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Episode Overview

In this episode, Coach Liz breaks down one of the most essential skills in trauma recovery. Learning how to discern red flags from healthy relational traits. You will discover why unsafe relationships can feel familiar to a nervous system shaped by chaos, and why peace may feel uncomfortable until the body relearns safety.

This episode offers practical tools to help you evaluate relationships with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

What You Will Learn

• Why red flags are often subtle and not always obvious
• How healthy traits feel steady, consistent, and emotionally safe
• Why your nervous system provides valuable information
• How to discern who belongs in your inner circle
• A grounding question for clarity:
   “Does this person bring me closer to peace or closer to emotional chaos?”

Key Takeaways

• Red flags show up through patterns like gaslighting, boundary violations, and blame
• Healthy people demonstrate consistency, honesty, empathy, and responsibility
• Behavior matters more than words or promises
• Consistency matters more than chemistry
• Emotional safety is foundational for recovery and identity

Red Flags vs. Healthy Traits

Red Flags May Include:
Confusion, guilt-tripping, dishonesty, boundary violations, silent punishment, jealousy of growth, manipulation, and repeated apologies without change

Healthy Traits Include:
Respect, open communication, emotional grounding, accountability, honesty, encouragement, and safety

Reflection Prompt

What does emotional safety feel like for me, and how can I honor it this week?

Continue Your Recovery Journey

If this episode resonated, your next step may be Level 1: Pathway to Trauma Recovery Course. This program provides a safe and supportive space to deepen awareness, rebuild emotional safety, and strengthen discernment skills as part of your recovery journey.

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Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

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Disclaimer:
This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy or clinical treatment. Please seek licensed support where appropriate.

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Special Release: Domestic Violence Series Episode 7 of 8

Episode Summary

In this deeply encouraging episode, Coach Liz explores what it truly looks like to rebuild your life after trauma. She takes listeners through the journey of transitioning from survival mode into a life grounded in peace, healthy love, faith, and community. This episode is a reminder that recovery is not a solo journey and that it is possible to build again with confidence, clarity, and support.

Key Topics Covered

1. Rebuilding Life After Trauma

The episode opens with a compassionate reflection on the experience of stepping out of abusive or traumatic environments. Many survivors are so accustomed to chaos and hypervigilance that learning to receive love, rest, and joy becomes a new challenge. The conversation walks through the shift from fear-driven survival to heart-centered living.

2. Defining Healthy Love After Trauma

Healthy love is consistent, steady, and peaceful. It supports your recovery instead of silencing it. It celebrates your growth, honors your worth, and mirrors the character of God. Healthy love does not confuse, disturb, or require you to betray yourself.

3. Reconnecting with Faith and Community

Recovery includes finding your way back to faith—not from fear, but from joy. Coach Liz speaks about the importance of safe spiritual spaces, ministries, and trauma-informed support systems. Community restoration is a vital part of rebuilding because survivors heal more fully when surrounded by people who speak to their worth.

4. Practical Steps for Rebuilding

Coach Liz offers reflective questions to help listeners identify what abundance looks like in this season. Listeners are encouraged to examine where boundaries need strengthening and where they can courageously open up as they build a new foundation.

5. Resources for the Journey

This episode highlights key recovery resources such as the Pathway to Trauma Recovery book, journal tools, and the All Things Recovery online community. Rebuilding becomes possible when survivors are supported, seen, and empowered.

Closing Reflection

Coach Liz closes with a powerful reminder that surviving the storm means it is now time to plant your garden. There is peace ahead, and there is purpose in every step forward.

 We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless. Bye for now.

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Overview:

 In this episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz explores one of the most misunderstood topics in trauma recovery—the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. Drawing from biblical truth and lived experience, she unpacks what God truly requires of us when we forgive and how to protect your peace in the process.

Key Takeaways:

• Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same. Forgiveness is about releasing emotional pain and resentment, while reconciliation requires accountability, repentance, and safety.
  
  
• Forgiveness is a spiritual detox. It’s a process that cleanses the heart, removes bitterness, and restores clarity so you can move forward in freedom.
  
