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I didn't realize how much I would avoid asking for help until recently.

Then actually asking for said help and feeling like there was push back or annoyance to only find myself saying "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself!" And finding myself waking up ultra early to do the thing while feeling pissed I was doing the very thing I asked help with.

Well, I'm sharing this whole journey with you. From the moment I began avoiding asking for help, all the way to the point where I feel so incredibly supported and don't even hesitate to ask for help now AND I don't feel any push back!

It was so much fun recording this full fledged relational rewrite with you!!

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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I didn't realize how much I would avoid asking for help until recently.

Then actually asking for said help and feeling like there was push back or annoyance to only find myself saying "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself!" And finding myself waking up ultra early to do the thing while feeling pissed I was doing the very thing I asked help with.

Well, I'm sharing this whole journey with you. From the moment I began avoiding asking for help, all the way to the point where I feel so incredibly supported and don't even hesitate to ask for help now AND I don't feel any push back!

It was so much fun recording this full fledged relational rewrite with you!!

Be sure to catch part two with the follow up share on the conversation I had with him and the whole circle moment!

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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I found an episode I had uploaded but never published from this summer - it was too good to not share. So here you go!

Yesterday was a moment I once craved but didn't know how to name.

There was a time when a spilled bowl of oatmeal would’ve ruined the whole day. Where my reaction would’ve triggered his. When my feelings would’ve become a fight. When something small turned into an argument or taken personally—every time.

But yesterday… something different happened. Something I didn’t even know I was allowed to want five years ago.

I decided to share a real-time moment from our family camping trip, how one small accident—spilled oatmeal over a campfire—became a portal into emotional safety, repair, and nervous system trust between me and my husband.

What changed?
Not perfection.
But how we held each other when the tension rose.

This episode is for the version of me who used to feel like she couldn't say anything without it turning into a fight.
Who questioned how she felt.
Who avoided bringing anything up because it always got twisted.
It’s for the woman still wondering if emotional safety in partnership is even possible for her.

It is.

And this moment is proof🖤

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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As I go about my day today—I’d been invited last minute to my parents’ place, then my husband asked if we wanted to head into town and go shopping for golf pants together when he’s done work.

Normally? I say yes to these things and go with it. Today was different.

I found myself tuning in and asking:

🖤 If I say yes to these things, does anything feel squeezed or sacrificed?
🖤 Will I still get to savor what I want to experience—or will I be rushing through it?
🖤 What part of me is tempted to override my pace to avoid disappointing someone?
🖤 What would I need to rearrange or release to still feel grounded?

Because the real question wasn’t “Can I do it all?”

It was—what version of me will be showing up if I try?

The present one? Or the one quietly calculating how to make it all fit?

So I hit record on a little voice note from my back deck, letting this moment move through me—
 and I hope it gets to be medicine for you too 🖤

If you're craving to rewrite these kinds of moments in your own life—to feel rooted in your pace, your priorities, your Self.

I’ve opened space for one month of 1:1 support.

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A moment where, in the past, unresolved emotional wounds were causing conflict with my husband. 

I was reflecting on a moment I had this past week where I felt irritated by my husband's absence on something, in the past, I would have definitely texted him out of irritation and it would have turned into a fight. It turned into worry spirals where my mind started going to worst case scenarios - how something bad happened, to he got seriously injured, to he's leaving me to go be with another women. Yes, my mind went to the extremes!

I decided to share how I navigated it where I got myself grounded almost immediately and how it resulted in a moment of connection.

In the past, I'd completely lose myself within the spiral and irritation. Now? I notice the emotion before it has me, so I can respond from a place of clarity.

This is just another glimpse of some of the audios I share regularly within my "UN/divided; A living sanctuary for emotional alchemy" community. A space to plug into to co-regulation, experience deep emotional safety and find deeper fulfilling and meaningful connections in life. Come plug into the frequency of it here

Trusting you'll find what you need within this 🖤

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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Straight from a voicenote in the thick of an oooof moment that hit me on a cellular level.

A theme showing up lately.. 

That irritation we feel towards others. The resentment of having to do it all. The tension we feel in our relationships.. 

What if those moments are really illuminating where we are abandoning ourselves in the process?

This is just a sneak peek into some of the voicenotes I drop into my new monthly membership, The UN/divided Community. A living sanctuary for emotional alchemy. Moments where we feel inner disrupt, the emotions hit hard and how to anchor back to Self again.

As a mom, that is the kind of world I want to live in. Not just for me, but for my daughter.

To me, it's not just a membership. It's a whole movement. One rooted in emotional safety and relational depth.

I'll be updating the show notes soon with the link on ways to join these spaces✨.

For now, sending you SO much love🖤

Lyss

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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Christmas shouldn't just be about surviving the holidays - or at least that's not what I want for me! I want presence and to cultivate deep connections. I deeply crave so many of those "special little moments" during the holiday season.

But man do I find it also hard to have many of those little moments because it also comes with; an endless to do list, higher spending and more financial stress, more things to juggle/manage, navigating family dynamics, wanting things to be a certain way, wanting things to feel special... on top of the regular day to day activities of life. That, what actually feels important can get lost in the mix of it all.

I just hosted a big family gathering at my place and the week leading up to it, I noticed I was getting swept up in the stress of all the things on my to do list that I found myself getting impatient with Haedyn and saying no to the moments she was asking "mama, will you play with me?" I am sharing some patterns I became aware of, how I shifted the stress I had felt and how I began supporting myself when stress would start to creep in.

I am just so happy I became aware of this a couple days prior to the big gathering. It allowed me to make some adjustments to how I was going about my day so I was able to maintain more presence with Haedyn throughout the day, something that is super important to me. And it also left me feeling more fulfilled with my days rather then burnt out, because I was leading from a place of what felt true to me.

In this episode my hope is you can gain some practical yet super simple strategies to handle the stress and family dynamics that can come with the holidays so you can navigate the season with more ease and flexibility!

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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If you ever find yourself reacting in ways you know were *wrong* only to feel bad about it later.. this is for you!

I used to have A LOT of these moments too. I thought it was a part of who I was or that something was wrong with me. But as it turns out, it was really just a lack of tools + knowledge in how to grow beyond these points.

I'm going to share some personal examples of reacting in ways I knew were *wrong* leaving me feeling bad about it later and how I grew from them, helping me change these kinds of interactions in the future.

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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I'm not sure if it's being in my childhood home or Thanksgiving happening this weekend here in Canada but I found myself struggling to show up at the mom I wanted to be.

I was house sitting for my parents the night before I was to be hosting Thanksgiving supper at my place on the Friday.

It almost felt like I was regressing or going backwards. Found myself reacting in ways I thought I had outgrown but here is the wisdom I found in it all.

I mentioned the book "The Whole Brained Child" in this episode, here is my affiliate link through amazon.ca; https://amzn.to/3Y2T9Jd

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

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I decided to record an episode on a reel that went viral.

My husband wanted to go golfing with the guys basically less then 24 hours after I had took the dogs and our little and we were away for three nights. At first it didn't feel like a big deal, but then I felt frustrated. I mean, why didn't he plan to go while we were away. Didn't he miss me? These moments have typically caused conflict in the past where I would have responded from the frustration and a whole argument and fight would have ensued and... he would have most definitely would have went golfing. When really, I wanted these situations to look different.

This reel triggered a lot of people, which honestly, I think makes perfect sense. It's obviously something so incredibly common and hits a sore spot for many. And I want to talk about what the healthy version of these moments now get to look like for me!

I dive into this episode sharing my insights on what I did to have gotten a more desirable interaction and outcome + the steps I took that got me there so you overcome these moments feeling more connected with your partner!

I mentioned a book in this episode; "It Didn't Start With You" by Mark Wolynn
It talks about generational trauma and how it can shape who we are today, NOT that it needs to be a part of who we are and continue writing our story. It's freaking fascinating. Here is my affliate link on amazon!

https://amzn.to/4gRJHRC

If you want to dive deeper into this work so you can expand the depth of your relationships so you can have more meaningful connections here is how you can currently work with me;

- 1:1 one month coaching w/ real time messaging support (an absolute GAME CHANGER, I mean imagine having support in the thick of these challenging situations and having someone guide you?!) Here is the link to book; https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/211c7852/?appointmentTypeIds[]=53866394

- Emotional Alchemy, a six week live workshop where you will receive the tools and knowledge to dial down the noise and dial up your inner wisdom. The foundation to begin to transform your life and your relationships. Email me at  [email protected] or hop on over to IG and DM me at @alyssa.wack "workshop" and I'll send you the link!

If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict.

Want to work with me?

Hop on over to @alyssa.wack and check the link in bio✨

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