After entering foster care at just two months old, QpidLuv the World Bender spent his entire childhood in the system—moving through approximately 20 foster homes before eventually aging out.
He grew up without the security of a permanent home, separated from his biological siblings and repeatedly forced to adjust to new families, new rules and new surroundings. Over time, he learned not to unpack completely because another move could always be coming.
In this deeply personal episode of From Foster to Forever, QpidLuv shares what it was like to grow up in foster care, experience placement instability and enter adulthood without the support system or practical tools every young person deserves.
He also explains how one foster mother changed the direction of his life by seeing him as more than a case file. When others said he would never graduate or even questioned his ability to read, she believed in his intelligence, introduced him to books and encouraged him to learn skills that would later support his career as an author and creator.
Today, QpidLuv is a writer, musician, producer and imaginative “world bender” who transforms his lived experience into stories about belonging, identity, healing and hope. His fictional Haven Ridge community and Forever Home Project envision a place where children and young adults affected by foster care can find safety, stability, guidance and connection.
QpidLuv also offers powerful advice to foster parents, particularly those caring for teens and children with significant trauma. He reminds caregivers that challenging behavior is often rooted in fear, grief and survival—not because a child is inherently “bad.”
His message is clear: consistency matters. Patience matters. Believing in a young person matters. Even one safe adult—and even one year in a stable, loving home—can change the course of a child’s life.
Rather than waiting for the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel, QpidLuv says he learned to bring his own flashlight. Now, through his books, music and creative projects, he hopes to help other foster youth discover their own light and create a path forward.
In This Episode, We Discuss:
- Entering foster care as an infant and remaining in care until emancipation
- Moving through approximately 20 foster homes
- The emotional impact of placement instability
- Being separated from biological siblings
- Aging out of foster care without a permanent family
- The foster mother who recognized QpidLuv’s potential
- How reading, writing and imagination became tools for survival
- The connection between childhood trauma and adult isolation
- Rebuilding relationships with biological family members
- Why healing is a continuing process rather than a destination
- Turning lived experience into books, music and fictional worlds
- The inspiration behind Haven Ridge and the Forever Home Project
- Why foster youth need practical life skills before leaving care
- How foster parents can respond to trauma-related behaviors
- Why fostering a teenager is never “too late”
- The importance of consistency, patience and unconditional support
- Creating hope when the light at the end of the tunnel feels out of reach
A Powerful Message for Foster Parents
QpidLuv encourages foster and resource parents to look beneath a child’s behavior and recognize the fear, trauma and uncertainty that may be driving it.
Children in foster care need more than a bed and a temporary place to stay. They need caregivers who consistently show up, believe in their abilities, teach practical skills and continue caring even when trust takes time.
As QpidLuv explains, a teenager may have only one year left in foster care—but that one year with a safe, committed adult can still make an extraordinary difference.
About QpidLuv the World Bender
QpidLuv the World Bender is an author, musician, producer and multidisciplinary creator with lived experience in the foster care system. His books, music and fictional universes explore themes of trauma, identity, family, belonging, healing and perseverance.
Through the Forever Home Project and the fictional community of Haven Ridge, he is building a creative vision of what safety, support and connection could look like for children and young adults affected by foster care.
Connect With QpidLuv
The Forever Home Project and Safe Home Chronicles:
https://foreversafehome.com
Books, music and creative projects:
https://blackfacemedia.com
Music:
Search for Blackface Radio on Spotify.
Audio series:
Search for Deadly Confessions on Pocket FM.
About From Foster to Forever
From Foster to Forever shares honest and inspiring conversations about foster care, foster-to-adopt, adoption, kinship care and the many ways families are formed.
Hosted by Rachel Fulginiti, the podcast amplifies the voices of former foster youth, adult adoptees, foster and adoptive parents, advocates and professionals working to improve outcomes for children and families.
Learn more at:
https://fromfoster2forever.com
Follow the podcast on Instagram:
@Foster2ForeverPodcast
Links referenced in this episode:
- foreversafehome.com
- blackfacemedia.com
- fromfostertoforever.com
- spoti.fi/BlackfaceRadio
- pocketfm.com/DeadlyConfessions