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Episode Overview

Many people say they want healthy love. However, after trauma recovery begins, healthy love can feel unfamiliar. Peace, consistency, and kindness can feel strange when past relationships were shaped by chaos, inconsistency, or emotional instability. In this episode, Coach Liz explores why healthy love may feel uncomfortable at first and how trauma recovery helps rebuild the internal capacity to recognize and receive safe, respectful relationships.

In This Episode You Will Learn

• Why healthy love can feel unfamiliar after trauma
 • How past relationship patterns affect emotional trust
 • The six characteristics of healthy love
 • How your nervous system helps guide relationship discernment
 • Why recovery helps expand your capacity to receive healthy connection

What Healthy Love Looks Like

Healthy love does not create confusion or emotional chaos. Healthy love creates clarity, safety, and peace.

Healthy love includes:

 • Consistency. Words and actions match.
 • Emotional safety. Feelings can be expressed without fear.
 • Respect. Time, identity, and boundaries are honored.
 • Accountability. Mistakes are acknowledged and corrected.
 • Reciprocity. Both people give and receive.
 • Peace. The relationship allows your nervous system to rest.

When healthy love is present, the relationship supports growth rather than emotional survival.

Listening to Your Nervous System

One of the most powerful tools in trauma recovery is learning to listen to the body.

Your nervous system often recognizes safety before your thoughts do.

Signs of healthy connection may include:

 • breathing becoming slower
 • shoulders relaxing
 • a calm and steady mind

When something is unhealthy, the body often tightens, breathing becomes shallow, and the mind becomes restless.

Your body can provide important signals when emotions feel confusing.

Level Two Trauma Recovery Now Open

If you are ready to continue your recovery journey, the Level Two Trauma Recovery Program, One Breath at a Time is now open inside Oasis Wellness Academy.

This program helps participants develop the capacity to receive healthy love by learning:

 • emotional discernment
 • healthy boundary development
 • attachment pattern awareness
 • nervous system regulation

Call to Action

To learn more about the Level Two Trauma Recovery Program, visit Oasis Wellness Academy and explore the next step in your recovery journey.

Podcast Closing

 We are recovering one breath at a time.
 Give yourself grace and stay fearless.
 Bye for now.

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In This Episode We Discuss:

✨ The pivotal moment when survivors decide they deserve more
 ✨ How trauma shapes patterns of self-worth
 ✨ Why we tolerate inconsistency, disrespect, and emotional chaos
 ✨ How trauma quietly rewrites identity without permission
 ✨ The two levels of identity recovery: Awareness and Application
 ✨ Why your worth is not negotiable
 ✨ A guided affirmation pause to reinforce your value

The Turning Point of Trauma
For years, many survivors live inside patterns shaped by trauma.

Accepting less.
 Tolerating chaos.
 Pouring into people who give nothing in return.

But there comes a day when clarity arrives.

And everything begins to change.

Trauma Rewrites Identity
Trauma can quietly teach you that you are:

• Too much
 • Not enough
 • Required to earn love
 • Safer when you shrink
 • Responsible for other people’s behavior

These identity wounds influence relationships, boundaries, and life decisions.

Recovery requires awareness.
Recovery involves practice.

The Two Levels of Identity Healing

Level 1: Awareness

Understanding how trauma shaped your sense of worth.
 Recognizing where patterns began.
 Seeing your younger self with compassion.

Level 2: Application

Practicing boundaries.
 Regulating emotions.
 Choosing differently.
 Building patterns that reflect your inherent worth.

This is not about blame.
 This is about clarity and growth.

Your Worth Is Not Negotiable
Your worth was not determined by trauma.
 Your worth was not erased by who walked away.
 Your worth was established by God.

And what God established cannot be undone by dysfunction.

Invitation
If this episode resonated with you, consider stepping into:

Level 1 Trauma Recovery for awareness
Level 2 Trauma Recovery for application

We are recovering one breath at a time.
 Give yourself grace and stay fearless.
 Bye for now.

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Episode Overview

In this powerful conversation, Preston Wheeler joins us to discuss his book “Put Dating Back in the Box,” co-authored with Alonzo McLittle. This book offers a structured and character-centered approach to relationships. Instead of rushing into connections, Preston encourages individuals to first develop self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and personal responsibility.

This episode explores what happens when we enter relationships without healing unresolved trauma and how intentional growth can transform the way we love.

What We Discussed

🔹 Introducing Put Dating Back in the Box (0:00)

Preston shares the heart behind the book. It provides practical guidance on:

• Recognizing self-worth
• Healing from past trauma
• Avoiding manipulative or abusive partners
• Developing character before commitment

The book encourages readers to slow down and build internal strength before seeking external validation.

🔹 The Importance of Personal Growth (4:15)

Many unhealthy relationships begin when people seek partnership without first addressing:

• Emotional wounds
• Unresolved trauma
• Lack of relationship education
• Character development gaps

Preston explains that growth is not optional. It is foundational. Healthy relationships require two whole individuals, not two people looking to be rescued.

🔹 Overcoming Trauma and Developing Boundaries (6:47)

Preston shares how his own relationship challenges shaped his mission.

He discusses:

• The power of forgiveness without abandoning boundaries
• Learning from painful experiences
• Developing self-awareness
• Refusing to tolerate unhealthy behavior

Healing does not mean forgetting. It means learning and strengthening your discernment.

🔹 Accessing Resources for Personal Growth (12:33)

The book highlights the importance of education and support systems such as:

• Counseling
• Support groups
• Podcasts
• Books on emotional intelligence and character development

Growth requires intentional learning. No one is expected to do this alone.

🔹 Availability and Impact (30:01)

“Put Dating Back in the Box” is widely available through major retailers. Preston encourages list

We are dedicated to providing support, education, and resources to individuals recovering from various forms of trauma.

With a dedicated listener base, our podcast offers a unique opportunity for sponsors to connect with a deeply engaged and supportive community.

Partnering with us will provide crucial support to many who need it on their recovery journey. 

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Episode Overview

Some wounds are not personal choices.
 They are inherited patterns.

In this episode, we explore how generational trauma quietly shapes identity, belief systems, attachment styles, and our view of love. Trauma does not always begin with us. Sometimes it begins in silence, secrets, and survival patterns that were never addressed.

This conversation invites compassionate awareness, not blame.

⏱ Episode Breakdown

3:01 – What Is Generational Trauma?

• Trauma passed through behaviors, silence, secrets, and unprocessed pain
  
  
• How survival coping mechanisms become family culture
  
  
• The way trauma shapes belief systems about love, safety, and identity
  
  

6:14 – Seven Signs of Generational Trauma

1. Emotional avoidance
   
   
2. Unpredictable behavior
   
   
3. Parentification
   
   
4. Normalizing dysfunction
   
   
5. Identity shaped through shame
   
   
6. Repeating unhealthy relationship patterns
   
   
7. Silence around trauma
   
   

7:40 – Breaking the Cycle Without Blame

• Understanding versus accusing
  
  
• Compassion over resentment
  
  
• Choosing a new direction for the next generation
  
  

8:35 – Reclaiming Your Story (Level 1 Trauma Recovery)

• Where did this pattern begin?
  
  
• What was modeled as “love”?
  
  
• What are you ready to shift?
  
  

11:05 – Closing Reflection
Give yourself grace. Stay fearless.
We are recovering one breath at a time.

Reflection Questions

• What was modeled as love in my family system?
  
  
• What emotions were allowed and which were silenced?
  
  
• What patterns am I ready to interrupt?

Resource

Level 1 Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Story

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Episode Description

In this episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Peer to Peer Wellness Coach Liz Blanding explores what it means to support someone in crisis without derailing your own trauma recovery. When someone we care about is going through a painful life transition, such as divorce or betrayal, it is easy to slip into overfunctioning, emotional waiting, or self-abandonment. This episode offers a grounded framework for offering care without rescuing, attaching, or pausing your healing.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why support should never cost your stability
• How over-extending for others can reactivate trauma patterns
• Why divorce and betrayal are forms of trauma, not just transitions
• How silence can be a signal for self-reflection rather than self-blame
• A practical framework for offering brief, grounded, non-rescuing presence

Key Takeaways:

• Support should not cost your emotional or nervous system stability
• Reduced communication is often a survival response, not rejection
• You can care without attaching and step back without abandoning
• Pausing your recovery for someone else’s crisis is self-abandonment
• Your recovery is the foundation for healthy connection

Reflection Prompts:

• What does silence trigger in me?
• Am I responding from care or from anxiety?
• Does this connection support my recovery or challenge it?

Closing Reminder:

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless.

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Episode Description

Trauma does not stop at the door when we step into purpose-driven work or entrepreneurship. In this episode, Coach Liz explores how unresolved trauma shows up in business relationships and decision-making, often leading to over-giving, people-pleasing, silence, and financial loss.

This conversation brings awareness to how early wounds can repeat themselves through business betrayal, misalignment, and unhealthy partnerships. More importantly, it offers a path forward grounded in boundaries, clarity, and emotional confidence.

What You Will Learn in This Episode

• How trauma influences business behavior and partnerships
  
  
• Why business betrayal can reopen childhood wounds
  
  
• The role of boundaries in ethical and aligned business relationships
  
  
• Key questions to evaluate partnerships before committing or continuing
  
  
• How trauma recovery supports confident, values-based decision-making
  
  

Episode Highlights

• Trauma’s impact on business relationships (0:11)
  
  
• The deep wounds of business betrayal (2:42)
  
  
• Establishing boundaries and alignment in business (4:28)
  
  
• Guiding questions for evaluating business relationships (5:34)
  
  
• Reclaiming confidence and emotional power (7:40)
  
  

Reflection Questions

• Am I operating from purpose or from fear in my business decisions?
  
  
• Do my partnerships honor my values, time, and emotional well-being?
  
  
• Where might I be over-giving to earn safety or approval?
  
  

Call to Action

If this episode resonated, you may be ready for Level 2 Trauma Recovery, where we focus on financial trauma, emotional confidence, and boundary restoration so your calling is protected, not compromised.

Closing Reminder

 Give yourself grace. Stay fearless. We are recovering one breath at a time.

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Episode Summary

In this episode, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding explores how unresolved trauma can make survivors more vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation. What begins as charm, attention, and emotional safety can quietly shift into control, self-doubt, and emotional harm. This conversation brings clarity to patterns many survivors sense but struggle to name.

Coach Liz breaks down the stages of narcissistic manipulation and offers practical trauma recovery tools to help listeners assess emotional safety, rebuild boundaries, and reclaim their emotional authority.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Why trauma survivors are often targeted by narcissistic personalities.
  
  
• The five stages of narcissistic manipulation, from love bombing to discard.
  
  
• How self-blame and tolerance of inconsistency keep trauma bonds in place.
  
  
• A simple 3-question tool to assess emotional safety in relationships.
  
  
• Why discernment is protection, not fear.
  
  
• How Level 2 trauma recovery supports identity rebuilding and boundary clarity.
  
  

Key Discussion Points:

• Narcissistic manipulation and trauma survivors (00:00)
  
  
• The stages of narcissistic manipulation (03:41)
  
  
• Trauma recovery tools for boundary assessment (05:57)
  
  
• Reclaiming emotional authority through recovery (07:28)
  
  
• Recap and encouragement (08:11)
  
  

Reflection Question:
Where in your life has charm slowly turned into confusion or control?

Next Step – Trauma Recovery Support:
If this episode resonated with you, you may be ready for Level 2: One Breath at a Time Trauma Recovery. This course supports you in breaking trauma bonds, strengthening boundaries, and choosing relationships with clarity rather than self-doubt.

👉 Learn more and begin your next step in recovery today.

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless.

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Coach Liz explores the unseen cost of loving someone with unprocessed trauma. Drawing from lived experience, she unpacks how unresolved trauma can quietly enter relationships, creating emotional instability, fear, and numbness that the partner often feels responsible for managing.

This conversation invites listeners to reflect on the difference between compassion and self-abandonment, and to release the belief that love requires rescuing or fixing someone else.

Key Topics Covered

Loving someone with unprocessed trauma (1:12)
Coach Liz shares how she was repeatedly drawn to partners carrying deep emotional wounds. She believed love could heal them, until she realized their unresolved trauma became a third presence in the relationship.

The burden of secondary trauma (4:42)
When you absorb someone else’s fear, triggers, and emotional weight, it can lead to secondary trauma. Over time, this creates burnout, blurred boundaries, and a loss of self.

