One of the difficulties we face in our industrialized age is that we’ve lost our sense of seasons. Unlike the farmer whose priorities change with the seasons, we have become impervious to the natural rhythm of life—and we have our priorities out of balance as a result.
For a farmer, springtime is his most active time. It’s then when he must work around the clock, up before the sun, and still toiling at the stroke of midnight. He must keep his equipment running at full capacity because he has but a small window of time for the planting of his crop. When winter comes, there is less for him to do to keep him busy. Jim Rohn
Learn to use the seasons of life.
Galatians 6:5 English Standard Version (ESV)
For each will have to bear his own load.
God has placed in each human an innate ability to solve problems, but once your focus is shifted from solutions to blame then we’ve deactivated the clarity.
I agree that at times things happen to us that's not fear. This is why having a students mindset is so valuable in achieving victory over life's defeats. With a student mindset, it helps you to look for solutions or what can I do next time to prevent this from happening again. It also helps you to see each defeat or knockdown as an opportunity to learn and grow.
It's with caution that I say this. If we’re seeing others as the problem or to be blamed, this results in you having to change that person. Which is not our responsibility. But if we take a look in the mirror and focus our attention on developing ourselves daily. Now we’ve immediately shifted our focus from blame to growth and personal development.
Here are a few steps in arming yourself from blaming others.
1. Continue raising your personal value.
Meaning: Continue to make an effort to spend some quality time with God each day, which in result, reinforces your new thoughts, and builds confidence in God’s authority to rise above troubles.
2.Keep a high priority on reimbursing trust with excellence in whatever you do.
Let us stop playing the blame game and start taking responsibility for our mental and personal development.