In this mini season finale episode, I’m wrapping up season one of Found at 40 with a little gratitude, a little reflection, and a very real acknowledgment that summer with kids at home is not for the faint of heart. I’m looking back on how this podcast started, what this first season has taught me, and why conversations about midlife, identity, friendship, marriage, parenting, work, hormones, and reinvention still feel so needed.

This episode is a pause, not a goodbye — a chance to close out season one, regroup for summer, and look ahead to the conversations coming in season two. More than anything, it’s a reminder that life really can begin at 40, and everything before this might just have been research.

(0:00) ☀️ Why summer feels like the right time to wrap season one of Found at 40

(1:31) 💬 Why this podcast was always meant to feel more like a midlife group chat than a crisis

(3:00) 🧭 The big midlife question: “Is this it?” — and why the answer might be more hopeful than we think

(4:32) 🎧 A little preview of season two and what’s coming next

Writer, former TV sports anchor, and midlife storyteller Laura Behnke joins Found at 40 for a powerful conversation about what happens when life refuses to follow the timeline you had planned. Laura shares how she built a successful career while quietly grieving the life she thought she was supposed to have, including marriage, motherhood, and the pressure to be “on track.”

This conversation also takes a very necessary turn into the bathroom stuff no one wants to talk about, which is exactly why we need to talk about it. Laura shares the symptom she kept explaining away, the colonoscopy she almost delayed, and why “it’s probably just hemorrhoids” is not a medical plan. It’s honest, funny, a little uncomfortable, and genuinely life-saving.

In this episode:

(0:00) ✨ Meeting Laura Behnke and the life that didn’t follow the script

(1:00) 🕰️ The childhood timeline Laura thought she would follow

(4:00) 💭 Why getting married at 38 and becoming a mom at 42 once felt impossible

(7:00) 📺 Building a successful career in sports television while hiding her private pain

(11:00) 🎯 The illusion of control in career, dating, and relationships

(14:00) ⏳ The “social clock” and why so many women feel behind in life

(20:00) 🌊 Turning 35, hitting a low point, and beginning to imagine a different future

(25:00) 💕 Meeting her husband when she finally stopped forcing the timeline

(30:00) 💔 Marriage, family loss, and the reality of layered grief

(37:00) 🧬 IVF during grief, COVID shutdowns, and one miraculous embryo

(42:00) 👶 Becoming a mother at 42 and grieving the life before motherhood

(44:00) 🚩 The symptom Laura thought was “just hemorrhoids”

(53:00) 🩺 The colonoscopy that changed everything

(58:00) 📣 Rectal cancer, colorectal cancer awareness, and why we need to talk about poop

(1:03:00) ✅ Colonoscopy screening, knowing your baseline, and the power of early detection

(1:07:00) 🌱 The life you planned, the life you actually have, and finding meaning in the “actually”

Find Laura at @laurabbehnke on Instagram or on her Substack, The Life Actually

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There is a question that so many women in midlife seem to be asking lately: “Do I have ADHD… or am I just completely overwhelmed?” Using a recent article about women receiving ADHD diagnoses in midlife as a jumping-off point, they talk through inattentive ADHD, hyperfocus, procrastination, emotional dysregulation, and the systems women build to keep life moving. Sarah shares what it was like growing up as a smart, energetic, often “spacey” kid whose ADHD traits were easy to miss, while Chrissi explores the difference between lifelong ADHD and the very midlife feeling of dysregulation– being scattered, overstimulated, and maxed out. It’s part sister conversation, part midlife brain audit, and part permission slip to ask a better question than “What’s wrong with my brain?” 

