Gaslight Me Sweetie ™️

You need to change your mindset from “challenge” or “diet” to lifestyle. Don’t punish yourself for doing the things. Know your WHY of doing the things & that will help you stick to it. See your end game first & work backwards. Take little steps each day. You didn’t gain the weight over night, so don’t think you’re gonna lose it over night. Relax.

If they wanted to they would, period. Don’t play the games with the player. Let them plan the date. Let them get to know you again. Let them show you action. Shoot your shot, but put the ball in their court and watch how they respond. Your time is money. Your time is valuable. You are to be respected. Don’t waste your unlimited text messages. Keep doing you until they show up at your front door ready to hang out. You’ve been nice. You’ve drove to their place. Why haven’t they drove to yours? Why do they text your randomly? They don’t want anything serious. Don’t let them play games with you. Focus on what you got going on, keep going & the right one will just come & ACT RIGHT when you least expect it. This message is for MEN & WOMEN.

What relaxes you? What uses absolutely no brain power & you can just do it. And it makes you feel good. Find that zen. Podcasting every morning for me is my zen. Journaling, reading, walking for miles with no headphones, staring at the clouds for hours, walking up & down isles in stores without buying anything, long quiet drives all examples of zen. What’s your zen? What do you spend your first 10 minutes doing? How does it make you feel?

Y’all, what happens when everything is on Apple Pay & your phone dies? Your concert tickets, boarding pass, license, cards are on Apple Wallet. What do you do? Keep a 20 piece somewhere on you all times. You never know when that will come in handy.

Check your boxes. It’s not what everyone else is doing it’s what are YOU doing? What are your 3 wins of the day? What is 1 thing you can do better every single day to be the top 1%? What are 2 goals you have for tomorrow? The day after? Don’t let the media consume you. Do you. And most importantly take action.

I’m not too sure what you’re waiting for, but the “right time” is never coming. Do whatever it takes to achieve what you wanna achieve. Whether it’s a promotion, a new job, a LLC, weight loss, find a partner, join a group, drink some water, make your bed everyday, whatever it is!!! This is your sign to stop making excuses AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE IT

Y’all ever be at your peak? At your highest point? And you are just over flowing. Everything is going right, it feels right, your job is great, your skin is glowing, you love your body & you’re just doing all the things? WELL SAME. But just when you’re UP, feeling great, someone’s son or daughter comes into your life & is here to mess with you. Not this time around. Because you’re healed, you’re educated, you’re exposed & YOU have the context to make the best decision for you now. You know how to respond. You know if that person should be in your life or not. You know. Not them. You.

IT FEELS GOOD TO GET A COMPLIMENT FROM SOMEONE YOU DON’T EVEN THO especially when you’ve been working sooo hard. Take the compliment, embrace the compliment, give it back, be kind & keep doing!!! Because people who you don’t even know you are respecting your hard work.

You ever have a friend or a family member tell you there’s no way you’re going to achieve that! That’s not possible! Oh goodluck! Aren’t you wasting your time? You’re so delusional! Etc etc etc. it’s because they just aren’t on your time. They weren’t called to do those things. They were called to do something else like be a parent, be a spouse, be a corporate baddie forever, free ball life…AND THATS OK. Everyone is on their own journey, their own path. This makes us all special in their own way. But you have to pull away from those people for a little, be selfish, do you, BECAUSE CLEARLY THEY ARE DOING THEM! If y’all are meant to be besties for the restie, the universe will set you up for success & bring you back together. God’s plan.

You know what you want right? You do so good during the week but the weekends just mess you up. Stop splitting the week up into 2 fragments, keep it going. Keep it rolling. Take every day, by day, as a day. It’s just another day to be great. Still do the things that set you up for success. This is the first lesson that 75 hard taught me is that even tho it’s Saturday I still have to be on my diet. Even tho it’s Sunday, I still have to get my two workouts in. It’s just a day. If you want it bad enough, you’ll do the things. SELF CONTROL SELF DISCIPLINE & CONSISTENCY