  
• Boundaries are sacred. You can forgive someone without inviting them back into your life.
  
  
• Practical tools for walking in forgiveness: Pray for peace instead of proximity, write a release letter, and bless your surroundings to replace resentment with gratitude.
  
  
• Faith connection: Forgiveness aligns you with God’s will, but reconciliation mirrors His grace only when both repentance and responsibility are present.

Reflection Prompt:
What are you still holding onto that belongs to God? What would it look like to forgive while still protecting your peace?

Resource Mentioned:
✨ Pathway to Trauma Recovery book and journal — continue your forgiveness journey and discover emotional restoration, one breath at a time.

Join the Recovery Movement:
Continue your journey inside the All Things Recovery Patreon Community — where faith, forgiveness, and freedom meet.
👉 Join here

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Summary:

In this episode, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding takes listeners on a journey to rediscover safety, presence, and peace within their own bodies after trauma. She reminds us that while the mind may want to forget, the body remembers, carrying the echoes of past pain in the form of tension, tightness, and guarded breath.

Through Scripture and grounded wisdom, Liz reframes the body as sacred ground, not a battlefield. Each breath becomes an invitation to God’s peace, each step toward reconnection an act of worship.

Key Topics Covered:

• The body’s memory of trauma and its survival responses
  
  
  
• Understanding the body as a temple of the Holy Spirit
  
  
  
• Three simple body-based healing practices:
  
  
  
  1. Purposeful breathing to invite peace
     
     
     
  2. Grounding to stay present in the moment
     
     
     
  3. Gentle movement to release trauma energy
     
     
     
• Trauma recovery as worship, restoring both the body and soul
  
  

Reflection Prompt:
How can you begin to treat your body as sacred today, not broken, but beloved?

Connect with Resources:
Visit Oasis Wellness Centers for guided trauma recovery tools, journals, and programs designed to help you reconnect with your body, breath, and spirit.

Signature Closing:
We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless.

Support the show

Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

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Episode Overview

In this powerful episode, Coach Liz invites you to explore one of the most transformative questions survivors can ask:

 “Who are you when you remove the pain?”

Abuse often strips away self-worth, replacing truth with lies that silence the voice within. This conversation is a reminder that your true identity has never been lost; it’s waiting to be reclaimed.

 Key Topics

1. Reclaiming Your Identity After Abuse
Learn how trauma distorts your self-perception and how to rediscover the person God created you to be, whole, worthy, and fearless.

2. Alignment: Bringing Mind, Body, and Spirit Back Into Agreement
Coach Liz introduces the Bottleneck Breakthrough Method and explains how healing requires harmony between your mind, body, and spirit. This alignment allows truth to flow freely through every part of your being.

3. Rebuilding Boundaries and Restoring Your Voice
Using the story of Nehemiah rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem, you’ll learn how to protect your peace through strong, healthy boundaries, one “NO” at a time.

4. God’s Promise of Restoration
Drawing from Joel 2:25, Coach Liz reminds listeners that God restores not only time but identity. Every lost moment, voice, and dream can be rebuilt through faith and resilience.

 Resources Mentioned

• Pathway to Trauma Recovery Book & Journal
• All Things Recovery  Patreon Community
• Oasis Wellness Centers Trauma Recovery Coaching
   Visit OasisWellnessCtrs.com to access these tools and begin reclaiming your voice.

💬 Reflection Prompt

Where in your life are you ready to say “NO” to what no longer serves you, and “YES” to your true identity?

💖 Closing Message

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless.
 — Coach Liz Blanding, The Trauma Informed Girl

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Overview:

In this deeply emotional and educational episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz Blanding unpacks the painful reality of trauma bonding. This psychological and chemical attachment keeps survivors tied to abusive relationships even when they want to leave. Through compassion, truth, and faith-based insights, Liz helps listeners understand how to recognize the difference between real love and trauma-induced attachment.

Key Discussion Points:

💔 Understanding Trauma Bonding (0:00)

• Trauma bonding occurs through repeated cycles of abuse, apology, and reconciliation.
  
  
• The brain becomes conditioned to associate pain with comfort and fear with love.
  
