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What does it actually look like to heal in real time—in the middle of the messy, ordinary moments when life is lifing and your nervous system is completely fired up?

I’m sharing a story I’ve carried with me for years: the first time I experienced the power of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping not in a session, not in therapy, and not after the fact—but in the thick of motherhood, while I was still holding all the heat of the moment.

I was camping alone with my two-year-old daughter when I became overwhelmed, overstimulated, and eventually lost my shit. I needed a minute. And sitting by the fire, still angry and activated, I found myself tapping.

Within minutes, I could feel myself coming back to myself.

What happened next—being able to reconnect with my daughter, repair, and respond from a more grounded place—changed the way I understood healing.

In this episode, I’m sharing what that experience taught me about:

•  healing while the pattern is actually happening 
•  the emotional “residue” we carry from everyday interactions 
•  why our reactions can sometimes feel bigger than the moment itself 
•  EFT tapping and somatic practices as tools for real-time regulation 
•  the difference between reacting from an old pattern and responding from conscious choice 
•  repairing with our children after we get it wrong 
•  how guilt and shame keep us stuck in old patterns 
•  creating a new “software program” for the way we want to show up 
•  and what it means to come back to yourself again and again

Because healing isn't about becoming someone who never gets angry, overwhelmed, or dysregulated.

It’s learning how to return.

And sometimes, that return can happen right in the middle of the moment.

If you’re new to EFT: I’ve created a free EFT reset that you can access as a free Substack subscriber. 

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A year ago, choosing homeschooling felt confusing. I didn't have a plan, but I had a nudge.

I didn't feel supported. I didn't know how we would make it work financially. I had a vision for my work with no idea how homeschooling would fit. I had a million questions and almost no answers. 

I felt completely alone in the decision. In this impromptu episode, I'm reflecting on the fear, the nudge I couldn't ignore, and what it's like looking back now from the other side.

 This is for the version of me who needed someone to put a hand over their heart and say: 'Yes, you f**king can.'

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In this episode, I share a real-time voice note I recorded in the middle of a worry spiral.

One book club attendee rescheduled.
 I offered a new time.
 And as I was getting ready to leave, the second-guessing it all.

Was I people-pleasing?
Was I abandoning myself?
Did I actually want to go — or was I trying to be “nice”?

Instead of powering through or canceling, I pressed record.

You’ll hear the thought loops as they were happening. The body sensations. The over-analysis. And how I navigated myself back to center — not by forcing clarity, but by staying with what was real.

This episode is a live demonstration of nervous system regulation in motion.

Not perfection.
 Not performance.
 Just practice.

And the result? A relaxed, grounded, genuinely beautiful evening.

If you’ve ever questioned your decisions, doubted your motives, or spiraled into “am I making the right decision?” — this one will feel familiar.

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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In this episode, I’m sharing a fresh, unfiltered moment from inside my marriage.

A 2:30am wake-up.
 A simple request.
 A “no” that didn’t land well.
 And the familiar edge of disappointment and irritation rising in my body.

What used to spiral into tension and reactive words… didn’t.

Not because I suppressed it.
 Not because I forced positivity.
 But because I paused long enough to notice where I was actually responding from.

I walk you through:

• The subtle difference between silence and shutdown
• What it feels like to catch yourself before sending the reactive text
• How dysregulation meets dysregulation in relationships
• And what happens when just one person chooses to stay connected instead

This isn’t about being perfect.
 It’s about breaking a toxic cycle in real time — first internally, then relationally.

And maybe the most important part:
 The moment later that day when I caught myself saying, “It doesn’t matter”… when it actually did.

If you’ve ever:

• Felt disappointment but didn’t know how to express it cleanly
• Shut down instead of asking for help
• Or wondered how to shift long-standing patterns in your relationship

This episode will feel like sitting in my kitchen while we unpack it together.

Because I don't think the breakthrough always needs to be loud.

I think it can be choosing to respond differently in the smallest, most ordinary moments.

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Part two of.. 

I didn't realize how much I would avoid asking for help until recently.

Then actually asking for said help and feeling like there was push back or annoyance to only find myself saying "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself!" And finding myself waking up ultra early to do the thing while feeling pissed I was doing the very thing I asked help with.

Well, I'm sharing this whole journey with you. From the moment I began avoiding asking for help, all the way to the point where I feel so incredibly supported and don't even hesitate to ask for help now AND I don't feel any push back!

