Fitz in the Morning: Make Up or Break Up

Danielle from Auburn has asked for help with her boyfriend Cameron after what she says was a disastrous Thanksgiving dinner with his family. She says after dinner, in the kitchen, as they were cleaning up the Turkey, Cameron’s father actually grabbed her butt and said “I wanna get up in those giblets.” She says, yes, the Turkey was right there, but it was clear the dad was talking about HER giblets, not the Turkey’s. No one else saw this, and she says when she told Cameron later he said she was over-reacting. When Cameron comes on he says his dad is just a butt-grabber, like baseball players, and he does it to everyone in the family, it’s no big deal. But Danielle feels very clear about that the dad wanted from her, and Cameron digs himself in a hole when he says the dad has no reason to hit on Danielle because the dad’s new wife – Cameron’s stepmom – is “hot”. Is Cameron fixing to be Dad 2.0? Should Danielle work it out or tell him to get stuffed?

Holly from Everett has asked us for help with her boyfriend Craig who she says has been lying to her for two months. She found out he lost his job two months ago but hasn’t told her yet; he just continues to leave the house every day and go somewhere and pretend everything’s fine. Holly says she found out when she ran into one of his coworkers a couple weeks ago who told Holly that Craig had been fired. Holly says she has no idea where Craig goes all day or how they have been making ends meet but mostly she is just stunned that he would lie about something so big for so long. When Craig comes on he says he didn’t mean to lie, he was just embarrassed and thought if he could just get another job right away it would all be fine. But then so much time passed, it got too big for him to handle. He says he didn’t want Holly to see him as weak…but holy crap, she does and she unloads! Will these two be able to get it back together?

Faith from Marysville has asked us for help with her boyfriend Jake whose family does not include her in any holiday activities. Faith says despite being together for three years, his family still does not include her in the Christmas Gift Exchange and they don’t ask her to cook anything for their potluck Christmas Dinner meal. And she says they are very rude and awkward around her as if she is a one-night stand he just dragged home. She wants Jake to stand up for her to his family and let them know she is here to stay and they should treat her like family. When Jake comes on he says his parents are just really traditional, the Gift Matrix is pretty solid, and they don’t want to bother her with trying to make the kinds of foods they like. He does sort of admit that until they get engaged they probably won’t count her in, but the P1’s (and we) seem to think it may go a lot deeper than that.

Claire from Tacoma says her boyfriend AJ is freaking out over a butt-dial call from her ex-boyfriend. She says it was totally just an accident, the Ex left a message saying so, and she thought it was funny and actually showed it to AJ not realizing he would totally obsess over it. Now AJ brings the Ex up all the time and is suspicious of all Claire’s plans and calls, asking her a lot more questions about where she’s going and what she’s doing. When Fitz says sometimes guys just want to “check in” and AJ is right to be nervous, Claire insists she loves AJ and has no interest in the Ex but admits AJ is being a total jerk and she’s not happy with him at the moment. When AJ comes on he says he’s not insecure, he just knows how guys think and thinks the Ex was totally testing the waters and Fitz agrees. But then he spends the rest of his time quizzing Claire on the identities of all the other people in her phone; turns out AJ’s got a little baggage.

Kate from Federal Way has asked for help with her boyfriend Josh who she says is turning their yard into a trashy junk yard. Josh has been buying cars with the intention of fixing them up and selling them, but Kate says he lacks the skills to do it, as well as the money needed to fix them up. At first Kate was supportive of Josh having this hobby and his vision of investment but now all he does is buy junky cars and leave them and their parts lying around and now the yard and garage make them look like, in her words, the “white trash house of the neighborhood” and she’s embarrassed to even have people over. Plus Kate is really stressed-out about how much money he is spending on all this. When Josh comes on he says this is an investment and she needs to be patient and in fact this is his plan for the future and how to send their kids through college. When he lists the cars he has, even Drew is impressed but Drew cautions Josh that if he doesn’t start working on them soon they will lose value. Josh says Kate needs to have more faith in him, but Kate says Josh needs to face reality. Can the P1’s help them? Can they work this out? And will Drew buy a few of these cars off Josh?

Ed from North Bend has asked us for help with his girlfriend Kelly who he says is out of control with spending for Christmas. He says ever since Prime Day, packages have been constantly arriving at their home and he is worried about whether they can pay their bills, especially with so much uncertainty right now. When Kelly comes on she says it’s been a crap year so she is going the extra mile to buy a little happiness for their family and friends. She says she’s getting great deals and also has a very specific plan for what she is getting for whom, as well as a plan for how to pay for it all. But when Ed says that now more than ever they need to be watching their spending, Kelly brings up HIS late-night online spending “habit” after she goes to bed, which she says is way “More Holly than Jolly”…

Tony from Lacey has asked us for help with his fiancée Whitney who he says sold her engagement ring to pay some bills. He says he can’t believe she would just casually sell off something so important that he saved so long to get for her. When we ask him to clarify if she sold it or pawned it he doesn’t seem to know the difference but also says it doesn’t matter – she should have talked to him first. When Whitney comes on she says she did try to talk to him but he refuses to ever have hard conversations around money. She says money is incredibly tight and she pawned the ring to literally pay the rent, and she says she will absolutely get it back. Also she points out they have never actually set a date for the wedding even though they got engaged long before the pandemic and she might be more concerned about needing to wear the ring if the wedding was looming. But Whitney is mostly frustrated that Tony wouldn’t talk to her but called a radio station about it. The P1’s think these two can work it out. Well, except this one guy who’s a little obsessed with butt implants.

Erin from Kent has asked us for help with her boyfriend Keith who she says wants her to cook a massive Thanksgiving Dinner for about 20 of their friends when she would rather go see her family. She says she hasn’t seen her family in Portland since Covid started and it’s important to her to spend time with them. Plus, she says his friends have not been particularly responsible; in fact she calls them “a bunch of Covid-infested monsters” who have been out partying a lot and she doesn’t want them crammed into their home. When Keith comes on he says he says his friends are not unsafe – only two of them got Covid and that was a long time ago – and he thinks it’s important to be there for people who can’t go see their families. He admits she’s the cook and yes maybe he “volunteered” her without telling her, but he’d just assumed she wouldn’t go to her parents because that would be too dangerous for them. The P1’s are pretty divided over whether they should Make Up or Break Up but everyone agrees Keith could benefit from better communication skills and a little Door Dash.

Marcus in Edmonds is upset that his girlfriend Kaylie is making extra money by selling her socks online. He thinks it’s dangerous and creepy and also seems concerned it will escalate into other activities like an “Only Fans” page or showing more identifiable body parts. When Kaylie comes on she says it’s really an amazing amount money, socks are less creepy than underwear, and it’s completely safe and anonymous. When Marcus asks what happens when someone offers a gazillion dollars for more, she says he needs to trust her that it’s only socks and nothing more and the socks alone are plenty good money to need any more. And she points out she’s been making his car payments for several months and can’t believe this is the first time he’s asked where the money is coming from; if she quits now, what happens to his car? Several P1’s call and text to help this couple out, although most of the women seem to want to know how to get in on this great gig!

Renee from Renton has been getting excited to go Trick-or-Treating with her son this week, but as the day gets closer, her fiancée Jonathan is getting nervous about it, afraid they are all going to catch COVID. Renee says she is taking a lot of precautions, and they will limit the number places they go, but it’s been such a tough year for the kids she wants them to have just one really special day. When Jonathan comes on, he says there are too many unknowns about how other people are taking precautions and he doesn’t understand why they can’t just make some fun inside the house. In the end though, he says he’s not gonna stop her, but if she goes out, he is going to self-quarantine at a hotel for two weeks. The P1’s wanna know: Where’s the Trust?