in 2026.
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18 min - stop letting the world steal your spirit - #047
The world is designed to steal your spirit and push you down. How can you prevent the world from stealing your spirit? In today's episode, I talk about asking questions, playing, and having hope for a better future.
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16 min - the art of a perfect summer - #046
In today's episode, I talk about why the modern obsession with treating summer as a 90-day productivity bootcamp is completely ruining the most magical time of the year. It's so easy to fall into the trap of using the summer months strictly to optimize your future by endlessly grinding on a business or side hustle, but those aren't the summers you'll look back on fondly. Instead, I outline the formula for a renaissance summer and finding the perfect middle ground between rotting away on the couch and burning out from overwork. By picking just one specific, daily challenge to anchor your routine and spending the rest of your day deliberately saying "yes" to spontaneous, offline experiences with friends, you can actually build a lasting foundation for a happier, well-rounded life.
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About Finding Solace
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Finding Solace is a show that connects people to the real world around them through actionable insights for everyday people. No fluff, no signaling, just talking. From dating, to clean eating,…
masculinity, and finance, I cover the things that every 18-34 year old guy needs to know.