Two options in front of you, months at the crossroads, and every person you ask leaves you exactly where you were. In this fourth episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what you are actually collecting when you ask around (confirmation, not information), the two questions that work like a brake you are pressing yourself, the guarantee hiding inside the word right, why the first hard part convinces you that you chose wrong, and the ten-year question that lets you choose today, standing right where you are.

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Part one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdZGSQr9kBE

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You sit down to start, and all of it arrives at once. The thing is not too big. You are lifting all of it at the same time. In this third episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what overwhelm actually is (the carrying, not the task), the next visible move, the two-minute test, and the deciding-once principle that makes starting almost automatic.

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKLdHsbgslY

Part one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdZGSQr9kBE

Have you ever known exactly what you should do, and still not done it?

That is not laziness. It is a loop: discomfort, avoidance, relief, cost. In this first episode of the Getting Unstuck series I walk through the loop, the five fuels that drive it, how to map one of your own in five honest sentences, and the small interruption that starts rebuilding self-trust.

The free Unstuck Loop Map: resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/unstuck-loop-map

Watch this episode on YouTube: You Are Not Lazy. You Are in a Loop.

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n this episode, I explore why shutting down and blowing up are often not opposites, but two different ways of avoiding the deeper emotion underneath. Using the image of a firebreak, I unpack how emotional maturity is not about suppressing what I feel or unleashing it on everyone around me, but learning to stay with what I feel without becoming overwhelmed by it.

I talk about numbing, anger, emotional flooding, old childhood patterns, nervous system responses, repair in relationships, and the hope that healing is still possible at any age. The goal is not to become less emotional, but to become less afraid of emotion, so I can respond with more honesty, connection, and choice.

In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore a powerful shift in how we handle life’s challenges: are you reacting like a thermometer, or responding like a thermostat? When the world heats up or cools down, do you let it decide your mood and actions, or do you set your own tone from within?

Through simple language and real-life examples, Francois breaks down the four things you can always control – your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions – and shows you how to practise this shift gently in everyday moments. This is a grounded, reflective episode designed to help you slow down, recalibrate, and lead your life from the inside out.

If you’re ready to stop being pulled around by your environment and start choosing your mindset with intention, this one is for you.

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In this episode of Fresh Perspective, Francois explores one of the most common and quietest struggles many of us face: being relentlessly hard on ourselves. Beneath the surface of high standards and self-discipline often lies fear, fear of failure, rejection, or not being enough. Francois unpacks how the inner judge masquerades as responsibility but is really emotional avoidance in disguise.

Drawing from his coaching work and psychology research, he guides listeners through understanding the difference between the Judge and the Coach within, one condemns, the other instructs. You will learn how to shift from self-punishment to self-leadership, how to identify the beliefs that keep your worth conditional, and how to respond to mistakes with clarity rather than cruelty.

Through the story of kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold, this episode offers a reminder that our cracks do not disqualify us; they reveal where the light gets in.

If you have ever felt trapped by your own high expectations or inner criticism, this conversation will help you lay down the whip and pick up the tools of awareness, compassion, and self-trust.

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Francois explores how our endless checklists, colour-coded calendars, and constant activity can quietly become a form of productive avoidance. We tick every box, respond to every email, keep the engine running — yet deep down, we sense we’re circling the same place.

Through simple language and thoughtful reflection, this episode unpacks:

Why we confuse movement with progress.

How busyness keeps us safe from facing deeper fears.

The emotional comfort we get from doing what we already know.

How to recognise when your checklist has become a hiding place.

A simple daily question to help you shift from “busy” to “brave.”

You’ll hear why the checklist isn’t the enemy — it’s the mirror. And how, when we see it clearly, it can reveal what truly matters most.

If you’ve ever ended a full day wondering why all your effort still feels empty, this episode will help you pause, breathe, and find direction beyond the boxes.

Because real growth doesn’t happen when the list is finished — it happens when you start what’s not on it.

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This episode explains that the uncomfortable emotions we avoid are doorways to the breakthroughs we want. It distinguishes three ways we engage with feelings — intellectualizing, intuiting, and instinctual sensations — and shows how overthinking keeps us stuck.

Practical advice: pause when you notice anxiety or tension, allow the feeling to intensify and fully feel it until it passes. Doing so lifts the heaviness, restores presence, and helps you function and connect more fully in life.

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