Final Maddie update.

 

Universe will give you reminders of how challenging something is to keep you from choosing it again or romanticizing it. 

 

Problems with identity and whether you can identify as something when you no longer do it professionally.

 

Shame based narrative of feeling inadequate.

 

Not meeting your own expectations or living up to your potential. Wanting to be seen, but feeling small and playing it safe. 

 

Questioning your own thought processes. Why do you think what you think? Poking the overthinking bear to get to the root. 

 

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Somatics as an integration of what you’re experiencing and how it presents in the body. 

 

Weird movements and positions we do with our body as we experience or try to process emotions. 

 

Sometimes our body is yelling at us like an alarm saying, “Do you understand what is going on and how you are feeling right now?!” 

 

Normalizing doing somatic practices in front of other people. Let the weird live!

 

Camaraderie in numbers. By moving yourself you create a safe space for others to also move their body. 

 

Craving a sense of community with like-minded people who are all into the same hobby/interest/activity. 

 

Wanting to be part of a community, but not be asked to lead that community. Just want to be a student of life. 

The Maddie Saga. It’s not good now, but it’s going to be good later.  

 

How do you follow your moral compass when you are in a seemingly impossible situation where no option is a good option?

 

People and animals need help and there are not enough resources operating effectively enough to help them.

 

Trying to help stray animals is similar to trying to help children within various social systems. 

 

Is the system broken? Or is it operating exactly as it was intended to? 

 

Doing your research before adopting an animal: background info on the animal itself, on the rescue it’s coming from, budgeting for the adoption and future costs. 

 

Your earth suit might see all data pointing to demise, but your soul suit knows better. When all seems losts, try to trust it’s going to work out. 

Maddie Update (Stray dog Alex is taking care of!) 

 

When it comes to what our bodies need in order to function is it nature or nurture? 

 

Sleep deprivation and how to handle the emotions that arise because of it. 

 

When you’re not in a position to experience the emotions coming up in the moment, how do you acknowledge and move through it? 

 

Utilizing your five senses to redirect your brain and calm yourself enough to move onto the next moment. 

 

Thoughts on Bridgerton: You can be an elegant lady and still like sex. 

 

Sex Positive Resources:

The Principles of Pleasure series on Netflix.

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

Clit Talk Podcast

 

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Lunar Eclipse in Scorpio near the South Node. Basically experiencing a bunch of f*ckery. Could be catharsis or a mental break. 

 

Lunar Eclipse brought AJ some intense oversharing moments.

 

Lunar Eclipse brought Alex a stray puppy. 

 

PSA - when you buy a puppy from a pet store, you are supporting puppy mills and dog breeders who grossly mistreat and abuse animals.

 

Dogs with separation anxiety.

 

Social media break because it was becoming an addiction for Alex.

 

A lot of people are using social media for good: philanthropy, art, meaningful connection.

 

Yes, there’s an algorithm feeding you content, but there is also a certain degree of choice when it comes to social media that you can use to curate your experience. 

Our first guest of Season 3! 

 

Kristin Collier has 20 years of experience working in the behavior science field and teaching nonviolent communication. Her book Housewife got international attention and won four awards including a Nautilus (silver), awarded in the past to Barbara Kingsolver, Thich Nhat Hanh, and the Dalai Lama. She teaches a new course called Core Alignment with Joy that AJ has already taken and gives a million star rating!

 

Kristin experienced an awakening and healing three years ago that presented in the form of a crisis where her body completely gave out on her. She saw various healing practitioners and health professionals who diagnosed her with a variety of ailments, but ultimately she was able to find help through the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza and Dr. John Sarno. The things she learned helped her to heal herself and she now pairs those wholeness and health practices with nonviolent communication techniques in order to help others learn to reframe thought patterns and make empowered choices in order to feel better and find joy in their day to day lives. 

 

Other things we discuss in this episode:

 

Learning how to allow your body to experience uncomfortable emotions without adding our own narratives to it.

 

When it comes to intersectionality, how do we hold space for lived experiences and acknowledge the differences? Additionally, what are we actually doing with that individually and as a community or collective? 

 

Activities of daily living as a way to practice observing your thought patterns and feelings. We use Alex as a case study! 

 

Find Kristin’s Core Alignment with Joy course here. 

 

Learn more about Kristin here: CollierConnections.com 

 

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We took a few weeks off due to unforeseen circumstances. We got too close to the veil. . . spiritual veil and zoom veil. 

 

Light box. Helps with seasonal affective disorder, depression, anxiety.

 

Do you wear sunscreen on your face on a daily basis?  

 

Concerned about skin cancer? Or aging of the skin and face? Bit of both? 

 

Starting to notice the aging process in our 30’s. 

 

Skincare from the perspective of prevention. 

 

What tools are we using to care for our faces as they age?

 

Gua Sha. Facial cupping. Clarisonic. Nuface. 

 

Adult acne and wrinkles simultaneously. Great. 

 

What is up with Causebox? Yikes. 

 

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The Gilded Age vs. Bridgerton vs. Downton Abbey

 

Personality tests: DiSC Type, Chronotype, and Enneagram

 

Are workplace personality assessments invasive or helpful? 

 

Can personality tests be a tangible way to promote conscious communication about our strengths and weaknesses? 

 

What are we projecting with who we are or who we think we should be when we take these tests? How does that skew the results?

 

Personality tests can be helpful in feeling validated or normalized, but it may also create a self fulfilling prophecy.

 

Do personality tests account for how we are able to evolve as people throughout our life?

 

Whatever anyone is into and wants to believe in order to help you evolve and think about yourself in new ways is valid. 

 

Resources:

 

DiSC Type Personality Test: https://www.crystalknows.com/disc-personality-test

 

Chronotype Test: https://thepowerofwhenquiz.com/

 

The Power of Now by Michael Breus, PhD

 

Enneagram Test: https://www.crystalknows.com/enneagram-test

 

Alternative Enneagram Test: https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

 

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Does your hair mean enough to you to want to spend money on it? 

 

Are people spending money they don’t have on their aesthetic and appearance? 

 

Are we trying to meet others' expectations of what our hair should look like? 

 

If external expectations or standards were removed what would we choose for ourselves? 

 

How do we figure out what we are doing and why when we are ingrained in capitalism and commercialism? 

 

How do you express your identity through your physical appearance?

 

Is how we present ourselves correlated to the state we are experiencing internally?

 

*Note - this conversation explores the multitude of responses to these questions. No one answer, just thoughts. #forthoughtssake

 

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Texting or emailing to help you get to the root of what you are intending before hitting send.

 

What response is actually true and what is just your ego being cranky?

 

People with a uterus problems. 

 

PMDD - Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder.

 

The intersection of mental illness, hormones, and behavior.

 

Period symptoms. We’re getting graphic folx.

 

The learning curve is unbelievable for our own physiology, especially in under researched communities. 

 

Being curious and talking to others about their experiences helps you level set your own experiences and find connection and community. 

 

Resources:

The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Moody Bitches by Julie Holland

Clue Period and Ovulation Tracker App. helloclue.com

Moody App. moodymonth.com

@drjolenebrighton

@berrionlberry

@mareawellness

 

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