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Mali and Andee are back together in the studio for this in-depth talk on the importance of having a well-crafted Parenting Time agreement. They cover several different scenarios and many of the pitfalls inherent in working out Parenting Time for holidays throughout the year.

They offer their advice about the best ways to approach the trickiest situations and their insights as to how judges approach certain issues.

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00:24 Intro

01:10 Warrior or Diplomat?

04:10 Holidays and Parenting Plans

04:40 Holidays as defined in school calendars

05:30 Regular Parenting Time vs. Holiday Parenting Time

07:00 Work with a Family Law attorney

09:00 When one Holiday supersedes another Holiday

10:18 How will a judge settle Holiday schedules?

11:30 Christmas Holidays

16:50 Long Weekend Holidays

18:50 Mother’s/Father’s Day and Spring/Fall Break

19:50 Birthdays

22:30 Separating emotions from the process

24:00 Accommodating family traditions

25:00 Graduated Parenting Time

28:00 A Good agreement prevents needless litigation later

29:00 Matching Parenting Plan with a new partner’s Plan

31:00 Is it worth filing for a modification after a re-marriage?

32:20 Summer Parenting Time

33:55 Take-aways

35:50 Wrap-up

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For our first new episode of 2025, Andee returns to her conversation about Narcissism with Dr. Kyrstin Lokkesmoe, PhD, LPC of Clear Life Counseling.Their conversation picks up right where they left off in their previous chat and covers ways in which a Narcissist can be managed when embarking on the Divorce process.Visit our website: https://hsfamilylaw.comFollow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hastingsshadmehry on TikTok and Instagram: @HastingsShadmehryContact us for a consultation: https://hsfamilylaw.com/contact-us/#hastingsshadmehryshow #hastingsshadmehry #andeedyerhastings #malishadmehry #family #highassetdivorce #podcast #narcissism #narcissisticabuse 00:20 Introductions01:12 Warrior or Diplomat?03:22 Gray Rocking and Yellow Rocking08:48 A professional experience dealing with being gaslit10:20 Natural tendency to get drawn in by a Narcissist12:00 How counseling can help to fend off a Narcissist13:30 Advice for people who develop the need to fight back15:45 Benefits of physical activity17:00 Clients who fear they won't be believed23:00 Recognizing patterns so behavior can be predicted24:50 Are there patterns when the Narcissist wants to leave?26:20 Do Narcissists try to punish their partners?27:05 The so-called Flying Monkeys28:30 Helping people through the process of being discarded30:20 Is the threat of being discarded something that Narcissist uses?32:00 A great therapeutic exercise to practice35:00 Narcissists find ways to isolate their partners36:10 Learning to see the patterns is key38:00 A Divorce case where the Narcissist had to be revealed to the court41:20 What is Parallel Parenting?43:30 The Value of the app Our Family Wizard47:55 Where to find Dr. Kyrstin online and how to contact48:40 Wrap-up

This week, we are presenting an ENCORE of Andee's recent conversation on Narcissism with Dr Kyrstin Lokkesmoe, PhD, LPC, because we will be bringing part two next week. 

Narcissism is term we hear a LOT in the media, and somethingthat the lawyers of Hastings Shadmehry deal with on a regular basis. Join Andeeand Dr. Kyrstin for an extremely informative discussion of this toxicpersonality disorder, and how it affects relationships and family law cases.

00:25 Introductions

01:28 Warrior or Diplomat

03:30 What is Narcissism?

06:10 Misconceptions about the Definition of Narcissism

06:40 Traits of a Narcissist

10:00 Love-Bombing

13:30 Narcissists thrive on secrecy

16:24 Narcissism in Divorce

19:19 Examples of Gaslighting

23:31 Narcissists don’t quit

26:00 Stop considering the Narcissist’s feelings

29:30 The Best Defense

34:40 Standing between the Narcissist and the Client

37:20 Isolation as a Narcissist’s Tactic

41:00 How to become empowered

42:00 Science behind the effects of Narcissism

46:00 How did I get to this?

49:00 Narcissists are after Power and Control

50:00 Narcissists are predictable and unoriginal

52:30 Do not go to Couples Counseling with a Narcissist

56:00 How to contact Clear Life Counseling

56:30 Wrap-Up

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In this ENCORE release, Andee and Mali ask each other a series of questions about running a law firm, running a small business and being entrepreneurs. This is all about the joy and sorrow of being a working professional and being a leader.

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0:25 Intro

0:55 Warrior or Diplomat?

3:48 How does Andee define success?

4:55 Our drive to be Protectors7:00 How does Mali define Success?

9:05 What makes a good Leader?

14:45 How do you deal with Fear and Doubt?

20:30 What is the hardest part of being an Entrepreneur?

23:50 What Routine do you follow each day?

28:00 Wrap up

In this ENCORE episode, Andee and Mali talk about the intricacies of Mediation, when it's necessary, how it aids in the divorce process, its pitfalls and its advantages.

00:32 Intro

00:45 Warrior or Diplomat?

04:00 A brief talk about work/life balance and handling stress

06:43 Intro to the Mediation process

07:40 Prepping the Clients for the ups and downs

09:20 Preparing for Mediation

10:10 Is Mediation required?

11:40 Mediation as a strategy

12:50 Picking a Mediator

14:10 Common question: What can I expect?

17:20 How to get information before going into Mediation

19:20 What does the Mediation process look like?

22:00 Handling unrealistic expectations

24:30 Wrap up

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In this ENCORE release, Andee is joined by Podcast Producer and Hastings Shadmehry Client Care Specialist Kendall Walker as they talk about the inherent drama surrounding High-Profile Divorce cases.Introduction of Kendall Walker, our Client Care SpecialistWarrior or DiplomatThe High Profile divorce case between Nathan Wade and Joselyn Wade, exploring the legal strategies and media impact.Andee's visit with The Lead Attorney PodcastCelebrate the growth of our community following our feature on The Lead Attorney's channel.The Role of a Client Care Specialist: Kendall shares how she champions client satisfaction and faces challenges head-on.Complexities of High-Profile Divorces: An in-depth look at the ramifications and strategies in high-profile legal battles.Interactive Q&A: Engaging with the community, providing clarity on ethical considerations, and enhancing client-lawyer interactions.Wrap-UpVisit our website: https://hsfamilylaw.comFollow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hastingsshadmehry For a consultation: https://hsfamilylaw.com/contact-us/Tune In and Subscribe to "The Hastings Shadmehry Show" for more episodes filled with expert legal insights and guidance.

In this ENCORE release Andee and Mali take a look into the topic of Temporary Protective Orders (TPOs). Their discussion reveals the critical role of Temporary Protective Orders for individuals who are facing violence or stalking behavior in their marriage. They go through the whole  process, from the initial ex parte order for immediate protection to a comprehensive court hearing for a lasting solution.

Gain insight into eligibility requirements for a obtaining a TPO, what to expect in court, and the importance of swift action, and getting the right Legal and Emotional Support.  Plus, they offer practical tips on dealing with potential threats, including the importance of contacting police.

This episode is packed with essential information and empowering advice, designed to guide you through the process of obtaining a TPO during challenging times.

00:33  Intro

01:15  Mali shares a personal story about her anxious dog

02:13  Warrior or Diplomat?

04:10  What is a TPO?

05:00  What situations prompt the need for a TPO?

06:15  Legal Eligibility for a TPO

08:15  Steps to Obtaining a TPO

10:15  What to Expect in Court when applying for a TPO

13:40  The Importance of Acquiring Legal Representation

16:40  What can we expect after the TPO is issued

20:20  Advice on how to make sure the TPO is adhered to

22:30  Secrets in handling opposing counsels in a TPO case

23:20  Mali shares two TPO cases in which she was involved

35:40 Wrap Up

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This week, Andee welcomes back Dr Kyrstin Lokkesmoe, PhD, LPC for a discussion on the topic of Narcissism.  It’s term we hear a LOT in the media, and something that the lawyers of Hastings Shadmehry deal with on a regular basis.  Join Andee and Dr. Kyrstin for an extremely informative discussion of this toxic personality disorder, and how it affects relationships and family law cases.

00:25 Introductions

01:28 Warrior or Diplomat

03:30 What is Narcissism?

06:10 Misconceptions about the Definition of Narcissism

06:40 Traits of a Narcissist

10:00 Love-Bombing

13:30 Narcissists thrive on secrecy

16:24 Narcissism in Divorce

19:19 Examples of Gaslighting

23:31 Narcissists don’t quit

26:00 Stop considering the Narcissist’s feelings

29:30 The Best Defense

34:40 Standing between the Narcissist and the Client

37:20 Isolation as a Narcissist’s Tactic

41:00 How to become empowered

42:00 Science behind the effects of Narcissism

46:00 How did I get to this?

49:00 Narcissists are after Power and Control

50:00 Narcissists are predictable and unoriginal

52:30 Do not go to Couples Counseling with a Narcissist

56:00 How to contact Clear Life Counseling 

56:30 Wrap-Up 

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In this ENCORE release, Mali is joined by Kendall Walker, Hastings Shadmehry's head of sales and marketing, and co-producer of this podcast, to discuss the nuances of family law. This episode is informative and fun. 

00:32 Intro01:16 Warrior or Diplomat?

02:30 Jezebel Magazine Best Family Law Firm 2024

03:36 Frequently Asked Questions

03:41 How Much Does A Divorce Costs

12:20 Are Divorce Proceedings In Public Records?

17:40 Can You Change Your Name During the Divorce?19:30 Can You Change Your Childrens' Names?

22:30 Can A House/Assets Be Sold During the Divorce?26:21 Wrap-Up

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Andee and Mali welcome Hastings Shadmehry Senior Associate Lisa Malas to the show!  

Lisa talks about her career in Family Law and her journey as a young mother going through Law School. Lisa is a mom, a grand mom, and a dog-mom, and she's an incredible member of the Hastings Shadmehry Wolf Pack.

00:24 Intro

00:33 Introducing Lisa Malas

00:58 Warrior or Diplomat?

02:40 Mali’s Court Story About Lisa

03:50 Lisa Is a Dog-Mom

05:30 How Did Lisa Start On Her Career?

08:45 What Makes Lisa Excited About Her Job?

09:30 What Does It Mean To Represent DFACS?

10:24 Some of Lisa’s Toughest Cases with DFACS

13:50 How Does Lisa Handle the Tough Parts of the Job?

14:45 Transition from Self-Employment16:05 Mali’s Story About Lisa

17:20 Lisa’s Advice For Going Through A Divorce

19:05 Wrap-UpFollow us on social media and engage with us for more insights and updates!

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