Fit, Feminine, & Friendly

This episode discusses friendships in adulthood, how making friends can be difficult the older we get, and how every friendship may not, and is not meant to last, and how some friendships never should have been. How you learn and grow from each of your friendships, and how you have to sometimes let go of these relationships, no matter how hard it is. I discuss my personal experiences with friendships I have had to move on from, and what my inner circle looks like now. I also discuss how my friendships have affected my personal life, both professionally and privately.

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES ABORTION) This episode talks about the recent incident taking place with Keke Palmer and the father of her child. It discusses dating down, having children before marriage, and keeping your relationships off of the internet.

(WARNING: This episode contains VULGAR language) This episode discusses a recent situation that I personally endured with a once close friend, turned FWB. I discuss why I can no longer take part in “situationships”, or “FWB” style relationships. This is something that I know a lot of women have gone through, and may currently be going through now. I also discuss how this experience has taught me how much I have grown, but also how I need to continue working on standing firm in my boundaries, standards, and to never again lower my standards and expectations for a relationship or romantic partner.

This episode discusses the mediocrity in the black community, and how black people as a whole are taught that average is good enough. This episode will also discuss how we as black people enable lazy and unmotivated men in our culture and make excuses for the lack of progress we as a people have made. I will discuss the differences between black women and black men, why the “strong black woman” came into play, and why black women also need to do better; stop overly sexualizing ourselves, have more self respect, know our worth, pour into ourselves, work on ourselves to create value, and place ourselves in a better position to have a better life, and to ultimately find a better partner.

This episode touches on my toxic relationship with my mother, and how I muddled my way through it. I talk about what I have learned from the relationship, how it affects me as a mother how, and moving forward, what my relationship with my mother looks like today.

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS GRAPHIC LANGUE, AND TRUTHS/OPINIONS THAT MAY BE HARD TO HEAR) This episode discusses how many black women are expected to accept the struggle, and the bare minimum from their black partners, while women of other races are taught to find partners who are able to provide both financially and emotionally. I will discuss views of black men that I have encountered, and give insight on why I will never choose the “struggle-ship” relationship.

This episode discusses the mistakes we as women make in relationships, the choices we make in life in general, and what we chose to do moving forward. I will discuss my shortcomings, as well as my accountability in past relationships and my dating life, as well as talk about what I could have done differently, what I do differently now, and what I plan to do moving forward in my next relationship…

This episode talks about having narcissistic parents, how being raised by a narcissist can affect you in your mental health, mood, and personality going into adulthood. This episode also discusses how you can set boundaries with that parent, and tools that I used to avoid becoming a narcissist myself.

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES ABORTION, PTSD, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, DEATH, AND SUICIDAL THOUGHTS) This episode discusses motherhood, the choice to have or not to have children, my decision to have no more children, how hard it was to finally make the decision, how freeing this journey towards making my decision, and how this whole process has made me feel.

This episode focuses on the term “good digger”, and how it seems to be thrown around freely these days by men. What makes a woman a gold digger? Is the term being used as an excuse to stop properly courting women? Why I have been called a gold digger, and more.