(0:00) 🧠 Why so many women are asking about ADHD in midlife
(1:00) 📅 Maycember chaos, end-of-school-year overload, and the midlife mental load
(3:00) 💉 PRP facials, aging, sister banter, and the ongoing “who’s older?” debate
(7:00) 🦷 Sarah’s root canal, big test energy, and major life transitions
(9:00) 📖 The article that sparked the conversation: women, ADHD diagnoses, and the systems that suddenly stop working
(11:00) 🤸 Sarah’s childhood ADHD clues: constant movement, gifted programs, spacing out, and missed signs
(13:00) 📝 Why inattentive ADHD in girls was so often overlooked
(16:00) 🧺 When motherhood, work, and unpredictability overwhelm even the best coping systems
(18:00) 🎯 Hyperfocus, changing majors, “going off vibes,” and wondering what could have been different
(21:00) ⏰ Procrastination, urgency, adrenaline, and the crash after getting everything done
(24:00) 🎓 Former gifted girls, anxiety, ADHD, and the shame of feeling smart but stuck
(26:00) ☕ Caffeine, ADHD medication, and what it feels like when a noisy brain finally quiets down
(28:00) 🛒 The grocery list spiral: when one simple task turns into a full life reorganization
(31:00) 🌪️ ADHD vs. dysregulation: feeling scattered, overwhelmed, overstimulated, or unable to function
(33:00) 🔊 Emotional, sensory, and behavioral dysregulation in midlife
(36:00) 🚪 Reducing input, setting boundaries, and the “unless there’s fire or blood” rule
(38:00) 🫶 Lowering the shame and asking what your brain actually needs
(40:00) 🐅 The tiger-in-captivity question, summer survival, kids’ phones, and midlife brain management
(43:00) 💬 Final thoughts for ADHD women, dysregulated women, and everyone whose brain is following side quests

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Link to Liz Moody podcast episode on ADHD and dysregulation 

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This week on Found at 40, Chrissi and Sarah are sharing what they’re loving, learning, and loathing in midlife—because life after 40 is equal parts growth, monotony, reinvention, and “are we really doing this again?” moments. From small personal wins to bigger mindset shifts, they talk about how to feel less stuck, more present, and actually enjoy your life in your 40s.

They dive into the “Novelty Rule” (and how to make time feel slower and more meaningful), why so many of us feel behind in midlife, and how stress can completely shut down your creativity and decision-making. Plus: travel highs, sister stories, and the things currently testing their patience—including the housing market and some necessary rage toward unacceptable male behavior. 

(0:00) 🎙️ Welcome back + midlife catch-up with sisters
(1:00) ✈️ Two Truths and a Lie—and a surprising win
(4:00) 👶 Parenting then vs. now and how things have changed
(6:00) 📖 Discovering poetry in your 40s and unexpected inspiration
(8:00) 🤔 Feeling behind in life and midlife timeline pressure
(11:00) 👏 Self-worth, confidence, and letting go of outside validation
(12:00) 🌴 Virgin Islands trip: travel, snorkeling, and unforgettable moments
(16:00) 🧠 The Novelty Rule: how to make life feel slower and more meaningful
(19:00) 🔄 Breaking routines and escaping midlife autopilot
(20:00) 😵‍💫 Stress, burnout, and the “freeze” response explained
(23:00) 🔥 What we’re loathing: unacceptable behavior from certain men in Congress
(30:00) 🏡 The housing market, finances, and why adulting feels harder than ever

Learn more about The Novelty Rule on the Liz Moody Podcast

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If your brain has been running the same exhausting loops—overthinking, second-guessing, telling you you’re behind—this episode is going to feel like a reset. I’m joined by life coach Ashley Molitor, who helps women unlearn the BS stories that keep them stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from themselves. We get into the patterns, limiting beliefs, and midlife mindset shifts that quietly run the show—and how to finally break free from them. If you’ve ever felt like you know what needs to change but can’t seem to do it, this conversation will hit.

(0:00) 🔄 The “spinning wheel of death” in your brain—midlife overthinking explained
(2:00) 🎯 What a life coach actually does (and how it helps you break patterns faster)
(5:00) 🧠 Why your brain resists change—and keeps you stuck in the same cycles
(7:30) 📖 Limiting beliefs: the stories you didn’t choose but keep living by
(10:30) ⏳ “I’ll focus on me later”—why that mindset never works
(12:30) 🗓️ Living on autopilot: busy, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your values
(15:30) 🤝 Motherhood, burnout & why asking for help is the real power move
(18:30) ⚖️ Body image, negative self-talk & separating facts from the story
(21:30) 🔁 The patterns you don’t realize you have (relationships, habits & self-sabotage)
(25:00) ❓ The questions you’re asking yourself that keep you stuck
(30:00) 🔥 How to identify patterns by looking at results you don’t like
(34:00) 😵 Post-interaction spiraling & how to stop overanalyzing everything
(38:30) ✨ Letting go of “shoulds” and rewriting the story you actually want

Follow Ashley on Instagram at @ashleylmolitor and or visit her website at https://www.ashleymolitor.com

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After divorce, heartbreak, and nearly 20 years in a marriage that ultimately wasn’t right, Sarah is sharing the full story of how she found love again in midlife—and knew this relationship was different. In this episode, we talk honestly about dating after divorce, learning to trust your intuition, recognizing green flags, and why finding love in your 40s can actually be better than the first time around. Plus, Sarah shares the wildly sweet engagement story that had me secretly wearing a wig in public like a low-budget spy. If you’re navigating dating in your 40s, healing after divorce, or wondering if healthy love is still out there for you… this one is for you.

