Parenting is an opportunity to change behaviors and attitudes that hinder healthy relationships with your child and it starts with the feelings you’ve been avoiding. Feelings are meant to be felt and all too often we desperately try to avoid them at all costs because of the pain they invoke. It's time to expose those fake feelings for the real ones!

“I wish I knew then what I know now, because I thought I knew”.  Are you measuring your effectiveness as a parent by your external successes? You know, it’s how accomplished your family is, how your family is presenting using external values like appearances, economic status? The problem is we often neglect learning how to lay down the foundation of strength that begins internally and the external will follow. 

Just as there are millions of people in this world, there are millions of expectations and perceptions of how a parent is to play out their role in the family. For many, striving to be the “perfect parent” looks different in every family, but is “perfection” going to bring the joy of loving relationship every family member needs? I think NOT! Perfecting Parenting makes for a teachable parent, one who is willing to learn!!!

Often times we parents "believe" our children can’t see or notice how our actions behind closed doors are different than how we present to the public.Wow nothing could be further from the truth! They "see" the inconsistencies whether you know it or not.

Being honest with our self evaluation is the beginning of living as a parent of "integrity".  Your actions and words tell a story about you to your family.  Don’t let fear hold you back because, God’s Love will encourage you forward.

It’s time to get out of the “comfortable destructive zone”. Taking an honest look at relationships that are chaotic, and crisis centered is the first step for making changes that will bring peace and joy in your family relationships and it is possible!!! Change is not easy, it's necessary to have the family you've always wanted!!!

Often times we parents can focus on one aspect of parenting such as providing for a child’s physical needs: food, shelter, clothing…while unintentionally neglecting the emotional, spiritual, and mental health needs that guide a child to be a healthy functioning adult. It's never too late to refocus, if I could do it so can you!

Healthy anger is essential to keep us safe ,on the other hand, out of control anger is destructive. Parenting is not easy and can definitely trigger the worst in a parent. The truth is these maladaptive coping skills is like a mirror to our soul showing us what needs to be changed. 

How can I fail as a parent? That’s certainly a question I would guess nobody asks, but in many ways we unintentionally do. Are you disillusioned, and overwhelmed in your role as a parent? Do you feel like a failure? No worries, God created the roles of parents and he has the plan for you to be an effective parent your children need. Learn from me, my failures your success!!!

There’s no such thing as the Perfect Parent but, and here’s THE ‘BUT’ we can be the “Perfecting Parent” on a journey of discovering and gathering information to practice skills we can develop, modify and adjust to be the parent God has called us to be thus receiving the joys and satisfactions of being the parent you are called to be. “Raising Mother’s” Empowerment/Transformation Coach www.ashleykahn.co

Resources:

Raising Mother By Ashley Kahn Podcast

freeasabird.libsyn.com

“Raising Mother’s” Empowerment/Transformation Coach Ashley Kahn www.ashleykahn.co

Dream Blankets

https://frankie-dean.com/

Often times we believe our job as a parent is to “fix” what’s wrong or broken as we see our children acting out in behaviors that make us uncomfortable and uneasy. This perspective can be a source of stress, anxiety and depression. But what if there was another perspective on the ‘duties’ of a parent that can guarantee more peace, love and patience. This episode we will dive into a parent’s ‘fixing’ trigger and learn to refocus our attention internally rather than externally.

Resources:

Raising Mother By Ashley Kahn Podcast

freeasabird.libsyn.com

“Raising Mother’s” Empowerment/Transformation Coach Ashley Kahn www.ashleykahn.co

Dream Blankets

https://frankie-dean.com/

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