Trauma on the screen: Film- Phantom Thread

Minimising adverse impact of own own self-split

Towards conscious relationships Mirror and match

Accept what is happening, not how you want things to be

Obsession , Isolation. Crimes of passion

Drama is a relationship killer

In romantic relationships and friendships, being dramatic can be your undoing.

Drama shows up as adaptive behaviours that you developed in your young years to be heard, acknowledged and understood.

Whenever you want to make a point and you do not feel that you are likely to succed, you might find ways to push your agenda.

Drama can be a turn off to people around you.

Here is how you might be dramatic

Consider how we behaved as children from infancy to school going age.

This shows up in our ;

Attitudes

Behaviours

Spoken word.

To manage drama

Be aware of who you are and what makes you do what you do.

Recognise what you want.

Learn to parent yourself when you feel the sensations of drama rising.

Make decisions in your best interest

Learn healthy communication.

Express your needs appropriately.

Give people space to show up for you.

If people are not showing up, that is a reflection of how they feel about your request.

Remember, there are people out there who will meet your needs.

Do not dwell on those who cannot.

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Themes: Rejection, obsession, crimes of passion

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Overcoming learned helplessness

Access your inner resources

Seek support to learn decision making.

Use tools and feel your feelings.

Learn solution focused rumination

You are capable, able and in a position to choose what is life giving just as you are choosing what you are doing presently.

The only difference is that you have learned certain behaviours and practised them for a while.

It is not the other person or other people you need to go to for answers to do things differently. It is a decision you have to make.

#selfreparenting

Why we need tools

1. The shortness of life.

2. Life is only now

3. Life will happen and people will do what people do

4. You cannot control others, only yourself.

5. To be human is to feel and think. We are wired to think negatively, and we need tools if we are to live peacefully.

6. You cannot run away from negative emotions and thoughts. You need them for clarity.

7. A knee jerk life is an unhappy life.

SIFTSEM is on Amazon

SIFTSEM TOOL- Sensations, Images, Feelings, Thoughts, Soothing, Endorphin Release, and Meeting Unmet Needs.: A solution focused emotional-regulation and cognitive restructuring tool for triggers. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08TQCYC7G/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_VW1DCY7A5ET3KKB0J2JE

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