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If Valentine’s Day makes you feel anxious, lonely, sad, or “behind” in life, this episode is for you.
In this honest and grounding conversation, Sam Morris shares why feeling triggered on February 14th is completely normal especially if you’re single, newly single, or healing from a toxic relationship.
This isn’t a “just love yourself” pep talk.
It’s a nervous-system-aware, reality-based guide to surviving Valentine’s Day without:
- Downloading dating apps in a panic
- Texting your ex
- Rushing into the wrong relationship
- Pretending you’re fine when you’re not
If you want healthy love one day, this episode will help you protect your peace today.
🎙 About the Host: Sam Morris
Sam Morris is a qualified healthy relationship practitioner and trauma-informed dating coach. She helps single men and women heal their nervous system, break toxic relationship patterns, and build the confidence required for aligned, healthy love.
She believes you cannot attract healthy love if you don’t already love yourself enough to walk away from unhealthy behaviour.
Why Valentine’s Day Feels So Hard (Even If You “Don’t Care” About It)
Valentine’s Day is the only holiday fully dedicated to romantic love — and it’s a multi-million-pound commercial machine designed to amplify it.
That constant messaging can create:
- Comparison
- Envy
- A sense of being “behind”
- Nervous system dysregulation
- Emotional triggers from past relationships
Your body may interpret “everyone else is in love and I’m not” as a threat — activating fight, flight, or freeze.
And here’s the truth:
Most of what you see online is a highlight reel.
People don’t post:
- The argument they had that morning
- The cheating they discovered the week before
- The fact they feel disconnected
Social media rarely reflects emotional reality.
If You’re Single on Valentine’s Day, Here’s What NOT To Do
Sam shares clear, practical boundaries to protect yourself:
❌ Don’t rush into a date just to avoid being alone
❌ Don’t text your ex (even if they text you)
❌ Don’t download dating apps out of panic
❌ Don’t scroll social media all day
❌ Don’t pretend you’re happy being single if you’re not
Suppressing feelings doesn’t make them disappear — it confuses your nervous system and slows healing.
What TO Do Instead
If you’re feeling vulnerable, here’s how to regulate and reclaim the day:
✔ Plan Valentine’s Day in advance — don’t leave it to chance
✔ Limit or delete social media for the weekend
✔ Buy yourself something meaningful
✔ Plan time with other single friends
✔ Attend a “Galentine’s” or local event
✔ Practice gratitude first thing in the morning
✔ Write a letter to your future partner
✔ Journal about what healthy love actually looks like for you
Being single on Valentine’s Day does not mean you’ve failed.
It might mean:
- You didn’t settle
- You left something unhealthy
- You’re doing the healing work
- You’re protecting your future
That’s strength.
Newly Single? This Is Important.
If this is your first Valentine’s Day after a breakup, it may feel especially painful.
That’s grief.
You’re grieving:
- What you hoped this year would look like
- The version of love you thought you had
- The future you imagined
Logic doesn’t override emotion.
Even if the relations
Find out how to change those patterns with the love loop quiz
