Check out these steps to turning around those times you play the "want but can't" game:

1. Want - You want something, or want to achieve something.

2. Can’t - You tell yourself you can’t do it for various reasons.

3. Won’t - You hold yourself accountable and realize that what you are really saying is you won’t do what needs to be done to get what you want.

4. Can - When you hold yourself accountable by saying I won’t, you give yourself the opportunity to cay I can. 

5. Will - When you say you can, it turns into willingness if you really want it. And where there is a "will" there is a way; and from there, you're on your way! Play a smarter game called "I want, can, will." :)

When you say, "I can’t", you are lying to yourself. You can do anything yet you choose to not do certain things. There is a difference and that difference is choice and accountability. When you say "I can’t", what you are really saying is "I won’t".

This week, replace the word can’t with won’t. This will help you understand what can’t really means and will unlock a huge level of accountability in yourself. You will make huge changes from it and perhaps, just maybe, give yourself more opportunities to be honest and say, "I can, but won't", or perhaps over time, "I can AND will". Remember, "Can't means won't, and won't means can."

Good is the enemy of great. To be passionate and fulfilled in life, you need to upgrade your good to your best. Always push for better until it becomes your best! Never, ever, let it rest :)

6 A’s of being responsible for your life

1. Acceptance - let go of what you can’t control and control what you can.

2. Awareness - be aware of your surroundings, state and behavior.

3. Accountability - be accountable for what is going on in your life. 

4. Action - increase the amount of action you are taking in your life. 

5. Ambition - increase your ambition a little each day. 

6. Attitude - attitude changes everything! Be positive. Period.

Ask yourself, when was the last time you invested time and money in yourself?

You can do these simple things to invest in yourself. 

1. personal time/vacation

2. slowing down, implement a morning process

3. personal development/learn/read

This is something you have done throughout your life, and it is how you have grown into who you are. So make sure that you continue doing it, because the fulfillment you want in life comes from first investing in yourself. 

Ask yourself who is your competition, and then go look in the mirror. That is your competitor! YOU are your only competition.

In learning to better manage yourself, better communicate with yourself and overcome all from within, YOU will consistently and constantly become better and better. Win from within; that is where you will find victory!

When you get caught up in being so serious, ask yourself this: Seriously?!

What will this mean to me 1 year from now, 10 years from now, when I am 80? Is it really that serious?

Don’t take life too seriously; it is meant to be enjoyed and FUN!! Learn to laugh at yourself, be light-hearted and laugh with someone else on a daily basis. Seriously, do this :)

Focus, intensity, passion and hard work will always produce a better result and a better version of you than talent alone. I've found that most people with talent alone are complacent, lack heart and mental strength. They don't last long if they don't work hard. So remember, your hard work will trump their talent if they too aren’t working hard. 

Every day, ask yourself how are you showing up in your life? Your relationships? Your work? Think about if you would hire you or fire you. Think about these things and it will tell you what you need to work on. Because when you show up, and step up - that is when things happen. 

Believe in yourself, listen to that voice inside, and trust your gut.