Get A Room Podcast

On this episode we discuss being called child abusers and why we don’t let other people’s opinions get us down. We also discuss the hot button issue of having to wear masks in public and why you should just shut up and do it.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Random discussion involving gravel, stepping stones, and murder podcasts.
• (3:00) We discuss comments calling us child abusers.
• (5:15) We talk about not giving a shit about other people’s opinions of us.
• (7:45) Rochelle talks about how she decided to stop caring what other people think.
• (9:30) Scott tells his story about how he stopped caring what his peers thought.
• (13:15) You gotta get a thick skin, especially if you’re a public figure.
• (15:45) Rochelle talks about unfollowing people on social media that become toxic to you.
• (21:30) Other people’s opinions about you are none of your business.
• (22:30) Let’s avoid turning into Gilead.
• (23:45) Masks have become mandatory where we live. We are fired up about it.
• (25:30) Scott wants the whole world to see his junk.
• (28:00) Wear your damn masks!

On this episode we discuss teaching our kids to do chores and giving them an allowance and why we’re not super good at it, but we’re trying. We also talk about learning to do chores when we were kids, and some memorable moments.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:45) Scott’s getting good at Photoshop.
• (1:45) Having a chill summer that includes free online courses from Harvard University.
• (3:45) We got gravel, and now we have tons of work ahead of us.
• (4:30) We rant about our crappy neighbors who park on our grass, leave garbage everywhere, etc.
• (9:45) Teaching your kids how to work. We reminisce about the chores we did as we were growing up and Scott’s moto for cleaning bathrooms for the neighbors, “Any weather, I can get there.”
• (13:30) We try really hard to make sure we don’t make our kids feel like they never do a good enough job, even though they kind of suck at some of the chores.
• (16:50) It’s not about the job they do, but it’s teaching them how to work.
• (18:00) Rochelle talks about getting her feelings hurt by her mom and killing her crafting spirit for years.
• (23:00) We talk about working in the yard on weekends with our families.
• (27:30) We discuss allowance, which we started for the first time recently.

On this episode we discuss grown up play dates, getting old, and jealousy after Scott is openly hit on 3 times. We hope you enjoy this light-hearted episode in times of extreme tension everywhere.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Rochelle got to have a social distant play date.
• (1:40) Scott had a birthday and is skirting the line of old man-ness.
• (3:00) We talk about our one of our kids getting braces.
• (5:00) Summer is less stressful, except that vacations probably won’t happen.
• (7:00) We’re talking about jealousy because Scott got hit on right in front of me.
• (11:00) 3 compliments towards Scott is Rochelle’s limit when it comes to having to throw down.
• (13:00) Rochelle talks about being jealous of Scott’s social life.
• (16:30) Scott experienced (justified) jealousy while we were still dating over a dude that I was friends with.
• (21:00) Men get better looking as they get older while women go downhill, which is super bullshit.

This week we discuss how we spent Memorial Day, school finally being over, and saving our elderly neighbor. We also get into our 10th marriage myth to find out if sex gets boring after years of marriage.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:40) We spent Memorial Day at a ghost town in Utah.
• (4:00) School is officially out for Summer for us and we’re planning to do a more chill annual summer kick off than usual.
• (7:20) Rochelle saves our elderly neighbor again.
• (13:45) Myth #10: Sex gets boring after years of marriage.
• (15:00) Sex can get boring, but if you work on it, it can get better.
• (16:30) Boring sex is better than no sex, but spicy sex is the best.
• (18:00) Boring sex is like eating McDonalds, it’s not bad, but sometimes you want something a little fancier. This is a reference to a podcast Rochelle listened to 5 years ago, and we can’t figure out what it was. We apologize. If you happen to know what we’re talking about, shoot us an email and let us know.
• (20:00) Sex is like everything else, there are peaks and valleys.
• (21:00) There could be underlying factors contributing to boring sex, and connecting with your partner could help.
• (23:00) Practice, practice, practice and things will get better.
• (24:30) Put in an effort if you don’t want sex to be boring.
• (26:00) Scott’s birthday is coming up, and we discuss the best gift I ever gave him from a few years ago.

As we are feeling extra anxiety this week and not sleeping well, we decided to do a light-hearted episode about our daughter Echo in honor of her birthday. We talk about her wild side, her short fuse, and why we call her an animal whisperer.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:35) Do you feel like quarantine has got you down?
• (01:15) Spoiler alert: Echo didn’t turn into a mermaid last week.
• (6:30) Echo is delightful, but has a short fuse.
• (9:30) Echo writes letters to us, similar to the letters I used to write to my own mom.
• (11:30) She is the animal whisperer of our family.
• (15:00) Echo’s nickname since birth is Gecko, and it’s the only nickname in our family that has stuck.
• (19:00) She can be a challenge because she has a little bit of ADD and needs to move, and it’s hard to keep her attention.
• (22:00) Echo is the queen of magnificent flip-outs.
• (26:00) We needed a chill episode this week because Rochelle is stressed out and not sleeping.
• (29:00)Rochelle does not want to send the kids back to school in the fall if there’s isn’t a vaccine.
• (29:30) Scott is just a few weeks away from his 39th birthday.
• (31:00) Scott has a kind heart and tells a story of feeling sadness for a pizza delivery boy.

On this episode we talk about being in quarantine for 60 days and why Rochelle had a breakdown and cried twice in one day. We also discuss our next marriage myth to decide if your in-laws have to love you, and other difficult things with parents.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:50) Two months worth of quarantine for us.
• (1:20) Rochelle cried because the stress and frustration of everything caught up with her.
• (5:45) Rochelle cried again while watching a TV show that brought up hard feelings from childhood.
• (7:30) Good news? The Anti-body study maybe? Last day of new school work.
• (9:00) Marriage Myth #9: Do your in-laws have to love you?
• (10:30) We discuss the relationships we have with each set of our parents.
• (13:30) Rochelle discusses the difficult relationship she has with her parents, especially her mom.
• (17:00) We talk about how we both have a better relationship with Scott’s parents than Rochelle’s, even though we disagree on religion and politics. We have somehow learned to appreciate the other parts of the relationship to make it okay.
• (23:00) In-laws don’t have to love you, and you don’t need them to in order to be happy. Your relationship with your spouse is more important than the one you have with your in-laws and even your parents.
• (25:30) Rochelle’s parents didn’t like Scott because he didn’t marry her right out of high school.
• (29:00) We talk about what kind of in-laws we hope to be.
• (30:30) Our daughter, Echo wants to be a mermaid so we did some steps with her to become one. We’ll let you know how it all went down next week.

On this episode we discuss our 8th marriage myth where we decide whether or not one can be lonely within their marriage. We also discuss our plans for Mother’s Day and why we are grateful we don’t have toddlers or babies during the Coronavirus pandemic.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Scott got his very first hat ever is our big news for the week.
• (4:00) We played a ton of basketball this week and we’re pretty good for a couple of fat people.
• (6:50) We did Mother’s Day chalk art for Scott’s mom with homemade sidewalk chalk/paint.
• (10:00) Marriage Myth 8: You’ll Never Be Lonely Again.
• (10:45) 40% of people have reported being lonely within their marriage.
• (11:45) Loneliness doesn’t just mean in a physical sense, but can also take on an emotional form.
• (13:30) Three things that make you feel lonely: Humor doesn’t come easily, when idiosyncrasies aren’t endearing anymore, and your emotional needs aren’t being met.
• (16:45) The good news about loneliness in marriage is that it can be reversed.
• (17:45) Do small things together to create connection.
• (19:00) It takes work and time and effort to fix. No one is immune to loneliness.
• (22:00) We give examples of loneliness within our marriage.
• (25:30) We empathize with parents of toddlers and babies during the age of Coronavirus.
• (26:45) Myth definitely busted.
• (27:45) Coming up next week: In-laws have to love you.

