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Are you frustrated by parenting advice that promises to make your teen obey or trust you? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, a former foster parent and experienced coach, challenges the myth of teen control and offers a transformative perspective on parenting.

Discover why trying to control your teen is counterproductive and learn about:

• The T-Chart of Control: A simple tool to identify what's within your influence
• The Consequence Quadrant: A powerful framework for discussing outcomes with your teen
• Real-life examples of parents shifting from control to empowerment
• Practical strategies to let go of control without losing your parental role

Ben shares candid stories from his experience, including a memorable conversation with an anesthesiologist dad about the absurdity of total teen control. He offers insights on how small mindset shifts can dramatically improve your relationship with your teen.

If you're tired of power struggles and ready for a more harmonious approach to parenting, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to empower both yourself and your teen, becoming the supportive parent you aspire to be.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Are you a parent struggling to set effective boundaries with your teenager? In this eye-opening podcast, Ben, a former high school principal and experienced parent coach, reveals how you can transform your approach to boundaries and consequences, leading to a more harmonious relationship with your teen.

Ben introduces a powerful tool called The Consequence Quadrant, which challenges the common misconception that consequences are all about punishment. He explains how parents often fall into the trap of relying too heavily on negative, enforced consequences, and shares a more balanced and empowering approach.

In this podcast, you'll discover:

• The four types of consequences and how they impact your teen's behavior
• Why focusing solely on negative, enforced consequences can be counterproductive
• How to shift your focus to positive and natural consequences for better results
• Practical strategies for implementing The Consequence Quadrant in your parenting
• Ways to empower your teen to make better choices independently

Ben emphasizes that while you can't control your teen's actions, you can create an environment that encourages responsible decision-making. He shares relatable examples from his own experiences as a parent and from working with numerous families, offering insights into how small shifts in your approach can lead to significant improvements in your relationship with your teen.

Throughout the episodes, Ben provides actionable advice on how to have productive conversations about boundaries and consequences with your teenager. He encourages parents to involve their teens in the process, fostering mutual understanding and respect.

If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed by constant arguments, disrespect, or confusion about enforcing rules, this podcast will provide you with a fresh perspective and practical tools to improve your family dynamics. Tune in now and learn how to build better boundaries with better consequences, becoming the confident and effective parent you aspire to be.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Are you feeling like you're on the "struggle bus" with your teenager? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the single most significant factor causing friction between parents and teens worldwide.

Drawing from my experience coaching parents across five continents, I reveal why traditional parenting advice often misses the mark. You'll discover:

• Why focusing on changing your teen's behavior rarely works
• The surprising truth about screen time and video games
• How to shift your perspective from controlling your teen to empowering yourself
• The power of defining your parenting identity (and why it's not as simple as you might think)

We'll explore real-life examples, including a personal anecdote about milk cows and teenage responsibility. Plus, I'll introduce you to a game-changing concept that can transform your relationship with your teen almost overnight.

Whether you're a seasoned parent or new to the teenage years, this episode offers fresh insights and practical strategies. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of how to stop struggling and start connecting with your teen.

Don't miss the exciting announcement about our upcoming free parenting class! Tune in to learn how you can choose your own parenting adventure and take the first step towards becoming the parent of your dreams.

Remember, it's never too late to improve your relationship with your teen. Let's start this journey together!

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

As the school year kicks off, are you and your teen feeling overwhelmed? In this episode, we're uncovering 7 little-known secrets that can transform your back-to-school experience. Drawing from years of experience as a parent, foster parent, and former high school principal, I'm sharing insights that have helped countless teens and families navigate the challenges of academic life.

We'll explore why school failure doesn't equal life failure, how to prioritize your relationship with your teen, and why it's crucial to be aware of pro-school bias. You'll learn about the irreplaceable role of parents in education, how to inject fun into learning, and the ethical use of AI in schoolwork. Plus, we'll discuss the importance of seeking help early and consistently.

As a bonus, we'll reveal the ultimate secret to having great friends at school - it might surprise you!

Whether you're a parent looking to support your teen or a student aiming for a successful year, this episode is packed with practical advice and fresh perspectives. Tune in to discover how these secrets can help you and your teen not just survive, but thrive this school year.

Remember, you don't have to implement every secret - even one can make a significant difference. Let's make this the best school year yet!

Full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/219

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

In this powerful episode rewind, we dive into ten game-changing daily habits that can revolutionize your parenting approach and strengthen your bond with your teenager. These practical, actionable strategies will help you navigate the challenges of raising teens with confidence and purpose.

