Flawed & Favored

Are there any people in your life where every encounter with them leaves you emotionally exhausted. The backhanded compliments, constantly playing the victim, the confusion creator, the chaos craver, the humble hater…these people seem so sweet on the outside, but on the inside they’re arrogant, manipulative and maybe even narcisstic …where only the people closest to them begin to see the real person underneath and feel the destruction they manufacture. Well, today to kick off this series on Creating Healthy minds…since it IS Mental Health Awareness Month….we’re talking with Licensed Counselor Angie Hernandez-Harris  about TOXIC people…what the traits are, how we need to listen to that internal alarm that says danger when we’re around certain people, and how to respond. She also provides so many great resources in this episode.

CONTACT INFO:
Angie Hernandez Counseling, LLC
Email: [email protected]
PH: 208-863-6037

RESOURCES: 

Toxic People: 10 Ways of Dealing With People Who Make Your Life Miserable by Dr. Lillian Glass 

The Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Dealing with Toxic People: How to Reclaim Your Power from Narcissists and Other Manipulators by Shahida Arabi

Power & Abuse Cycle http://www.ncdsv.org/images/PowerControlwheelNOSHADING.pdf

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Gottman Institute https://www.gottman.com/

The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Dr. Nadine Burke Harris

Unf#ck Your Boundaries: Build Better Relationships Through Consent, Communication, and Expressing Your Needs by Faith Harper, PhD

The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker

Cassie shares how she was able to get through hard things and grow in beautiful ways. Cassie works with leaders that minister to teens and encourage them in pursuing and growing in their faith. She is a wife, mom, leader, airbnb superhost, and fan of laying in her hammock!

First, we are celebrating surpassing our 1000th download! Yay! Thank you to all of you who have tuned in and listened. We hope you've been encouraged by the stories of our amazing guests. Also, thank you to our guests for sharing your stories and being an inspiration for others!

Next, since we're just finishing up our Beauty Out of Ashes series, we share some of our own beauty out of ashes moments and how we worked through some tough moments.

Last, we share what's coming up on the podcast. May is National Mental Health Awareness Month...so we will be interviewing guests on mental health issues ranging from identifying toxic behaviors and mom rage to just how to create and maintain a healthy mind.

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Niki was diagnosed with a brain tumor and had to undergo surgery with very little preparation. It was a whirlwind of surgeons, decisions, and little preparations before she had to be admitted for surgery leaving her husband at the elevator not to be by her side until she was fully released from the hospital. She shares in that time how she never felt alone thanks to her faith and trust in Jesus Christ.

Have you ever felt unworthy…or trapped by an addiction, not knowing who you are or how valuable you are?  Well, in this episode we chat with Stacia Morfin about how she lived with those thoughts and how she turned her life around… and in the most unlikely place…PRISON. It was during that time where she grew closer to God and restored the cultural identity she had been missing for so long.

Stay connected with Stacia & her business Nez Perce Tourism, LLC. (She also has a gift shop where you can order beautiful handcrafted items made by tribal artists). You can also find her FB and IG info on her business site as well. Just click here: https://nezpercetraditions.com/

A few of the resources mentioned in this episode are:

Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts by Jennie Allen
Armor of God by Priscilla Shirer

Priscilla shares how God carried her through the hardest period of her life as her husband left. She encourages other women who are facing something similar of the value that God sees in them and how He repeatedly showed examples of how He values women through the Bible. 

She encourages others that God can help them get through hard things as well and be able to pour into other people as well. Priscilla has done this through a ministry to women moving from point "A to B" and she's made a deep impact on other families through her surrogacy journey as well. She has a beautiful story to share and she's a lovely person inside and out!

 Special guest and dear friend Nikki Hoover talks about pursuing God’s heart for racial reconciliation through Latasha Morrison’s Be the Bridge organization. 

The Be The Bridge way of bridge-building focuses on justice and reconciliation turning up the voices of the marginalized and requiring that others listen, educate themselves on history, and grow their empathy muscles.
 
Website:
Be the Bridge

Books:
Be the Bridge Book
The Color of Compromise: The Truth about the American Church’s Complicity in Racism
How to Fight Racism: Courageous Christianity and the Journey Toward Racial Justice
I'm Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness
Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption

Other Recommended Podcasts:
Be the Bridge
Black History for White People
Code Switch

Reverend Danelle Crawford McKinney addresses how she was raised to choose between reformed tradition (Christianity) and her cultural background as an Indigenous woman.  In raising her own family, she's learned that she doesn't HAVE to make that choice. She embraces and finds strength in both.
 
The Dakota Odowan: Hymns in the Dakota Sioux Language
Doctrine of Discovery
Be the Bridge: Pursuing God's Heart for Racial Reconciliation

We so often don't realize the beauty God planned in creating all the different cultures that He did. Dr. Paul Smith shares about serving churches in various cultures and the beauty of praying together, eating together, and doing life together. He also shares about leading a church through a global pandemic and all that happened in 2020. In pure Dr. Smith style, there were moments of distraction as well!

First Alliance Church of Lexington, Kentucky

First Alliance Church-Lexington, KY podcast

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Bijeon shares about the Korean Church and the heart for worship among Korean believers.  He talks about pastoring through the COVID pandemic and serving the Korean Church in new and dynamic ways through a challenging time.