IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

Do you want to know the biggest mistake parents of teens make? It might surprise you! Many parents think it's things like yelling at their teen, trying to control them, or being too friendly. But the biggest mistake is actually trying to change their teen instead of focusing on being the kind of parent they want to be.

In this podcast, we talk about how to be the parent of your dreams. First, you need to know what kind of parent you want to be. Then, you should do a daily check-in to see how you're doing. You can also practice being the parent you want to be using something called the "Wheel of Life." And remember, focus on what you can control, which is yourself, not your teen.

If you're tired of always yelling at your teen, figure out what kind of parent you want to be instead. Then start working on being that kind of parent. It won't be easy and it won't happen overnight, but with practice and awareness, you can be the parent of your dreams!

See the full show notes at: https://benpughcoaching.com/233

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

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It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

Life with teens is like a constantly turning wheel - sometimes you're on top, sometimes you're underneath. In this powerful episode, learn how to use these natural ups and downs to become a better parent.

You'll discover:
 • Why some moments with your teen feel easy while others feel impossible
 • How to use the good moments to prepare for the challenging ones
 • A simple way to practice being your best parenting self
 • How to stay calm when parenting gets tough
 • Why your teen's behavior isn't always about you

Plus, learn how this tool works perfectly with last week's Parenting Debrief technique to transform your relationship with your teen!

Perfect for parents who want to stop riding the emotional rollercoaster with their teens and start parenting with confidence - no matter where the wheel takes you.

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

Want to become a better parent? Just like athletes watch game tapes to improve, parents can look back at their parenting moments to get better too! In this eye-opening episode, we'll introduce you to a powerful tool called the 'parent debrief.'

We'll explore:
 • What a parent debrief is and why every parent needs one
 • Two different ways to do a debrief (by yourself or with your teen)
 • How to turn tough parenting moments into opportunities for growth
 • Ways to strengthen your relationship with your teen
 • Common mistakes to avoid
 • How to use this tool to become a more aware and intentional parent

Plus, get our free PDF guide with the exact steps and questions for doing your own parent debriefs!

Perfect for parents who want to learn from both their good and not-so-good parenting moments. Discover how this simple practice can transform your parenting and help you become the parent you want to be!

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

Think of your parenting style like a thermostat - it's set to run at a certain temperature no matter what. In this eye-opening episode, we explore how these 'parenting presets' work and, more importantly, how to change them.

We'll cover:
 • What parenting presets are (using a simple thermostat example)
 • How to spot your own parenting patterns
 • Four simple steps to change your parenting auto-pilot:

• Becoming aware of your current settings
• Understanding where they came from
• Separating yourself from old habits
• Creating new parenting patterns

Perfect for parents who find themselves stuck in reactions they don't want, like yelling or being too controlling. Learn how to reset your parenting thermostat to the temperature you actually want!

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

Ever told someone 'I know, I know' when they try to help you? We all do it - but this simple phrase might be stopping us from becoming better parents.

In this eye-opening episode, we talk about:
 • What happens when we think we already know everything
 • How to spot when we're stuck in the 'I know' trap
 • Why being curious is better than being sure
 • Simple ways to try new parenting ideas
 • The big difference between knowing something and actually doing it

Using real stories and simple examples, we'll show you how dropping the 'I know everything' attitude can help you become a better parent. Learn how being open to new ideas can make a huge difference in your relationship with your teen.

This episode is perfect for any parent who wants to learn new ways to connect with their teenager. Come join us and discover how being curious (instead of knowing it all) can change everything!"Ever told someone 'I know, I know' when they try to help you? We all do it - but this simple phrase might be stopping us from becoming better parents.

In this eye-opening episode, we talk about:
 • What happens when we think we already know everything
 • How to spot when we're stuck in the 'I know' trap
 • Why being curious is better than being sure
 • Simple ways to try new parenting ideas
 • The big difference between knowing something and actually doing it

Using real stories and simple examples, we'll show you how dropping the 'I know everything' attitude can help you become a better parent. Learn how being open to new ideas can make a huge difference in your relationship with your teen.

This episode is perfect for any parent who wants to learn new ways to connect with their teenager. Come join us and discover how being curious (instead of knowing it all) can change everything!"

Find the full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/229

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the pervasive blame culture and its detrimental effects on personal growth and relationships. Through two compelling football stories, we explore how blame, complaining, and making excuses can lead to a disempowering victim mentality.

