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The lost wisdom of yesteryear would tell us that we make choices about who we consider our enemies, and when we choose people to be our enemies, we should be careful because the chances are good we will become like them. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how wisdom of the past will show that families are the places where children can learn the skills to unify, cooperate, and more likely choose people to be friends rather than enemies. We are in great need of this lost wisdom to help us find unity and mutual support during our modern times.

In contrast to no discipline at all or discipline that is highly reactive and somewhat negative, there is a third option: positive discipline, which includes parenting practices that promote growth instead of just limiting bad behavior. In this interview, Dr. Scoresby explains how this approach differs from traditional child discipline and begins a discussion on what parents can do about it now.

When children’s brains grow rapidly, they become more sensitive to the stimulation and learning that may present itself. These sensitive periods are called windows of learning because they offer parents windows of time where they can actually influence the structure of their children’s brains. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby explains the times of life when children are likely to learn more quickly about numbers, emotions, and language.

In our current busy world, it is entirely possible for parents to fail to learn about their children. So when other people contact parents to inform them of what is going on, quite often parents have little clue. Research has demonstrated this fact when it comes to children becoming involved with addictive substances and pornography. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about the importance of learning children’s innate needs as a beginning way to remind yourself what children need to thrive and succeed.

In a time when there is great confusion, there is more opportunity for children to learn things about themselves that are untrue. These false beliefs can have very harmful effects on children, including influencing them to do self-destructive things or miss out on opportunities they are qualified for but do not see. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby will explain what identity means and how it forms so you can ensure your children know themselves well.

We’re excited to announce a new series coming soon on Do What Matters Most—an 8-part series called The Best Way to Improve Your Marriage. Dr. Scoresby has packed each episode with tons of practical solutions so lasting improvement is possible. Watch for the first episode soon!

In this episode in the Great Leaders series, Dr. Scoresby talks about the idea that few people succeed by themselves. In the world today, we have learned that, regardless of the type of organization, the most successful leaders are those who know how to create alliances with others and energize them. When alliances are energized, they work, improve efficiency, and make people’s lives more cooperative. Learn the interpersonal tools good leaders use to make alliances work, and then learn the steps to creating a good alliance inside your organization.

Any attempt to arrive at a trustworthy conclusion of what causes things is more likely to succeed when you take into account your emotional and psychological circumstances as well as accurately assess and understand the problem. People who learn to react and cope tend to make one type of decision, and people who create and move forward make another. You will likely be more accurate when you do both.

Learning to love well, especially when someone is not very loveable, is one of the hallmark characteristics of someone who is emotionally mature. And when love is expressed to soothe and comfort someone, it increases the possibility that it will be accepted and believed. Using love to soothe and comfort makes it possible for both people to trust that love exists and is real.

The remarkable increase in the rates of depression and debilitating anxiety for girls makes us look around both for causes and solutions. As it turns out, parents can do a great deal to promote self-reliance in their daughters to prevent the likelihood of depression and anxiety. Learn what emotional self-reliance looks like and what you can do to mentor girls to be self-reliant, confident, and successful in their relationships.