  
• These emotional highs and lows create chemical bonds that mirror addiction.
  
  

💞 True Love vs. Trauma (2:11)

• True love aligns with 1 Corinthians 13—it is patient, kind, and never controlling or humiliating.
  
  
• Love should build your strength, not break your spirit.
  
  
• Real love honors boundaries, encourages peace, and supports your freedom.
  
  

🔁 The Cycle of Trauma Bonding (3:23)

• Abusers often begin with charm, gifts, or affection to create a deep sense of attachment.
  
  
• This is followed by emotional or physical abuse, then an apology or promise to change.
  
  
• The apology releases oxytocin (“the bonding hormone”), reinforcing the emotional tie and making it difficult to detach.
  
  

🛑 Breaking the Bond (4:29)

 Coach Liz outlines three steps to break the cycle:

1. Awareness – Identify and name the unhealthy pattern.
   
   
2. Acceptance – Face the truth without denial or excuses.
   
   
3. Courage – Choose to end the cycle, even when fear or hope tries to pull you back.
   
   

She reminds listeners that journaling, prayer, and supportive communities are powerful tools for rebuilding clarity and strength.

✨ Call to Action (7:35)

• Explore the Pathway to Trauma Recovery book and journal.
  
  
• Join the All Things Recovery community on Patreon for faith-based trauma recovery circles and guided healing.
  
  
• Remember: you do not have to untangle the trauma bond alone.
  
  

Final Message:

You are not bound to your pain. Love does not hurt, manipulate, or control. Love restores, uplifts, and heals.

Tagline:

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless. Bye for now.

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Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

Contact us at: 

[email protected]

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In this powerful episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz Blanding explores two of the most insidious forms of abuse—emotional and spiritual abuse.

 These forms of control often hide behind the appearance of care, faith, or love, leaving survivors questioning their worth, intuition, and even their connection to God.

Key Discussion Points:

🕊️ Defining Emotional and Spiritual Abuse (0:13)

• Emotional abuse is a pattern of behaviors like gaslighting, name-calling, guilt-tripping, and public humiliation.
  
  
• Spiritual abuse manipulates faith, scripture, or divine authority to shame and control others.
  
  
• Both target identity and create confusion about one’s relationship with self and with God.
  
  

👁️ Recognizing the Signs (1:30)

• These forms of abuse can be subtle.
  
  
• The abuser often disguises control as “love” or “spiritual guidance.”
  
  
• True faith produces peace and freedom—not fear, confusion, or control.
  
  

🌿 The Bottleneck Breakthrough Method (4:35)
Coach Liz introduces a 3-step recovery process:

1. Awareness – Identify and name the abusive behaviors.
   
   
2. Acceptance – Stop blaming yourself and recognize the abuser’s brokenness.
   
   
3. Alignment – Reconnect your mind, body, and spirit with the truth of your worth and freedom.
   
   
   

✍️ Reclaiming Your Voice (6:37)

• Journaling becomes a sacred act of recovery.
  
  
• The silence imposed by abuse can be broken by writing, reflecting, and reaffirming your truth.
  
  
• You may have been silenced, but your power was never stolen.
  
  

🌼 Resources and Community (6:44)

• Explore the Pathway to Trauma Recovery book and journal.
  
  
• Join the All Things Recovery community on Patreon for faith-based trauma circles, guided reflections, and peer-to-peer encouragement.

Final Message (7:16):

You are not alone. You are supported, seen, and safe. Remember—emotional and spiritual abuse may have silenced your voice, but it did not take your power.

Tagline:

We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless. Bye for now.

Support the show

Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

Contact us at: 

[email protected]

https://www.skool.com/oasis-wellness-academy-3841/about

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Episode Summary

In this powerful opening to the Mini Trauma Recovery Talks: Domestic Violence & Trauma Recovery Series, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding helps survivors and supporters understand why leaving an abusive situation doesn’t automatically mean the trauma is gone.

Trauma is not just about what happened — it’s about how those experiences reshaped your body, brain, and spirit. Liz explains how the “trauma loop” keeps survivors stuck in cycles of triggers, fear, and shame, and how awareness becomes the first step to breaking free.