Key points covered:

1. The impact of blame culture on team dynamics and personal performance
2. Identifying signs of the victim mentality
3. The importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and outcomes
4. How to empower others by focusing on what's within their control
5. Practical strategies for coaching teens to be responsible and proactive
6. The power of leading by example in fostering a culture of responsibility

Join us as we discuss how to stand out against the prevalent blame culture and provide your teens with the tools they need to take responsibility for their lives. Learn how to transform challenging situations into opportunities for growth and empowerment. This episode is a must-listen for parents, coaches, and anyone looking to cultivate a more responsible and proactive mindset in themselves and others.

Full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/228

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

In this eye-opening episode, Ben introduces the game-changing book "Leadership and Self-Deception" and explains why it's his top recommendation for parents struggling with their teens.

Discover:

• Why this book is a must-read for anyone seeking to improve family relationships
• The concept of "being in the box" and how it affects your interactions with your teen
• How self-deception can sabotage your parenting efforts without you realizing it
• Real-life examples of how this book has transformed relationships, including Ben's personal experience
• An alternative book recommendation, "The Anatomy of Peace," for those who prefer a different approach
• The limiting belief that often traps parents and how to break free from it
• An empowering alternative mindset that puts you in control of positive change

Ben shares insights on how shifting your perspective from blaming your teen to focusing on your own growth can lead to dramatic improvements in your relationship. He challenges listeners to embrace the idea that they are the solution to every problem they face with their teen.

If you're ready to break free from unproductive patterns and create a more harmonious relationship with your teenager, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how escaping self-deception can unlock your potential as a parent and transform your family dynamic.

Don't forget to take the Parent Trap Quiz at benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz to identify your parenting obstacles and find quick solutions.

Full show notes at benpughcoaching.com/227

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

In this empowering episode, Ben challenges the widespread belief that there's a magical, external solution to parenting struggles. Discover why you already possess the wisdom and strength to be the parent your teen needs.

Learn about:

• The societal conditioning that leads parents to seek external solutions
• Why relying on "experts" can sometimes undermine your parental instincts
• The power of recognizing yourself as the hero in your parenting journey
• Real-life examples of parents tapping into their inner wisdom
• Strategies for trusting your parenting instincts and decision-making
• How to access and utilize your unique "parenting superpowers"

Ben shares a touching anecdote about a mom who thought she was hearing his advice, when in reality, she was accessing her own inner wisdom. He offers insights on how to recognize and trust your innate parenting abilities.

If you're tired of feeling dependent on external advice and ready to embrace your role as the true expert in your teen's life, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to become the hero of your own parenting story and tap into the superpowers you've had all along.

Full show notes at benpughcoaching.com/226

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common parental instinct to shield teens from failure. Discover why allowing your teen to experience setbacks is crucial for their personal growth and future success.

Learn about:

• The societal pressures driving parents to protect teens from failure
• Why failure is a vital component in developing resilience and life skills
• The unintended consequences of constantly "fixing" things for your teen
• Real-life examples of how overprotection can backfire, including a local sexting scandal
• Strategies for empowering your teen to face and learn from their mistakes
• The concept of an "un-ruinable life" and how it can transform your teen's perspective

Ben shares insights on how to shift from being a "fixer" to becoming a supportive guide for your teen. He offers practical advice on how to respond to your teen's failures in ways that build confidence and resilience.

If you're tired of constantly intervening in your teen's challenges and ready to help them develop true independence and resilience, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how embracing failure can be the key to your teen's long-term success and emotional well-being.

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

Are you struggling to connect with your teenager? In this insightful episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, tackles the widespread issue of parent-teen disconnection and offers a transformative approach to rebuilding your relationship.

Discover why the disconnect between parents and teens is so common and learn about:

• The societal and cultural factors contributing to parent-teen disconnection
• Why focusing on conflicting values widens the gap between you and your teen
• The power of identifying shared values to strengthen your relationship
• A step-by-step process for building Values-Based Relationships
• Real-life examples of how this approach has transformed parent-teen dynamics

Ben shares a touching personal anecdote about his toddler son connecting over football, illustrating how children naturally seek connection through shared interests. He then explains how to apply this principle to your relationship with your teen.

If you're tired of feeling like you and your teen are speaking different languages and you're ready to foster a deep, loving connection, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to bridge the gap and create a relationship where both you and your teen feel understood and valued.

Full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/224

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.