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Do you ever feel like the harder you push, the more your teen pulls away?
 You’re trying to help—but it keeps turning into lectures, power struggles, or shutdowns.

In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective, Ben speaks directly to dads who feel stuck between caring deeply and controlling too much. Using simple sports coaching examples, he explains why control creates short-term compliance—but long-term problems.

You’ll learn how to shift from fixing and forcing to coaching and supporting.
 This isn’t about being passive. It’s about raising capable adults with confidence and connection.

If you want a calmer home and a stronger relationship, this episode is for you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Every January, parents set big goals.
 And every February, most of those goals are gone.

In this episode, Ben explains why New Year’s goals fail every time—and what actually works instead.

The problem isn’t willpower.
 It’s not motivation.
 And it’s not that you’re doing something wrong.

Most people start with what they want to do.
Real change starts with who you want to be.

You’ll learn why identity matters more than goals, why habits stick only when they match who you believe you are, and how small daily choices can lead to big change over time.

If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns—especially with your teen—this episode will help you do something different this year.

Simple. Practical. And doable.

Press play and start becoming the parent you want to be.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

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What if your teen isn’t the problem?

In this Christmas episode, Ben shares a powerful lesson from A Christmas Carol. Scrooge wasn’t a bad man—he was a wounded one. The same is often true for parents. When teens trigger us, it’s usually a sign that there’s healing work to do inside ourselves.

This episode will help you parent with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—starting with you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

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The holidays can feel busy, loud, and stressful — especially when you’re parenting teens. Many parents try to fix this by setting big goals or New Year’s resolutions, but those don’t usually last.

In this episode, Ben Pugh shares a better way.

Instead of chasing goals, Ben talks about building simple traditions and habits that help you become the parent and person you want to be. These traditions aren’t about forcing family fun or controlling your teen. They’re about creating more calm, meaning, and peace — starting with you.

You’ll learn why what you do matters less than who you are while you do it, and how small traditions can make the holidays (and the new year) feel lighter and more intentional.

If you want less chaos and more connection, this episode is for you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

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Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them.

Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something they both share. But that’s not how it works. You have your own relationship with your teen, and your teen has their own relationship with you—and they’re not the same.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 • Why your teen’s thoughts and feelings are NOT your job
 • Why trying to make your teen like you actually hurts the relationship
 • How to stop being a “doormat parent”
 • How to set calm and clear boundaries
 • How to focus on the things you can control
• How to improve your relationship with your teen even if they don’t change at all

If you want more peace, more confidence, and more connection with your teen, this episode will show you where your real power is.

Full show notes for this episode: benpughcoaching.com

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why parents get stuck repeating the same patterns even when they’re trying to “do better,” and how a surprising back injury (and some AI wisdom) revealed the deeper truth about how to change.

You’ll learn why your old emotional patterns keep pulling you back, how to spot the warning signs of a parenting “flare-up,” and the one update that instantly improves how you show up with your teen. This episode is equal parts hilarious (yes, including topless back-pain photos sent to AI), relatable, and transformational.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your old programming keeps sabotaging your relationship
• How to spot the flare-up signs before things blow up
• The surprising lesson Ben learned from an SI-joint meltdown
• How to stop reinforcing parenting habits that don’t work
• What your teen’s “porcupine mode” is really inviting you to do
• A simple way to start reprogramming your parenting today

Whether your teen is crabby, distant, or prickly — or you just want more peace at home — this episode will help you shift your patterns and strengthen your connection.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

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The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is amazing… until it’s not.
 Family drama. Stress. That one uncle. The comments you wish you didn’t hear.
 But what if ONE mindset shift could help you enjoy the day instead of surviving it?

In this quick Thanksgiving special, Ben and Cortni talk about the real secret to gratitude — not the cheesy, forced kind, but the kind that changes your emotions fast.

Inside, you’ll learn:

• Why gratitude is a choice (not a feeling)
• How to get unstuck when family triggers you
• The mindset mistake most parents make at holidays
• A simple way to shift your focus in under 10 seconds
• How to stop absorbing everyone else’s energy
• What to do when Grandma says something wild

Whether you’re listening on Thanksgiving Day or just trying not to lose your cool this weekend, this episode is your reset button.

You’re not your thoughts. You’re the thinker of your thoughts — and that’s where your power is.

Happy Thanksgiving! 🦃

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

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Identity is your hidden superpower as a parent.

In this episode, Ben shares a powerful story from the football field about getting out of the victim mindset, redefining his identity, and modeling the exact behavior he wanted to see in his players — and how the same principle can transform your parenting.

You'll learn why your teen doesn’t need a perfect parent… just one who leads with connection, clarity, and consistency.

If you’ve been feeling stuck or unsure how to help your teen, this episode will help you redefine who YOU want to be so you can show up as the parent your teen actually learns from.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Ever tried to push your teen to change… only to have them push right back? You’re not alone.

In this episode, Ben breaks down why trying to force your teen to change almost always backfires—and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop pushing, start leading, and model the kind of growth you actually want to see in your teen.

Ben shares real-life examples (including a story about a stubborn horse) to help you see how pressure creates resistance, and how leadership creates inspiration.

If your teen doesn’t want coaching—or doesn’t think they need to change—this episode will show you how you can be the catalyst for transformation in your home.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

When your teen suddenly “stops caring” — about school, sports, church, or even family — it can feel like everything’s falling apart.
 Maybe they used to try hard, follow rules, and keep you happy.
 Now, they’re unmotivated, moody, or even defiant.

Most parents panic at this point.
 But what if your teen’s “not caring” isn’t a breakdown… it’s actually a breakthrough?

In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack why your teen pulling back might mean they’re finally learning to think for themselves — and why that’s a good thing. You’ll hear real stories from coaching teens and parents who went through this same shift, plus practical ways to stay calm, confident, and connected while your teen figures out who they are.

We’ll talk about:

• Why it’s healthy for your teen to stop pretending to care just to please you
• What “programming” really means — and how to update yours as a parent
• The difference between control and connection
• How to give your teen autonomy without losing influence
• What to do when your teen questions their faith, motivation, or direction
• And why your relationship will always matter more than being “right”

When your teen stops caring, it’s not the end of your influence — it’s the start of theirs.
 Learn how to support that growth with love, confidence, and perspective.

🎧 Tune in now and discover why letting go might be the best way to help your teen grow up.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz