Get A Room Podcast

On this episode we talk about how we spent our spring break and breaking the news about the truth of the Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus. We also talk extensively about our parenting style and what has worked for us, being the parents of 5 children between the ages of 7 and 15.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:20) Spring break adventures including cleaning and making jam.
• (4:00) Missing my sister and talking through the window.
• (5:00) The Easter Bunny is quarantined, so we’re doing a half-assed Easter.
• (6:30) We had to reveal the truth about the Tooth Fairy to our 11 year old.
• (7:45) Though we have talked about the Tooth Fairy with our 3 oldest children, we have yet to have the Santa talk.
• (8:30) We go on a huge tangent about Santa Claus.
• (12:15) We are parenting pros.
• (14:00) We have a laid back parenting style, with a huge sense of responsibility.
• (16:00)Dexter taught us to be better parents.
• (17:20) We try to have a sense of humor with each other and with the kids.
• (21:00) Our family thrives with routine.
• (24:15) Punctuality is a passed down attribute from Rochelle’s parents, which she then passed down to her kids.
• (26:30) We never yell or scream at our kids.
• (27:30) We tell stories about a few problems we have had with the kids and how we’ve dealt with them.
• (34:45) We have a form of family time every single day by watching a TV show with our kids every evening. It has turned into the best bonding experience ever.
• (43:20) Love your kids for who they are and accept their talents and interests because no one wants to live a life where they think they’re not good enough.

On this episode we discuss April Fools Day, homemade masks, and helping each other out during these difficult and uncharted times. We talk about how we have been helping ease the burden and how we are surviving the quarantine that we have been under for 3 weeks.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:30) Brought our friends a gift, while keeping distant.
• (2:00) We gotta figure out a mask situation.
• (2:40) April fools has arrived, and is always the worst “holiday”.
• (4:00) We discuss Malcolm’s prank, and Scott’s previous pranks from childhood.
• (7:30) Rochelle has a cough, but pretty sure it’s not the coronavirus.
• (11:15) What is a priority for us right now? Helping each other out while the going gets rough.
• (13:45) Scott has gotten good at recognizing when Rochelle has hit the threshold of patience so he can help out before she breaks down.
• (17:00) We had to plan out bathroom breaks today, and that is new for us.
• (18:45) Scott set up an outdoor office for Rochelle so she could work outside. It was amazing.
• (22:15) Scott tells a story about a former coworker and his arrangement for “me time”.
• (25:00) We like to make time away from the family equal as much as possible.
• (29:00) Having a dinner schedule is good, but the kids are sick of the same meals over and over.
• (33:00) Scott takes things too far joking about death and funeral potatoes.
• (34:30) Rochelle couldn’t get Google Meet to work and Scott helped get it done.
• (37:30) In the future we’re all going to look back at 2020 and be amazed we got through it.

Our second oldest child is about to celebrate his 13th birthday while our family is under quarantine, due to the Coronavirus outbreak. We discuss Dexter’s difficult toddler years, and how much things have changed since those hard years.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) New term of homeschooling is starting, we’re trying not to stress.
• (1:45) Our plans to go to Yellowstone for Spring Break, and what happened to them.
• (3:45) Our second oldest child is about to be a teenager.
• (5:30) Rochelle told Dexter we could watch It: Chapter Two for his birthday.
• (7:00) Dexter is the funny one in our family.
• (8:30)Age 2 to 7 for Dexter were hard on us because he was so strong willed and drove us crazy.
• (9:30) How we managed a difficult toddler by trading off duties.
• (12:30) Ivy became the peacemaker because of Dexter’s temper tantrums.
• (14:45) One on one time with Dexter was always pleasant, even when he was at his worst time of toddlerhood. Scott tells a story about making his parents take Dexter for a week to give us a break.
• (18:00) Rochelle tells a story about Ivy having a medical procedure and taking a bunch of crying kids to the doctor, and wanting to break down as well.
• (21:00) Luckily Dexter grew out of his pain-in-the-ass-ness.
• (23:00)Dexter is super smart, sort of athletic, and just awesome these days.
• (25:15) Dexter taught me to be a better mother by forcing me to be more patient and loving.
• (27:00) We think that part of the reason why Dexter is so great is because he was so hard when he was younger, and also why we like him so much now.
• (27:30) He used to have ticks that he would do over and over again for several months, then it would switch to a new tick.
• (29:00) He no longer has ticks, but now he says certain phrases or words over and over for months, then switch to a new phrase or word. It’s much less annoying than his other ticks.
• (31:15) We are so grateful that Dexter turned into who he is, because he is really so great.

