Forgive Yourself

Mother guilt is something so many women carry, but rarely say out loud. In this episode, I talk about the kind of guilt that shows up in everyday moments. The guilt of not being present enough, patient enough, or doing enough. The guilt that lingers from the past and the pressure we place on ourselves in the present.

But this conversation is not about judging yourself or trying to “just let it go.” It’s about understanding where that guilt comes from, separating it from shame, and beginning to meet yourself with more compassion.

What You’ll Learn

• The difference between guilt and shame and why it matters for healing
• Why mother guilt feels so personal and tied to your sense of self
• How to identify what you actually feel guilty about without turning it into your identity
• What healthy repair looks like and when it is or isn’t possible
• How to stop punishing yourself and begin moving forward with more honesty and care

Resources:

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Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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There are losses we talk about, and then there are the ones we carry quietly. In this episode, I sit down with pregnancy loss coach Shruti Trivedi to talk about a kind of grief that so often goes unspoken. Pregnancy loss is something many experience, but few feel safe enough to fully process. What gets left behind is not just sadness, but guilt, shame, and the constant loop of “what if.”

Shruti shares her own story of multiple losses and what it looked like to carry that grief silently for years. We talk about the emotional weight women hold, the pressure to move on, and the moment everything shifted when she finally allowed herself to be supported.

This is a conversation about learning how to stop blaming yourself for things you were never meant to carry and finding a way to move forward without leaving your loss behind.

What You’ll Learn

• Why pregnancy loss often leads to intense guilt and self-blame
• How “what if” thoughts keep women stuck in cycles of pain
• How silence can be more healing than saying the “right” thing
• Why avoiding grief can resurface years later in unexpected ways
• How to honor your loss while still moving forward with your life

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Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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Giving comes naturally. Receiving does not.

In this episode, I’m diving into why receiving can feel so uncomfortable, especially for high-achieving, high-functioning women who are used to being the ones who give, support, and hold everything together.

This isn’t just about brushing off compliments. It shows up in your relationships, your work, your business, and even your ability to receive success, opportunities, and financial growth. Receiving requires vulnerability, and if your nervous system learned that it wasn’t safe to be seen, supported, or open, then of course receiving feels unfamiliar. 

But it isn’t something you earn, it’s something you learn to allow.

What You’ll Learn

• Why receiving feels uncomfortable (and what your nervous system has to do with it)
• How overgiving can actually block success, support, and recognition
• The connection between worthiness and your ability to receive
• Small, everyday ways to practice receiving without overwhelm
• How to build a sense of safety around being seen, supported, and valued

Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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I didn’t lose myself all at once. It happened slowly, quietly, in ways I didn’t recognize until my body started speaking louder than I could ignore.

In this episode, I’m sharing something I’m not just teaching, I’m living. We’re talking about what it really looks like to lose yourself while taking care of everyone else, and how patterns like people-pleasing and codependency can feel loving on the outside, but are actually forms of self-abandonment on the inside.

I open up about my own journey through codependency, relationships, burnout, and health challenges, and how my body ultimately forced me to stop and listen. I began to understand that my body wasn’t betraying me—it was trying to get my attention.

What You’ll Learn

• What codependency really is
• How people-pleasing can turn into self-abandonment
• How your body communicates when you’re ignoring yourself
• Why burnout and chronic stress often have deeper emotional patterns underneath
• Simple ways to begin reconnecting with yourself, even in the middle of a busy life

Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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When we hear the word dementia, most of us think of loss. Decline. Goodbye. But what if that’s not the full story?

In this conversation, I sit down with Marilyn Raichle, who gently challenges everything we think we know about dementia. After being told her whole life to "walk away" when Alzheimer's came, Marilyn, Marilyn did the opposite. She stayed. And what she discovered changed everything.

What began as resistance and obligation became something deeply meaningful. Through art, presence, and an unexpected partnership with her mother, Marilyn found connection, creativity, and even joy in a place most of us fear. If you’re walking alongside someone with dementia—or holding regret about how you’ve shown up—this conversation will meet you with compassion, perspective, and hope.

What You’ll Learn

• Why shifting from “caregiver” to “care partner” changes everything
• How to connect with someone living with dementia (even when it feels hard)
• The powerful role of art, music, and shared moments in creating connection
• Why “they’re still here” is more than a phrase, it’s a mindset
• How to begin forgiving yourself for what you didn’t know before

Learn more about Marilyn, and get a copy of her book Don't Walk Away, A Care Partner's Journey, here: https://dontwalkaway.net/

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Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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So many of us have spent our lives outsourcing our authority, worth, and wisdom to expectations, roles, and other people. In this episode, we explore how to bring it back to yourself.

