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What is your future?

Your future-self only exists in your imagination. 

Your future is not better than your present or your past. 

Your future-self can be a guide and mentor. When we focus on our future, that focus can give us direction in the present and in difficult moments. 

The better we get to know our future-self, the more we live in alignment with who we want to become. 

Live from “What’s possible?”

Too many times we define ourselves by our past mistakes and struggles. It's much more powerful to define yourself by your potential and possibilities. 

Your future-self is YOU! Your future-self is the combination of your past,  present, and future. 

Everything from your past is connected to your future.

You own your future. You get to create it exactly how you want it. You are the only person who knows what you want.

How to use your future-self as a mentor and guide!

We want to embrace the power of our future-self by exploring who we would be at the future point of our goals and dreams. What would we think, feel, and do?

By doing this, your future-self can become a guide and mentor in your present lives. You can receive direction and clarity from seeing what your dream future looks like and who you become. 

One of the common pitfall that I see parents and their teens get caught in is letting their past mistakes and struggles define them. As parents, we do this to our teens. Our teens follow our examples and do it back to us. And then, we do it to ourselves. We never quite let go of the past or intentionally define it for ourselves. 

Explore your future and what you would like it to look like. Get curious about your potential and your future possibilities. 

Once you've explored your potential, get clear on some dreams and desires. What would it take on your part to make it a reality? Imagine your future-self having accomplished those dreams. What did they have to do? Who did they become to accomplish those dreams? 

What would the you that has already accomplished your dreams and goals do? What would they feel? What would they think about?

Now, start living your life with that future focus. Keep your future in your sights. Have your future possibilities drive your actions, as a parent and simply as a human being. 

The clearer you get on what you would like your future to look like, the better you understand who you would have to be to live that future, the easier it is to set goals. 

Live in the present!

“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.” 
~Thomas S. Monson

You can only change the future by living in the present. In A Christmas Carol we see how Scrooge starts living differently. He showed up from day to day. 

He was willing to be laughed at and judged by others. 

He was changing for himself and for his future possibilities. 

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