On this episode we discuss being quarantined in our home, homeschooling, and if every conflict has a solution. We also bring up celebrity marriages, and Jeopardy, so you don’t want to miss this episode.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:30) Rochelle loves our cheesy intro, Scott does not.
• (1:40) Longest week of our collective lives as social distancing efforts increase.
• (2:30) Homeschooling 5 kids is really hard.
• (4:30) We know we are more fortunate than most with our work from home jobs.
• (5:10) Good things from this week to keep the mood light.
• (6:40) Marriage Myth #5: Every Conflict Has a Solution
• (7:15) This myth is more complicated, and harder to decide on if it’s true or not.
• (8:30)There are complications with the solution to the Coronavirus, making it a difficult situation to figure out.
• (9:30) Some problems have harder solutions, or take more time to solve. Patience and compromise help.
• (10:45) We decide the myth is plausible since it has such a big grey area.
• (13:00) Have you ever had to eat humble pie?
• (13:45) Rochelle gives a weird example about being wrong about a pop culture reference, and then not telling Scott about it.
• (17:00) We discuss Jeopardy and how much we would suck at it.
• (19:00) Ken Jennings can’t be funny and smart! Stupid Ken Jennings.
• (20:00) We’re so good at quarantine date nights and we didn’t even know.
• (21:00) Rochelle tries to entice Scott to be better a Jeopardy trivia.

On this episode we interrupt our regularly scheduled marriage myth to bring you a light hearted break from the uncertain state of the world to joke about disaster movies and loving music our parents forced us to listen to when we were kids. We will return to our marriage myth episode next week, so look out for that.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:30) Podcasting while social distancing and freaking out about the Coronavirus.
• (2:00) Shopping for a long stay at home during a pandemic is a nightmare, as most American’s learned this week.
• (3:30) We are good at staying home. We’ve been preparing our whole lives for this.
• (4:30) Good opportunity to binge our podcast.
• (5:00)Doing a lighthearted episode to keep things positive and better.
• (6:00) What movies have you seen that are post-apocalyptic?
• (8:00) Our experience watching The Day After Tomorrow.
• (9:44) Why is The Rock in every disaster movie?
• (10:30) We discuss 2012, Armageddon, Independence Day, and zombie movies.
• (12:30) Watching Adventure Time with our kids, which is a post-apocalyptic cartoon, which is fun for adults and kids.
• (16:20) With schools being cancelled, we talk about what our kids (and we) are excited about.
• (17:45) Finding the positive (daffodils) in a rough time in life.
• (18:30) Rochelle gets stuck in a chair.
• (20:00) Scott still has to get up for work, but the rest of us get to sleep in.
• (21:00) Post Malone is fun wake up music and Scott admits to loving it.
• (24:00) We don’t restrict what music the kids hear, even when it might have questionable music.
• (26:30) We both admit to enjoying music our parents loved when we were kids.
• (29:00) What little things will enjoy while you are social distancing? We talk about what we’re going to do to entertain ourselves.

On this episode we talk about the Corona Virus, missing our babies, and puberty. We also discuss our 4th marriage myth about whether or not a good marriage comes naturally. We talk about why we believe that certain aspects of marriage can come more naturally, but overall a good marriage, or any marriage for that matter, requires work.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:45) Low key week staying home to avoid CoronaVirus.
• (2:30) Ivy had her maturation program this week.
• (4:30) Women got the short end of the stick of life.
• (7:00)Rochelle almost cried over an old video of our babies.
• (9:45) Marriage Myth 4: A Good Marriage Comes Naturally.
• (10:30) We don’t have a lot of conflict within our marriage, but it still requires work to be good.
• (11:45) There needs to be some natural chemistry, but that isn’t all you need.
• (13:00) You have to learn to pick your battles.
• (16:30) Scott spills the beans on how Rochelle used to load the dishwasher wrong, and he had to set her straight.
• (21:00) We work well because we are able to work together on each other’s needs (OCD, anxiety, and punctuality).
• (23:15) We work together for the good of our family. We always help each other out in whatever situation in which it is necessary.
• (24:45) Malcolm talked Scott’s ear off, and Rochelle didn’t save him.
• (27:15) “What if” questions from the kids will be the death of us, and a relatable meme with Post Malone.

On this episode we discuss Marriage Myth #3: Kids needs should have priority over marital needs. We discuss both sides of the topic since we disagree, and try to fairly figure out who’s needs should come first.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:45) How we felt about the Pompeii exhibit in SLC.
• (4:00) We spent a bunch of money on a furnace and water heater.
• (6:25) The high school we met at is getting torn down, so we visited it during the week and thought other’s would be there too. But we had the place to ourselves.
• (9:00) We talk about our upcoming 20 year high school reunion.
• (10:00) We discuss my paranoia regarding the Coronavirus.
• (11:30) Parent teacher conference week is always a good week.
• (12:45) Should kids needs have priority over marital needs.
• (14:00) Scott and I disagree on this topic and we discuss our reasons.
• (15:00) Scott compares Rochelle’s thoughts to that of putting an oxygen mask on during a flight.
• (16:30) Putting your relationship on the back burner while kids are in the house is detrimental to your marriage.
• (17:45) You have to put a ton of effort into supporting your kids and raising them right.
• (19:00) Our relationship is good, and kids will learn from our example.
• (20:15) Parenting and marriage is a balancing act, and we are all just trying to figure it out.
• (22:15) Scott hopes that our children will want to have a marriage similar to ours.
• (23:45) Constant fighting or threatening divorce will screw up kids more than if you make your marital relationship a priority over your relationship with your kids.
• (24:30) Marriage Myth number 3…busted?
• (26:00) We discuss our poor math skills and TI-85’s.
• (29:00) Walking and our podcast are Rochelle’s therapy.

On this episode we discuss the second marriage myth in our series, which is Never Go To Bed Angry. We talk about the pros and cons to going to bed angry, and if we consider this myth busted or not. We also tell stories from our own marriage that relate to the subject. We hope you enjoy this episode, and let us know if you agree with our conclusion.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Scott apologizes for his use of the word “like”.
• (2:45) Echo broke her glasses and it turned into a struggle due to insurance.
• (3:30) Echo’s high index glasses prescription makes getting her glasses difficult.
• (4:45) High index lenses cost twice as much as regular lenses.
• (7:00) Scott is a ghetto engineer.
• (8:00) Myth #2: Never go to bed angry.
• (8:45) This myth was split almost 50/50 in listener opinions.
• (9:50) Pros for never going to bed angry.
• (10:30) Scott tells a story of us having to resolve an issue before going to bed.
• (12:15) Some problems are not solvable in one night. You are more likely to say things you don’t mean and cause more problems.
• (14:45) Getting your thoughts together and being deliberate in what you want to say is a good reason to go to bed angry.
• (16:00) The word “never” makes this one a myth.
• (17:00) We think the better advice is to be rational and sometimes go to bed angry.
• (19:00) Rochelle tells me a story about a time when she went to bed angry.
• (22:15) Our unspoken rule of arguing: If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, 5 months, or 5 minutes from now, what is the point of arguing about it?
• (23:15) We reminisce about a ridiculous fight we had early on in our marriage.
• (25:25) Scott tells a story about accidentally hurting himself during an argument.
• (28:15) We don’t ever let anything stain our marriage.