On this episode we discuss virtual birthday parties, wearing a bikini to a funeral, and whether or not you can change your spouse. Join us to find out if we’ve changed together or separately, and if we’ve tried to change each other in the last 17 years.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Highlights of the week: shaving our cat, moving our bunnies, and attending a virtual birthday party.
• (5:00) Rochelle ruins a funeral by wearing a bikini.
• (8:00) Marriage Myth #7: Can you change your spouse?
• (9:00) People can change in a marriage, but can you manipulate the way they change?
• (10:40) People have to be willing to change themselves because people won’t change unless they want to change.
• (11:45) It’s better to accept your partner for who they are, than try to change them into what you want them to be.
• (13:10) There’s nothing wrong with wanting your partner to grow and improve.
• (14:10) You have to take the good with the bad when it comes to a partner.
• (16:00) You can’t put in the work for the other person.
• (19:10) With our kids, Rochelle wants to be in charge and do things her way. But she is not trying to change who they are.
• (20:30) We are on a different path than our families, and we are okay with our kids choosing a different path from the one we’re on.
• (23:45) You can’t do these things, Nemo.
• (27:00) You can’t change your spouse, you can’t change your kids, you can’t change anybody but yourself.
• (28:30) Do seasonal allergies include coughing?
• (31:50) Stinger or cliffhanger: marriage myth #8: Marriage means you’ll never be lonely again?

On this episode we get back to discussing marriage myths with our number 6 myth about the 7 year itch. We talk about whether we believed in it, and how after doing a bunch of research on it, we may have changed our minds.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:50) We talk about bringing our friend a gift after she had a traumatic injury.
• (4:30) Scott has a weak stomach talking about graphic injuries.
• (6:00) Scott misses trivia night at the Lucky 13 bar in downtown SLC.
• (7:30) We review the movie Downhill because it was fun to analyze the marriage aspect.
• (16:00) We updated our website, getaroompodcast.com
• (17:00) We talk about whether we believe in the 7 year itch, and then we discuss where we were during our 7th year of marriage.
• (18:40) The average length of marriages that end in divorce is actually 7 years.
• (21:00) Just because the average is 7 years, doesn’t mean it will only happen at 7 years. And it can happen for any reason.
• (22:25) Nobody wants to fall into a rut.
• (23:00) Some marriages aren’t worth saving.
• (23:45) Tips to avoid the 7 year itch. Keep up the good communication.
• (25:00) Therapy is good for everyone and it’s a safe space.
• (25:45) Continuing to have sex will help you connect with your partner.
• (26:15) Remember the things that made you fall in love with your spouse and try not to take each other for granted.
• (27:15) Spend time together and maybe do things that you don’t love but that your spouse loves. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices and compromise within your marriage.
• (28:45) Laugh it off. It’s okay to not take life so seriously.
• (31:30) The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever, and eventually life evens out. It’s not as fun, but it’s deeper and important.

On this episode we discuss some of the stuff we do to stay sane and not flip out on each other and the kids during the crappy Coronavirus situation we are all living in right now.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Just finished our 4th or 5th week of quarantine.
• (2:15) We fantasize about the day when we don’t talk about the Coronavirus.
• (4:00) School was announced to be online for the rest of the year. We almost cried.
• (6:00) This is our generation’s “Great Depression”.
• (7:45) We had to go to Home Depot to get a new lawn mower. Is that essential?
• (12:45) Surviving the apocalypse without killing each other.
• (14:15) There are a million things that get your blood boiling.
• (19:00) We talk about what we do when we get on each other’s nerves.
• (20:30) It’s okay if our kids are getting too much screen time right now, and every other time.
• (22:45) We do punish the kids when they abuse their screen privileges.
• (24:00) We need to come out of this experience still loving our family and being sane.
• (25:30) Find your happy place (Rochelle’s is doing nothing while listening to music.)
• (27:15) Rochelle fantasizes about what it would be like to be a couple with no kids during quarantine.
• (28:45) Scott did the most amazing thing ever while Rochelle was in the shower.
• (31:20) We talk about some of the funny things Echo says.
• (33:00) Our family is definitely going a little stir crazy.
• (37:45) It’s important to maintain your mental health during hard times.