We'll explore:

1. Setting daily intentions to guide your parenting
2. Committing to genuine connection with your teen
3. Embracing present-moment awareness in your interactions
4. Managing your mindset for better parenting outcomes
5. Cultivating trust in yourself, your teen, and the parenting process
6. Letting go of what you can't control to focus on what you can
7. The importance of consistent practice in personal growth
8. Embracing mistakes as learning opportunities
9. Being the change you want to see in your teen
10. Leveraging your unique strengths as a parent

Whether you're struggling with communication, seeking to build a stronger relationship, or simply want to enhance your parenting skills, this episode offers practical wisdom and actionable advice. Learn how to set powerful intentions, stay present, manage your mind, and model the behavior you want to see in your teen.

Join us to discover how these ten daily habits can transform your parenting journey and create a more harmonious, connected relationship with your teenager."In this powerful episode, we dive into ten game-changing daily habits that can revolutionize your parenting approach and strengthen your bond with your teenager. These practical, actionable strategies will help you navigate the challenges of raising teens with confidence and purpose.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

In this eye-opening episode, we challenge the common parenting instinct to fix, change, or control our teens. Instead, we explore a transformative approach that puts the power of change right where it belongs - with you.

We'll dive into:
• Why trying to fix others, especially your teen, backfires
• The cultural trap of attempting to control others
• How shifting your attention to self-improvement can transform your family dynamics
• The profound impact of 'being the change you want to see'
• Real-life examples of how personal growth catalyzes change in others

Learn why parenting from the 'inside-out' is more effective than traditional 'outside-in' approaches. Discover how letting go of control paradoxically gives you more influence and improves your relationship with your teen.

Whether you're struggling with a rebellious teenager or simply want to enhance your parenting skills, this episode offers practical, powerful strategies for personal growth that ripple out to positively impact your entire family.

Join us to unlock the secret of truly effective parenting - it starts with you!

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

In this thought-provoking episode, we challenge common misconceptions about trauma and empower you to take control of your healing journey. Discover why there's no need for 'trauma police' and how understanding trauma as programming can be a game-changer.

We'll explore:
• The personal nature of trauma and why comparisons are futile
• Two crucial aspects of trauma that are often overlooked
• How generational trauma manifests in everyday life
• The empowering perspective of viewing trauma as programming
• Why YOU are the key to healing your own trauma

Learn why shifting blame doesn't lead to healing and how taking responsibility for your trauma recovery can transform your life and future generations. We'll discuss real-life examples of generational trauma and provide insights on breaking these cycles.

Whether you're dealing with personal trauma or supporting a loved one, this episode offers a fresh, empowering perspective on trauma healing. Join us to unlock your potential for growth and discover how you can be the change that breaks the chain of generational trauma."

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

This week, we're turning back the clock to bring you one of our most beloved episodes. Get ready to revisit a fan favorite that had everyone talking!

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Join us as we dive deep into the often misunderstood world of attachment disorders. In this eye-opening episode, we'll separate fact from fiction and explore the real impact of attachment issues on both teens and parents.

Discover why healing your own wounds is crucial before attempting to address your teen's challenges. Learn practical strategies to navigate the complex emotions that come with parenting a child with attachment difficulties, including:

• Giving your teen the benefit of the doubt
• Finding self-love and appreciation
• Reprocessing past hurts
• Letting go of expectations

Whether you're dealing with attachment disorder or simply want to strengthen your bond with your teen, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on creating healthier, more connected relationships with your teenagers.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz

"Send Ben a text"

Are you a parent who feels like you're constantly overcomplicating things when it comes to raising your teenager? In this insightful podcast episode, Ben, a parenting expert and coach, shares his perspective on how to simplify your approach by focusing on three key areas: mindset, skillset, and habits.

Ben explains that parents often fall into the trap of creating elaborate rewards and punishments to control their teen's behavior, much like how workplaces implement unnecessary rules. However, he suggests that there's a better way to support your teen's growth and development.

In this episode, you'll discover:

1. The three simple problems that parents and teens face: mindset, skillset, and habits
2. How mindset problems can be tied to your thoughts and how to reprogram your mindset
3. The importance of balancing mindset with skillset and habits
4. How to identify and address skillset problems in both parents and teens
5. The role of habits in shaping behavior and how to build new, positive habits

Ben emphasizes that while you can't change your teen, you can lead by example and model the habits and behaviors you want to see. He also stresses the importance of gaining awareness of the problems you and your teen are facing and identifying whether they're related to mindset, skillset, or habits.

Throughout the episode, Ben shares relatable examples and practical advice to help you simplify your parenting approach. He encourages parents to let go of the need for control and instead focus on supporting their teen's growth and development.

If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed by the complexities of raising a teenager, this podcast episode will provide you with a fresh perspective and actionable strategies to simplify your parenting journey. Tune in now and discover how addressing mindset, skillset, and habits can help you become the parent of your dreams.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz