We've all seen that look in our children's eyes (or perhaps our spouse's or our own). We are confident; we know they are safe.  They may even say they know they are safe as well.  But they are frozen with fear, running away from the circumstances or posturing for a fight and we, as parents, are forced by their actions to pause our plans and parent in that moment.  For children and many adults, it is simply not sufficient to "know" we are safe.  Our children must "feel" they are safe.  Ryan, Lori and Shawn discuss the differences and why felt safety is so important for our kids and ourselves on this parenting journey.