In this conversation, I sit down with the deeply insightful Sheila Delaney to talk about what it really means to come back home to yourself, especially after burnout, chronic stress, or years of putting everyone else first. Sheila shares her powerful story of navigating a full-body shutdown, chronic illness, and the moment that changed everything. 

She also shares the question that led her back to self-trust.

What You’ll Learn

• The three pillars of self-trust
• How high-achieving women unknowingly burn themselves out
• The connection between stress, the body, and emotional patterns
• Small, practical ways to rebuild trust with yourself (starting today)

Correction: In the episode, Sheila states that 70-80% of women are autoimmune sufferers, per Dr Gabor Matè. The accurate statistic is that 70-80% of autoimmune sufferers are women, per Dr. Gabor Matè.

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Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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One of the most complicated relationships we have is the relationship with our own body. When chronic illness, pain, injury, or unexpected physical changes show up, many of us quietly begin blaming ourselves or believing our bodies have betrayed us.

In this episode, I share how the journey through nerve-damage and chronic pain forced me to confront the harsh inner voices that judged, blamed, and tried to “fix” what felt broken. What I discovered instead was a powerful shift: healing isn’t about fighting your body, it’s about learning to work in partnership with it.

Through powerful reflections, compassionate reframes, and practical exercises, I introduce the idea of the “courtroom inside the mind,” the hidden grief that comes with physical change, and how self-forgiveness can transform the way we relate to our bodies.

What You’ll Learn

• Why chronic illness and physical changes often trigger self-blame and inner criticism
• The three invisible griefs that often accompany chronic pain or illness
• Why self-blame creates the illusion of control, and how to release it
• A simple journaling practice that helps bring compassion into the conversation with your body

Download your free Body Forgiveness Workbook here.

Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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What if the real healing begins the moment we stop fighting our bodies?

In this compassionate conversation, I sit down with Tami Stackelhouse—health coach, founder of the International Fibromyalgia Coaching Institute, and host of the Fibromyalgia Podcast—to talk about self-forgiveness in the face of chronic illness. Tami shares her personal journey with lifelong health challenges and fibromyalgia, and we explore what it really means to move from war to partnership with your body. We talk about perfectionism, lost capacity, relationship shame, asking for help, and how learning who you truly are, instead of who you think you “should” be, can become the foundation for healing.

If you’ve ever felt betrayed by your body, whispered “Why can’t you just work right?,” or carried shame about not being the mom, partner, friend, or professional you once were, this episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn

• Why self-forgiveness is essential in the chronic illness journey
• Where shame shows up most powerfully (especially for mothers and caregivers)
• How perfectionism and comparison silently fuel suffering
• The difference between trying to change your thoughts vs. changing your actions

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Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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“I thought I’d be further along by now.”

That’s a sentence I hear all the time, and if I’m honest, it’s one I’ve said to myself, too.

In this episode, I’m talking about the quiet ache so many women carry: the feeling of being behind in life. Behind in our careers. Behind in healing. Behind in love, confidence, health, or fulfillment. On the outside, we may look capable and responsible—often the ones everyone else relies on. But inside, there’s a voice whispering I should have figured this out by now.

I want to gently explore where that voice comes from. How the feeling of being behind is often grief in disguise. Grief for the life we imagined. Grief for choices we wish we’d made differently. Grief for years spent surviving instead of thriving. And I talk about how self-forgiveness isn’t about excusing or pretending, it’s about softening our relationship with the past and integrating it with compassion.

What You’ll Learn

• Why the feeling of being “behind” is often rooted in invisible timelines
• How grief can sit underneath regret and self-judgment
• The hidden cost of being “the strong one” for decades
• Why midlife can actually be a season of readiness and self-trust
• Gentle reframes to help you soften shame and reconnect with yourself
• Why safety and support matter when doing deeper forgiveness work

💜 Download your companion worksheets for this episode here.

Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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You don’t have to fix yourself first to deserve your own kindness.

So many high-achieving women I work with don’t hate themselves…but they don’t really like themselves, either. They tolerate themselves. They manage themselves. They critique themselves. And often, they live in a quiet, ongoing relationship with judgment.

Self-judgment doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it sounds reasonable. Motivating even. It can sound like: “Why am I like this?” “I should be further along by now.” “I know better than this.”

But underneath that voice is often a tired, overwhelmed part of us that simply wants understanding.

In this episode, I share where that inner critic comes from, how it once tried to protect us, and why being harder on ourselves rarely creates real change.

What You’ll Learn

• Why self-judgment is often something we learned, not something we chose
• How your inner critic may have originally developed as a survival strategy
• Why constant self-correction keeps your nervous system from ever fully resting
• The subtle ways self-judgment disguises itself as “motivation”
• What loving yourself actually looks like in everyday life
• How to begin meeting yourself with gentleness instead of punishment

💜 Download your companion worksheets for this episode here.

Resources:

Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/

Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60

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