Choosing yourself over rescuing others (6:02)
Healing is a personal responsibility. Healthy love is mutual, safe, and grounded in peace, not emotional labor or survival mode. Coach Liz introduces a “trauma brain vs. recovered brain” filter for relationships.

Stepping back to allow healing (6:53)
Sometimes the most loving act is stepping back and allowing others to do their own trauma work. Choosing peace may mean releasing familiar but unhealthy dynamics and trusting what God has prepared next.

Reflection Question

Where in your life have you mistaken rescuing for love, and what might choosing yourself look like now?

Next Step: Continue Your Recovery

If this episode resonated, you may be ready for deeper support.

Level 2: Trauma Recovery — One Breath at a Time is designed for those who recognize the patterns, understand the cost of secondary trauma, and are ready to move from awareness into intentional recovery. This level offers structured guidance, reflection, and support to help you strengthen boundaries, restore emotional safety, and choose peace without guilt.

You do not have to recover alone.
 You do not have to carry what was never yours.

We are recovering one breath at a time.
Give yourself grace and stay fearless.
Bye for now.

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Episode Overview

In this deeply personal episode, Coach Liz shares her lived experience with domestic violence and trauma bonding, tracing how early exposure to emotional and relational instability shaped her adult relationships. She explains why survivors often confuse intensity, fear, and inconsistency with love, and why leaving abusive relationships is far more complex than outsiders understand.

This conversation expands the definition of domestic violence beyond physical harm to include emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial abuse. It offers understanding without judgment and truth without shame.

What You Will Learn

• Why trauma bonding keeps survivors emotionally attached to unsafe partners
• How unhealed childhood trauma trains the nervous system to accept chaos as normal
• Why strength is not the issue, but unresolved trauma is
• How domestic violence can show up emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and financially
• What recovery has taught Coach Liz about deserving love that does not hurt

Key Takeaways

• Trauma bonding is a survival response, not a character flaw
• Intensity and fear are often mistaken for love when safety was absent early on
• Staying does not mean weakness. It means the nervous system learned familiarity, not peace
• Healing begins when the body learns what safety actually feels like
• You deserve relationships rooted in consistency, care, and respect

Reflection Question

Where have you mistaken intensity or fear for love because it felt familiar?

Call to Action

If this episode resonates with you and you are ready to begin your recovery journey, consider starting with Rebirth of Her. This is a safe, private, and spiritually grounded program designed specifically for survivors of domestic violence and trauma bonding.

If a group setting feels like too much right now, you are invited to begin with Level 1, a gentle, trauma-informed starting place that allows you to learn, reflect, and rebuild emotional safety at your own pace.

Your recovery matters. Your safety matters. Your story matters.

Closing Reminder

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless. Bye for now.

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Episode Overview

In this powerful episode, Coach Liz explores how growing up in an alcoholic or emotionally chaotic home shapes identity, self-worth, and survival patterns long before adulthood. You will learn how shame forms early, why hyper-independence becomes a coping strategy, and how many people lose their authentic selves while simply trying to survive.

This episode creates space for understanding, not blame, and offers gentle awareness for those beginning their recovery journey.

What You Will Learn

• How alcoholism in the home impacts emotional development
  
  
• Why children often take on responsibility that was never theirs
  
  
• How shame quietly replaces identity in chaotic environments
  
  
• The connection between early chaos and adult people-pleasing or self-abandonment
  
  
• Why naming your experience is the first step toward recovery
  
  

Key Takeaways

• Chaos trains the nervous system to stay on high alert
  
  
• Shame thrives in secrecy and silence
  
  
• Survival roles can follow you into adulthood if left unexamined
  
  
• Awareness brings choice, and choice brings freedom
  
  
• Recovery begins with compassion for the child you once were
  
  

Reflection Question

What parts of yourself did you learn to hide just to stay safe?

Call to Action

If this episode resonated with you, consider taking the next step with the Level 1 Pathway to Trauma Recovery Course. This foundational course is designed to help you understand trauma, identify survival patterns, and begin rebuilding emotional safety, clarity, and self-trust at your own pace.

You do not have to untangle this alone. Support, structure, and guidance are available as you begin your recovery journey.

Closing Reminder

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless. Bye for now.

Support the show

Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath. Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility. I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast.

Contact us at:
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