Drawing from The Bottleneck Breakthrough Method and scripture, Liz reminds listeners that God’s plan was never for us to live in fear. True recovery is a process of renewing the mind and learning to feel safe again — one breath at a time.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

• What trauma really means in the context of domestic violence
  
  
• Why the body struggles to recognize safety after leaving abuse
  
  
• How to identify and break the “trauma loop”
  
  
• Why awareness is the first step in The Bottleneck Breakthrough Method
  
  
• How faith and renewal of the mind lead to lasting peace
  
  
• A simple reflection exercise to begin redefining what safety means today

Scripture References:

• Psalm 34:18 — “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.”
  
  
• Isaiah 61:1 — “He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted.”
  
  
• Romans 12:2 — “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
  
  

Reflective Prompt:

🪞 What does safety mean to me now — and what would it take for my body to believe it?

Resources Mentioned:

• 📘 Pathway to Trauma Recovery book
  
  
  
• 🪞 Pathway to Trauma Recovery Journal
  
  
  
• 🌿 All Things Recovery Patreon Community — Faith-based trauma recovery support and reflection resources
  
  
  

Support the show

Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

Contact us at: 

[email protected]

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Summary:

In this powerful conversation, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding of Oasis Wellness Centers sits down with real estate innovator Diego Giraldo of RTO Enterprises to explore the connection between trauma, foreclosure, and housing. Together, they discuss how foreclosure compounds financial and emotional trauma and how dignity can be restored through creative rent-to-own housing solutions.

Listeners will learn:

• How RTO Enterprises helps distressed property owners avoid foreclosure and protect their credit.
  
  
• Why foreclosure adds layers of trauma, and how rent-to-own offers a pathway to dignity and stability.
  
  
• How the rent-to-own model allows families with credit challenges to begin building equity while renting.
  
  
• Why brokers can benefit from offering rent-to-own solutions and expand their value to clients.
  
  
• How Oasis Wellness and RTO Enterprises’ missions align to provide wraparound services and trauma recovery support.
  
  
• The shared vision for expanding these housing solutions in Michigan, across the U.S., and even globally.

🎧 This episode shines a light on housing as more than real estate; it’s a foundation for recovery, dignity, and hope.

Resources & Links:

Call to Action:

If you or someone you know is facing foreclosure, seeking stable housing, or interested in supporting our mission, connect with Oasis Wellness Centers today:

 📞 Call: 616-320-0703
 🌐 Website: www.oasiswellnessctrs.com
 📧 Email: [email protected]

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Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

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[email protected]

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Episode Summary:

 In this heartfelt episode, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding shares a powerful story about a friend’s daughter who was brutally harmed in a domestic violence incident. Drawing from her own journey as a survivor of domestic violence, Liz unpacks how unresolved trauma fuels the cycle of violence—and how it can escalate from “one hit” to life-threatening situations if not addressed.

She highlights the ripple effect of domestic violence on families and loved ones who often feel helpless when someone they care about is trapped in an abusive relationship. Liz also discusses the comprehensive resources available at Oasis Wellness Centers—from trauma recovery coaching to financial guidance and safety planning—to help survivors take steps toward freedom, safety, and restoration.

Faith remains central to Liz’s message as she shares scripture that assures listeners: God never intended for anyone to live in fear or harm.

Timestamps:

• [0:10] Domestic violence and unresolved trauma
  
  
  
• [2:17] The ripple effect of domestic violence
  
  
  
• [3:09] Resources and support for recovery at Oasis Wellness Centers
  
  
  
• [4:41] Biblical perspective on domestic violence
  
  
  
• [5:19] Call to action and closing
  
  
  

👉 Resources Mentioned:

• Oasis Wellness Centers: Peer-to-peer trauma recovery coaching, safety planning, financial guidance, and support groups
  
  
  

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Support the show

Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. 

Contact us at: 

[email protected]

https://www.skool.com/oasis-wellness-academy-3841/about

Disclaimer:
This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy or clinical treatment. Please seek licensed support where appropriate.