It was so much fun recording this full fledged relational rewrite with you!!

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I didn't realize how much I would avoid asking for help until recently.

Then actually asking for said help and feeling like there was push back or annoyance to only find myself saying "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself!" And finding myself waking up ultra early to do the thing while feeling pissed I was doing the very thing I asked help with.

Well, I'm sharing this whole journey with you. From the moment I began avoiding asking for help, all the way to the point where I feel so incredibly supported and don't even hesitate to ask for help now AND I don't feel any push back!

It was so much fun recording this full fledged relational rewrite with you!!

Be sure to catch part two with the follow up share on the conversation I had with him and the whole circle moment!

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I found an episode I had uploaded but never published from this summer - it was too good to not share. So here you go!

Yesterday was a moment I once craved but didn't know how to name.

There was a time when a spilled bowl of oatmeal would’ve ruined the whole day. Where my reaction would’ve triggered his. When my feelings would’ve become a fight. When something small turned into an argument or taken personally—every time.

But yesterday… something different happened. Something I didn’t even know I was allowed to want five years ago.

I decided to share a real-time moment from our family camping trip, how one small accident—spilled oatmeal over a campfire—became a portal into emotional safety, repair, and nervous system trust between me and my husband.

What changed?
Not perfection.
But how we held each other when the tension rose.

This episode is for the version of me who used to feel like she couldn't say anything without it turning into a fight.
Who questioned how she felt.
Who avoided bringing anything up because it always got twisted.
It’s for the woman still wondering if emotional safety in partnership is even possible for her.

It is.

And this moment is proof🖤

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As I go about my day today—I’d been invited last minute to my parents’ place, then my husband asked if we wanted to head into town and go shopping for golf pants together when he’s done work.

Normally? I say yes to these things and go with it. Today was different.

I found myself tuning in and asking:

🖤 If I say yes to these things, does anything feel squeezed or sacrificed?
🖤 Will I still get to savor what I want to experience—or will I be rushing through it?
🖤 What part of me is tempted to override my pace to avoid disappointing someone?
🖤 What would I need to rearrange or release to still feel grounded?

Because the real question wasn’t “Can I do it all?”

It was—what version of me will be showing up if I try?

The present one? Or the one quietly calculating how to make it all fit?

So I hit record on a little voice note from my back deck, letting this moment move through me—
 and I hope it gets to be medicine for you too 🖤

If you're craving to rewrite these kinds of moments in your own life—to feel rooted in your pace, your priorities, your Self.

I’ve opened space for one month of 1:1 support.

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A moment where, in the past, unresolved emotional wounds were causing conflict with my husband. 

I was reflecting on a moment I had this past week where I felt irritated by my husband's absence on something, in the past, I would have definitely texted him out of irritation and it would have turned into a fight. It turned into worry spirals where my mind started going to worst case scenarios - how something bad happened, to he got seriously injured, to he's leaving me to go be with another women. Yes, my mind went to the extremes!

I decided to share how I navigated it where I got myself grounded almost immediately and how it resulted in a moment of connection.

In the past, I'd completely lose myself within the spiral and irritation. Now? I notice the emotion before it has me, so I can respond from a place of clarity.

This is just another glimpse of some of the audios I share regularly within my "UN/divided; A living sanctuary for emotional alchemy" community. A space to plug into to co-regulation, experience deep emotional safety and find deeper fulfilling and meaningful connections in life. Come plug into the frequency of it here

Trusting you'll find what you need within this 🖤

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Straight from a voicenote in the thick of an oooof moment that hit me on a cellular level.

A theme showing up lately.. 

That irritation we feel towards others. The resentment of having to do it all. The tension we feel in our relationships.. 

What if those moments are really illuminating where we are abandoning ourselves in the process?

This is just a sneak peek into some of the voicenotes I drop into my new monthly membership, The UN/divided Community. A living sanctuary for emotional alchemy. Moments where we feel inner disrupt, the emotions hit hard and how to anchor back to Self again.

As a mom, that is the kind of world I want to live in. Not just for me, but for my daughter.

To me, it's not just a membership. It's a whole movement. One rooted in emotional safety and relational depth.

I'll be updating the show notes soon with the link on ways to join these spaces✨.

For now, sending you SO much love🖤

Lyss

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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