On this special episode that starts out our series of episodes about marriage myths, we discuss the first myth, all you need is love. We talk about the survey we did on Instagram and some of the responses we received from our listeners. We talk about some of the things that you have to have in a marriage besides love, and tell a few stories from our own experiences.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:15) We talk about the survey people took on Instagram for us.
• (3:00) Marriage myth number one: All you need is love.
• (3:35) Scott said, “all you need is love” to his parents while we were dating.
• (5:01) You need so much more than love in a marriage. We list off several from comments on our Instagram survey.
• (7:15) Compromise is very important.
• (7:50)Our number one choice is communication because it is so important in a marriage.
• (10:00) Rochelle doesn’t think religion and political affiliations have to be the same, but does think you have to be on the same page when it comes to parenting style.
• (12:00) We were both the rebellious kids in our own families.
• (14:15) We talk about our own feisty kids and challenges.
• (17:00) We explain the difference between sacrifice and compromise.
• (18:00) Rochelle tells a story about Scott sacrificing his happiness working at a job he hated to be able to support our family.
• (24:00) We tell a story of how we had to compromise over the house we ultimately bought in Utah.
• (27:45) First marriage myth officially busted with 100% of people responding the same way.
• (29:05) Movie recommendation of the week: The Lion King (2019). Rochelle predicts that it will give her nightmares, because she is afraid of lions.

On this special Valentine’s Day bonus episode we talk about the smalls things that we do that help the other feel loved. We hope you enjoy this special bonus episode on this beautiful day of love.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (0:30) Today’s episode is about love on the day of love, Valentine’s Day.
• (1:30) 10 Things My Spouse Does That Makes Me Feel Loved.
• (1:50) Rochelle’s #1: Scott teases me relentlessly.
• (3:10) Scott’s #1: Rochelle wears thongs.
• (4:15) Rochelle’s #2: Scott brings me coffee and vitamins.
• (4:30)Scott’s #2: Rochelle brings me breakfast at my desk.
• (5:10) Rochelle’s #3: Scott helps make dinner and doesn’t complain.
• (6:20) Scott’s #3: Rochelle gives me random back and head tickles.
• (7:10) Rochelle’s #4: Scott gives me head and back tickles.
• (8:00) Scott’s #4: Rochelle lets me geek out on my things.
• (8:55) Rochelle’s #5: Scott does dishes or laundry when I’m at work.
• (10:10) Scott’s #5: Rochelle makes us dinner every night.
• (10:35) Rochelle’s #6: Scott gives long and frequent hugs.
• (11:45) Scott’s #6: Rochelle knows what I like, and goes along with it.
• (12:30) Rochelle’s #7: Scott kisses me every night, and offers chapstick.
• (13:40) Scott’s #7: Rochelle works 3 jobs to help out.
• (14:10) Rochelle’s #8: Scott supported me when I took a part time job that I hate, and listens to me while I complain about it.
• (15:25) Scott’s #8: Rochelle sticks around through the tough stuff.
• (17:00) Rochelle’s #9: Scott watches scary movies with me, and doesn’t make me watch sci-fi movies.
• (20:35) Scott’s #9: Rochelle let’s Scott sleep in and then playfully tries to kill him.
• (22:10) Rochelle’s #10: Scott does this podcast with me, even though he feels weird about it.
• (23:40) Scott’s #10: Rochelle says it every day. (we both do).
• (24:40) We have never threatened divorce, except when we joke about Googling it.
• (28:10) We hope you get laid for Valentine’s Day.
• (29:30) Movie recommendation of the week: Jojo Rabbit.