(0:00) 🌴 Spring break adventures, capybara encounters, and why St. Augustine unexpectedly delivered
(3:00) 👽 Our latest family obsession: Project Hail Mary, aliens, and audiobook recommendations
(5:00) 💍 Sarah officially announces she’s engaged—and adjusting to fiancé life
(7:00) 💔 Rewinding the clock: life after the end of a 19-year marriage and starting over after divorce
(9:00) ❤️‍🩹 Dating after divorce, rebuilding confidence, and why jumping in too fast can happen
(10:00) 🚩 “Where’s the bag of hair?” — the hilarious dating metaphor for hidden red flags in midlife dating courtesy of the movie Fever Pitch with Drew Barrymore and Jimmy Fallon
(13:00) 💚 The unexpected green flags that made Sarah realize this relationship felt different
(15:00) 🧠 Chemistry vs. compatibility: what actually matters in long-term relationships
(17:00) 🏡 What 19 years of marriage taught Sarah about what she truly needs in a partner
(19:00) 🕵️ Behind-the-scenes of the engagement setup, ring recon, and my accidental secret-agent role
(24:00) 🎶 The proposal night: how the surprise engagement actually unfolded at the Cannons concert
(28:00) 😂 Why I was hiding in a Velma-esque wig and secretly filming the whole thing
(34:00) ✨ Why finding love in your 40s can be better than finding it in your 20s
(35:00) 🧭 Dating after divorce advice: trusting your intuition, listening to your body, and not ignoring warning signs
(44:00) 💕 The biggest lessons Sarah learned about healthy love, emotional safety, and knowing when it’s right

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If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “wait… this isn’t what I planned,” this episode will hit close to home—in the best way. Today, I’m joined by Jess Prudhomme for a deeply honest conversation about what it really looks like to navigate life when things don’t go as expected. We talk about identity shifts, starting over, and the quiet (and sometimes painful) process of finding your way back to yourself. If you’re feeling lost, stuck, or like you’ve outgrown your life, this one will remind you—you’re not alone, and you’re not off track.

(0:00) 🎙️ Meet Jess Prudhomme + the moment you realize life isn’t going as planned
(3:00) 🧭 The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you’ve outgrown your life
(6:00) 💔 When everything starts shifting—relationships, identity, and direction
(9:00) 🧠 The internal spiral: feeling lost, confused, and disconnected from yourself
(13:00) 🔄 The idea of a “life detour” and why it’s not what we think
(17:00) ⚖️ Letting go of the life you planned vs. clinging to what feels safe
(21:00) 🧩 Identity unraveling: who am I if I’m not this version of myself?
(25:00) 🚪 The moment things start to crack open (even if it doesn’t feel like it yet)
(29:00) 🌱 Healing isn’t linear—what growth actually looks like in real life
(33:00) 🗣️ Learning to trust your intuition again after big life changes
(37:00) 🔍 The difference between alignment, avoidance, and starting over
(41:00) 💡 What “finding yourself again” really means (and what it doesn’t)
(45:00) ✨ Small shifts that begin the road back to yourself
(48:00) 🤍 The unexpected gifts hidden inside life not going to plan

Follow Jess on Instagram at @thegreatdetour and listen to her podcast, The Great Detour, or visit her website at thegreatdetour.com

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Perimenopause has entered the chat—and most of us were never given the manual. In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Lauren Tetenbaum to unpack what’s actually happening in our bodies during perimenopause and menopause, and why so many women feel blindsided by it. This conversation is equal parts validating, eye-opening, and surprisingly empowering. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this normal?”—this episode is for you.

We talk symptoms, hormones, identity shifts, and what it really looks like to prepare for this next phase of life—without fear, shame, or misinformation.

