IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

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What do you do when your teen won’t listen, won’t change, or won’t accept help?
 Maybe they refuse coaching, therapy, or even a simple conversation.

In this episode, Ben Pugh talks to parents who feel stuck and worn out. He shares what you can do when your teen isn’t willing to work on themselves. You’ll learn how to stop trying to control what you can’t, focus on what you can control, and reconnect with your teen in a healthier way.

This episode isn’t about fixing your teen.
 It’s about helping you show up with confidence, love, and clarity—no matter how your teen is acting.

If you feel overwhelmed or unsure where to start, this episode is for you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Many parents today are scared.

Everywhere you look, there are headlines saying phones, social media, AI, and screen time are driving teen suicide. It can feel overwhelming. And when parents feel afraid, they often start parenting from panic.

In this episode, I want to slow things down and zoom out.

We talk about what the data actually shows about teen suicide. We look at why some of the statistics being shared are true—but also misleading. And we talk about why blaming phones and social media misses the bigger picture.

I also share a personal story from my time as a high school principal and why learning to understand the data helped me move from fear to confidence.

This episode isn’t about ignoring real struggles. Teen suicide is serious. But fear-based parenting is not the answer.

You’ll learn:

• Why most teens use phones and social media without being suicidal
• How fear and panic change the way parents show up
• What research says really protects teens
• Why connection matters more than control
• How to parent from confidence instead of fear

If you’ve felt anxious, worried, or pressured by scary headlines, this episode will help you breathe, think clearly, and trust yourself as a parent again.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Parenting a teen can feel draining.
 You might feel tired, frustrated, or stuck in stress mode.

If that’s you, this episode is here to help.

In this conversation, Ben and Cortni talk about why parenting feels so exhausting and how to start feeling better fast. The problem usually isn’t your teen. It’s where your energy and focus are going.

You’ll learn simple shifts that can bring quick relief, including:

• How to stop stressing over things you can’t control
• Why trying to fix or change your teen wears you out
• How to manage your emotions instead of fighting them
• When to give responsibility back to your teen

These small changes can help you feel calmer, more confident, and less overwhelmed—starting today.

If you’re ready to stop feeling so tired and start enjoying parenting again, this episode is for you.

🎧 Press play and take a breath—you don’t have to do this alone.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Blowups. Overreactions. Now What Do I Do?

Every parent has a moment they wish they could take back.
 You raise your voice. You overreact. You walk away feeling awful.

In this episode, Ben Pugh and Cortni talk about what really matters after those ugly parenting moments. You’ll learn why blowups happen, how stress and exhaustion play a role, and why repairing the relationship is more important than parenting perfectly.

This episode will help you:

• Understand why parenting blowups happen
• Learn how to repair your relationship with your teen
• Apologize in a way that builds trust
• Stop feeling stuck in guilt and move forward

If you’ve ever wondered, “Did I just mess everything up?” this episode is for you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Do you ever feel like the harder you push, the more your teen pulls away?
 You’re trying to help—but it keeps turning into lectures, power struggles, or shutdowns.

In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective, Ben speaks directly to dads who feel stuck between caring deeply and controlling too much. Using simple sports coaching examples, he explains why control creates short-term compliance—but long-term problems.

You’ll learn how to shift from fixing and forcing to coaching and supporting.
 This isn’t about being passive. It’s about raising capable adults with confidence and connection.

If you want a calmer home and a stronger relationship, this episode is for you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Every January, parents set big goals.
 And every February, most of those goals are gone.

In this episode, Ben explains why New Year’s goals fail every time—and what actually works instead.

The problem isn’t willpower.
 It’s not motivation.
 And it’s not that you’re doing something wrong.

Most people start with what they want to do.
Real change starts with who you want to be.

You’ll learn why identity matters more than goals, why habits stick only when they match who you believe you are, and how small daily choices can lead to big change over time.

If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns—especially with your teen—this episode will help you do something different this year.

Simple. Practical. And doable.

Press play and start becoming the parent you want to be.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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What if your teen isn’t the problem?

In this Christmas episode, Ben shares a powerful lesson from A Christmas Carol. Scrooge wasn’t a bad man—he was a wounded one. The same is often true for parents. When teens trigger us, it’s usually a sign that there’s healing work to do inside ourselves.

This episode will help you parent with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—starting with you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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The holidays can feel busy, loud, and stressful — especially when you’re parenting teens. Many parents try to fix this by setting big goals or New Year’s resolutions, but those don’t usually last.

In this episode, Ben Pugh shares a better way.

Instead of chasing goals, Ben talks about building simple traditions and habits that help you become the parent and person you want to be. These traditions aren’t about forcing family fun or controlling your teen. They’re about creating more calm, meaning, and peace — starting with you.

You’ll learn why what you do matters less than who you are while you do it, and how small traditions can make the holidays (and the new year) feel lighter and more intentional.

If you want less chaos and more connection, this episode is for you.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them.

Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something they both share. But that’s not how it works. You have your own relationship with your teen, and your teen has their own relationship with you—and they’re not the same.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 • Why your teen’s thoughts and feelings are NOT your job
 • Why trying to make your teen like you actually hurts the relationship
 • How to stop being a “doormat parent”
 • How to set calm and clear boundaries
 • How to focus on the things you can control
• How to improve your relationship with your teen even if they don’t change at all

If you want more peace, more confidence, and more connection with your teen, this episode will show you where your real power is.

Full show notes for this episode: benpughcoaching.com

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why parents get stuck repeating the same patterns even when they’re trying to “do better,” and how a surprising back injury (and some AI wisdom) revealed the deeper truth about how to change.

You’ll learn why your old emotional patterns keep pulling you back, how to spot the warning signs of a parenting “flare-up,” and the one update that instantly improves how you show up with your teen. This episode is equal parts hilarious (yes, including topless back-pain photos sent to AI), relatable, and transformational.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your old programming keeps sabotaging your relationship
• How to spot the flare-up signs before things blow up
• The surprising lesson Ben learned from an SI-joint meltdown
• How to stop reinforcing parenting habits that don’t work
• What your teen’s “porcupine mode” is really inviting you to do
• A simple way to start reprogramming your parenting today

Whether your teen is crabby, distant, or prickly — or you just want more peace at home — this episode will help you shift your patterns and strengthen your connection.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz