In this episode, you'll hear Kaitlyn and I talk about: 

• How spiritual formation impacts political engagement—and why this is gets more human, accessible, and impactful on the local level. 
• Why self-sufficiency is a myth--for individuals and families and all people. 
• The ways collective engagement beats isolation, even within family units. 
• And why reciprocity is crucial within church communities, especially across diverse backgrounds and life stages.  
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Kaitlyn Schiess is a writer, speaker, and theologian. She is the author of The Liturgy of Politics: Spiritual Formation for the Sake of Our Neighbor and is a regular cohost on the Holy Post podcast. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, Christianity Today, Christ and Pop Culture, Relevant, and Sojourners. She has a Masters of Theology from Dallas Theological Seminare and is currently a doctoral student in political theology at Duke Divinity School. She lives in Durham, North Carolina. 

You can follow Kaitlyn on Instagram and Twitter @kaitlynschiess. Snag your copy of her book, The Ballot and The Bible, wherever you buy books--and make sure to rate and review! 

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In this episode, Beth and I talk about: 

• Identifying the pain points of exclusion—and how to get serious about including and being led by singles in the church. 
• Barriers to single leadership—unpacking the biases, assumptions, and misunderstandings about singles. 
• The lonely church: why we need to deliberately create an atmosphere of kindness, connecting people, saying hello and then some. 

Beth is a passionate advocate for inclusion within the church community. As the Communications Director at UK-based charity Single Friendly Church, Beth works tirelessly to create welcoming spaces where single individuals of all backgrounds are valued and embraced. With a heart that beats for unity, she’s dedicated to breaking barriers and ensuring every church becomes a place of belonging. 

You can follow Single Friendly Church on Instagram @singlefriendlychurch. Check out their resources at singlefriendlychurch.com. 

"God told me we should go out." This is one of the many sayings complicating Christian Dating Culture. That's why Landen Swain wrote the best-seller Detox Christian Dating, which gets down into the nitty-gritty of what actually makes dating as a Christian complicated and provides insight on how to make Christian Dating Culture healthier. Order Detox Christian Dating on Amazon today. 

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In today's episode, you'll hear Anna and I talk about: 

• Expanding coming-of-age rituals beyond graduation and marriage. 
• Marking a moment and remembering God's faithfulness. 
• How to celebrate the moments that might feel small. 
• And cultivating your own practice of celebrating. 

Anna has written for The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, TheAtlantic.com, Christianity Today and other publications. She is the author of the forthcoming book Solo Planet: How Singles Help the Church Recover Our calling, due out from NavPress. She's also written Sexless in the City: A Memoir of Reluctant Chastity and contributed to the books Venus and Virtue, Disquiet Time, Talking Taboo, and Faith at the Edge. She holds an MA in religious studies from Arizona State University. 

You can read more of Anna's work at annabroadway.com. Add Solo Planet to your "To Read" list on Goodreads. You can follow Anna's author page on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/anna.broadway

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In this episode, you'll hear Moriah talk about 

• The importance of finding spaces where you don't need to explain your identity to people
• Why everyone should be doing identity development work
• The ‘second puberty’ of coming out as an adult 
• How to find *your* people within the queer community
• All things self compassion, grace, and time when it comes to coming out later in life

Moriah is a therapist-in-training who specializes in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, especially in the areas of trauma, identity development, and identity integration. She utilizes a relational psychodynamic approach to therapy, along with feminist psychology and LGBTQIA+ affirming psychology. She is a psych assistant at Woven Trauma Therapy. 

You can follow Moriah on Instagram @mconantpsychology. 

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In this episode, you'll hear Mel and I discuss

• How to cultivate a growth mindset in dating
• The ingredients of a fun mixer for single Christians
• The secrets for maintaining hopefulness in dating
• And how to use dating apps (yep, we think Christians should use them).

Mel is the founder and owner of IYKYK Dating, a Christian dating coach, and runs a singles community with over 5000 members across the USA. Her own dating struggles led her to develop a strong understanding of the dynamics of healthy dating relationships, including the art of attraction, the importance of embracing femininity, setting boundaries, and allowing men to take the lead. Mel runs Online Dating Workshops for women who feel anxious in dating and relationships. 

You can visit Mel's website www.iykykdating.com and follow her on Instagram @ Iykyk.dating. Mel's offering listeners 50% off her upcoming dating workshop by following the link in the episode description and using code MARYB. You can also find the link to join Mel's free Facebook Group for single Christians in the episode description.  

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In today's episode, you'll hear Vernique and I talk about

• The hard, beautiful work of learning to show up authentically
• Letting go of "ideal" and/or fake versions of ourselves
• Why emotions are indicators, not dictators 
• How our relationships are impacted by emotional health

Vernique is an Atlanta-based therapist and coach who specializes in Relational Trauma and Healthy Relationships. She is the Author of When Seasons Change: A Divorce Recovery Interactive Devotional, Speaker, and founder of Authentically Wed— a faith-based community for all relationship statuses

Vernique believes the quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life, and uses her workshops, courses, and community programs such as Journal Club, to help people become healed and whole individuals that can create healthy and fulfilling relationships. She especially enjoys partnering with High-achieving women who have trouble managing their various responsibilities, causing anxiety in their lives. 

She also works as a Corporate Well-being Consultant in assisting employees and leaders in making the workplace more emotionally and mentally safe.

You can follow Vernique on all social media @verniqueesther, and check out her other offerings at verniqueesther.com

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The Single Christian's Church Survival Guide isn’t a book about how to get un-single. It's about how to navigate a culture obsessed with marriage as a human who is not married. Each chapter breaks down a common scenario, why it’s weird, and contextual options on how to respond. If you’re done accepting the same tired interactions that leave you discouraged and disempowered, head to Amazon and get your copy of The Single Christian's Church Survival Guide now! 

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In today's episode, you'll hear Jason and I talk about 

• Strange blessings for life's impossible moments
• What the Beatitudes have to say to single folks
• The power of finding joy in our right-now lives
• And finding belonging when the church doesn't know what to do with you. 

Jason is the founder and lead pastor of South Bend City Church, an eclectic Christian community known for its thoughtful teaching, inclusive vision, and commitment to its city context. An advocate for artists and peacemakers, his work beyond South Bend focuses on cultural headwaters and conflict zones, where he serves an international constituency of leaders. He holds a master’s degree in theology from the University of Notre Dame. He is the author of When the World Breaks: The Surprising Hope and Subversive Promises in the Teachings of Jesus. 

You can follow Jason on Instagram @jasonadammiller and check out more of his work at jasonadammiller.com. When the World Breaks, is available wherever you buy books. 

Singles find themselves in a lot of awkward situations at church. When you take The Single Christian Derptitude test, choose your knee-jerk reaction to each prompt and learn your social superpower. Think of it like an aptitude test... for all the weird things people say to singles at church. Take this fun, free quiz at marybsafrit.com.

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In this episode, you'll hear Nate and I talk about 

• How to get the most out of therapy
• What happens when we use therapy as a dress rehearsal for our life
• How to practice addressing conflict with your therapist 
• The key ingredients for therapy and growth

Nathaniel is a licensed marriage and family therapist, group facilitator, writer & wellness advocate based in New York City. He has five years of combined clinical training and experience working with individuals, couples and families in child welfare, juvenile justice and private practice settings. As the owner of Intentions for Wellness Marriage & Family Therapy PLLC, Nathaniel helps his clients cultivate emotional, relational and spiritual wellbeing rooted in and enriched by faith in Jesus Christ. 

You can follow Nate on Instagram @_natecultivates and check out the Tristate Abstinence Crew on Instagram @tac_lgw. If you're interested in working with Nate, you can search for him on zencare.co

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In today's episode, Audre and I are talking about 

• Inviting vulnerability in a safe way in singleness.
• How to combat cultural expectations of instant gratification when it comes to our spiritual interior 
• How to hold space for spiritual exploration 
• And questions to ask yourself when exploring a feeling, experience, or something new.  

Audre is a trauma-informed certified spiritual director. She has been a soul companion for over 20 years. Her certification is through the Companioning Center. Audre holds a BA of Religion with an emphasis in Biblical and Theological Studies. She is a Hope*Writer and a Sayge Link Member. She is a podcaster on The Spacious and the Sacred, with fellow spiritual directors Irene Dunlop, Heather Fignar and Andi Chatburn.

Audre specializes in working with people who are isolated, and lonely from the effects of shame and trauma. She holds space for individuals and groups who are discovering and questioning their inner goodness. Audre embraces all communities including those that are neurodiverse, LGBTQ+, or spiritually diverse as they seek to find wholeness and freedom.

You can join one of Audre's groups or sign up for spiritual direction at saturatedgrace.com. She's on facebook @audrerickard1 and Instagram @audrerickard 

Singles find themselves in a lot of awkward situations at church. When you take The Single Christian Derptitude test, choose your knee-jerk reaction to each prompt and learn your social superpower. Think of it like an aptitude test... for all the weird things people say to singles at church. Take this fun, free quiz at marybsafrit.com.

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In today's episode, we're getting into it on all things solo travel with Rachael K. Rachael is a teacher, and Christian lifestyle blogger and content creator. She is currently based in Kenya with the organization Africa Inland Mission. Outside of teaching, she enjoys hosting friends and students at her home, reading, working out, and playing with puppies. 

Today you'll hear Rachael and I talk about 

• Finding creative freedom and empowerment through solo travel
• How to budget and prioritize for the kind of travel *you* want
• A masterclass on decision-making when it comes to travel
• And how to be mindful about safety, culture, and respect when traveling. 

You can follow Rachael on Instagram @lifewithrach_k and be sure to check out her blog, lifewithrk.com

You can also check out Rachael's Blog on solo travel here

Singles find themselves in a lot of awkward situations at church. When you take The Single Christian Derptitude test, choose your knee-jerk reaction to each prompt and learn your social superpower. Think of it like an aptitude test... for all the weird things people say to singles at church. Take this fun, free quiz at marybsafrit.com.

This episode is jammed packed; unfortunately, a lot of wisdom didn't make the final cut. Don't worry though, you can join our Patreon community to get the full episode and to be a part of a community where your voice matters! We hope to see you there!

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