(0:00) 🎙️ Why perimenopause feels like it came out of nowhere for so many women
(4:00) 🤯 The early symptoms of perimenopause you might be missing (and mislabeling)
(7:00) 🧠 Brain fog, mood swings & anxiety—what’s actually happening hormonally
(11:00) 🔄 Why your body suddenly feels “off” (and why it’s not in your head)
(15:00) 🩺 The biggest gaps in women’s health education around menopause
(19:00) 📉 Hormones explained simply: what’s dropping, shifting, and why it matters
(23:00) 😩 Sleep issues, irritability & burnout—how they’re all connected
(27:00) 💬 The emotional side of perimenopause no one talks about
(31:00) 🔥 Libido, relationships & identity changes in midlife
(35:00) 🧴 What actually helps: treatment options, lifestyle shifts & support
(39:00) 📚 Inside Millennial Menopause—why this guide is different
(43:00) 🧩 How to advocate for yourself with doctors (and what to ask for)
(47:00) 🌱 Reframing menopause as a transition—not a decline
(51:00) ✨ What women in their 30s and 40s should know now to feel prepared

Follow Lauren on Instagram at @thecounselaur

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If you’ve ever thought, “I want a village… but also I don’t want to leave my house,” this episode is going to feel uncomfortably relatable—in the best way. Today I’m joined by writer, speaker, and educator Brooke Romney, whose words about community, connection, and showing up have sparked conversations everywhere.

In this honest, witty, and thought-provoking conversation, we dig into why so many of us are craving deeper friendships and real community—while also protecting our time, guarding our energy, and avoiding anything inconvenient.

We talk about what modern life is getting right (hello, convenience) and what it might be quietly costing us, the invisible work that actually holds communities together, and why the little things we tend to dismiss might be the exact things that create the connection we’re looking for.

(0:00) 🎙️ Meet Brooke Romney + why this conversation about community matters now

(6:00) 💬 The viral post that sparked a bigger conversation about connection

(7:00) 🧠 “If we only do what we enjoy… who does the rest?”

(10:00) 🔄 What shifted from “protect your peace” to craving real community

(13:00) 📱 Convenience culture, screen time, and why life feels lonelier

(16:00) 🧩 The invisible work that quietly holds communities together

(19:00) 🚨 The bystander effect—and why people don’t step up

(24:00) ⚖️ People-pleasing vs. true community (a powerful reframe)

(28:00) ✨ Why things that don’t spark joy often lead to deeper fulfillment

(34:00) 🏡 What it actually means to “be a villager” in real life

(37:00) 😓 When you feel like you’re the only one showing up

(44:00) 🌱 Simple, realistic ways to start building connection today

Follow Brooke on Instagram at @brookeromneywrites

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If you’ve ever wondered how to make friends in your 40s, how to parent a teenager without losing authority, or what to do when you don’t know what you’re doing with your life—this episode is for you. In this first-ever advice episode of Found at 40, Chrissi is joined by her sister Sarah to answer real listener questions about friendship in adulthood, marriage communication, parenting teens, identity in midlife, and navigating major life transitions after 40. 

This conversation covers everything from how long it actually takes to build deep friendships as an adult, to what to do when your spouse wants something you’re not comfortable with, to how to approach difficult relationships with parents—even in your 40s. They also unpack midlife career confusion, rediscovering yourself after years of motherhood, and the emotional transition of your child graduating and leaving home.

If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or like you “should have it figured out by now,” this episode offers honest, practical, and relatable advice for navigating midlife with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

(0:00) 🎙️ Advice episode kickoff: unfiltered, real-life advice for midlife women
(2:00) 💔 Divorce, healing, and rebuilding your life in your 40s
(5:00) 🍝 Parenting, family life, and redefining “normal” experiences for your kids
(10:00) 🤝 How to make friends in your 40s and build real adult friendships
(12:00) ⏳ How long it takes to form deep friendships (and why it feels so hard)
(14:00) 🔁 Simple habits that turn acquaintances into close friends
(16:00) 🔥 Marriage communication: what to do when partners want different things sexually
(20:00) 🧭 Midlife identity crisis: “I don’t know what to do with my life”
(25:00) 📱 Reconnecting with yourself: boredom, phone habits, and self-discovery
(27:00) 🛍️ Midlife confidence and style: when to invest in yourself (yes, even leggings)
(29:00) 💡 Life lessons by 40: stress, money, and what actually matters
(30:00) 👩‍👧 Parenting teens: boundaries, trust, and staying the parent—not the friend
(34:00) 😬 Difficult parent relationships: setting boundaries and communicating with confidence
(40:00) 🎓 Kids leaving home: navigating identity, grief, and the empty nest transition
(41:00) ❤️ Friendship in your 40s: what qualities matter most now

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