Getting Kids To Listen

Bridgett Miller is an educator, remedial therapist, presenter, parent consultant and an authorized facilitator of the Neufeld Institute. She combines nearly two decades of personal experience as a teacher and parent to support adults to nurture the children in their lives using their heads and their hearts. Bridgett is the author of “What Young Children Need You to Know: How to see them so you know what to do for them” which just came out, and the creator of Look with Love and Parenting with Intention on Facebook and Instagram. Born and raised in South Africa, she now resides with her husband and two daughters in Vancouver, Canada.

In this interview, we covered some topics from her book that have not been discussed much or at all in the podcast - lying and shyness. Bridgett explained that lying in a young child before the age of 5 is completely developmentally normal and expected. She also mentioned that shyness is an instinct. We are all born with shyness and the reason that we are is because its supposed to keep us safe by keeping us close to the people who are close to us and have our best interest at heart. These and more key takeaways so please tune in!

Recommended Resources:

https://neufeldinstitute.org/

https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/

https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/rest-play-grow/

https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/beach-strijacks-reclaiming-our-students/

Personal Links:

www.bridgettmiller.com

https://www.facebook.com/look.with.love.bridgett/

https://www.instagram.com/lookwithlove_bridgett/

https://www.instagram.com/parentingwithintention/

https://www.instagram.com/childrenneedyoutoknow/

Today’s show is all about Getting Kids to Listen and Talk from a an expert who knows best - a speech pathologist by the name of Celeste Roseberry-McKibbin. She received her Ph.D. from Northwestern University  and is now a Professor of Communication Sciences and Disorders at California State University, Sacramento.  Dr. Roseberry-McKibbin is also currently a part-time itinerant speech pathologist in the San Juan Unified School District where she provides direct services to students from preschool through high school.

Dr. Roseberry-McKibbin's primary research interests are in the areas of assessment and treatment of culturally and linguistically diverse students with communication disorders as well as service delivery to students from low-income backgrounds.  She has over 70 publications, including 16 books, and has made over 370 presentations at the local, state, national, and international levels.  She is a Fellow of (American Speech and Hearing Association), and winner of their Certificate of Recognition for Special Contributions in Multicultural Affairs. She received the national presidential Daily Point of Light Award for her volunteer work in building literacy skills of children in poverty.

Celeste is such a rich resource of information. In this interview, she mentions her 3 steps on getting young kids to listen, how she gets teenagers to listen, the importance of reading in speech and language development, where parents can get information about typical language development, why anger does not work and tips on how to develop young kid’s communication skills. At the very end of the show, she also talks briefly about her experience living in Manila,Philipines and leaves us with an inspiring personal story about her son and how they were able to work through his learning difficulties.

Celeste’s Recommended Resources

https://www.asha.org/

https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1451663889/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0

https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454

https://paultough.com/helping/

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/the-5-love-languages-of-children/

https://www.amazon.com/Setting-Limits-Strong-Willed-Revised-Expanded/dp/0770436595

All the way from the United Kingdom, Rebecca Shaikh shares about the Aware Parenting philosophy. She is a certified Level 2 Aware Parenting teacher, and her passion lies in helping parents find ways to discipline without the use of punishments or rewards. She taught as primary school teacher for 17 years before having her first child. She is now the mother of two children (ages 7 and 4). She completed an MA in Counselling in Education and has an Oncology Certified Nurse qualification in Gentle Sleep Methods. She is currently doing her counselling skills and will be working towards BACP accredication and training to be a sandplay therapist. Rebecca leads staff meetings in schools to help teachers look at alternatives to punishments and rewards and leads Attachment Play workshops regularly and offers consultations to support parents with the Aware Parenting approach. More recently she is invloved in setting up a gentle play group and a gentle parent and child groups. Rebecca also works on the executive councll of The International Attachment Network.

Rebecca shares plenty of playful anecdotes and examples of activities that she does with her kids to get their cooperation. She also talks about the 3 reasons why's children 'misbehave' and most importantly about how we can use play to heal from stress and trauma in children's lives as well as support their behaviour.

Rebecca’s Recommended Resources and Links:

Dr Solter’s Aware Parenting and Attachment Play - http://www.awareparenting.com/english.htm

The Aware Parenting Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-aware-parenting-podcast/id1455772681

https://www.flourishingchildhood.com

https://www.instagram.com/flourishingchildhood/

https://www.facebook.com/flourishingchildhood/

Anna Seewald of authenticparenting.com talks about the CALM formula that can help parents when they find themselves in difficult situations with kids. She has a podcast of her own called The Authentic Parenting Podcast. With a background in psychology and education and having worked with children for 18 years, she helps conscious moms and dads to become calm and connected to themselves and their children through trauma-informed education. She believes in helping children by helping parents. She has a private practice that specializes in parent education, where she provides one-on-one parent coaching, parenting, court ordered, and co-parenting classes. In the show, Anna also talks about the importance of self-care for parents and we share this advocacy of approaching parenting with love and compassion instead of control and fear. She hosts a free parenting support group on Facebook and has so much more useful parenting content to offer, so make sure to head towards her online platforms linked below.

Anna Seewald’s Links:

1. Website:www.authenticparenting.com

2. Authentic Parenting Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authentic-parenting/id1052399775

3. Authentic Parenting on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/parentingfromtheheart

4. Authentic Parenting Podcast on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/authentic.parenting.podcast/

15 Keys To Effective Communication: Building Strong Parent Relationship by Anna Seewald

Hayley Francis Cann, BMT, MTA, NMT currently provides music therapy services to Katarokwi/ Kingston, ON and Area in Canada. Throughout her life, Hayley enjoyed performing in various ensembles and choirs in the community and volunteering at hospitals and seniors homes. This lead her to pursue a career involving music and connecting with people in a meaningful way. She studied at Acadia University to obtain a Bachelor of Music Therapy (BMT). In this programme she received advanced training in piano, guitar, and voice, as well as saxophone as her principle instrument. In June 2017 Hayley became an accredited music therapist recognized by the Certification Board for Music Therapists (CBMT) and the Canadian Association of Music Therapists (CAMT). In May 2018, Hayley became a recognized Neurologic Music Therapist (NMT) with The Academy of Neurologic Music Therapy specializing in music therapy approaches for rehabilitation. She has clinical experience with seniors including dementia and Alzheimer’s, individuals with developmental disabilities, and rehabilitation including stroke, acquired brain injury, and amusia to name a few. Hayley is currently pursuing a Masters of Science in Aging and Health at Queen’s University to further explore the impact of the arts on aging process and collaborate with professionals in the healthcare industry on ways to promote wellbeing during the aging experience. Hayley is also using her love of the arts to author a Children’s book that has been recently released. In everything she does, Hayley aims to provide an authentic experience that is respectful toward all people no matter their age, diagnosis, background, race, religion, or sexual orientation.

www.mtahayley.com

https://www.instagram.com/mtahayley/

Hayley’s Book

Ocean Drum

Katie is a dually-certified Board Certified Behavior Analyst and Licensed Professional Counselor who focuses on creating a healthy brain-environment and is passionate about empowering children and their parents to overcome life’s obstacles. Katie’s mantra is: Wellness, structure, awareness and a healthy brain equals a happy child. Influenced by her neuroscience background and experience working at some of the nation’s most highly-regarded agencies and schools, Katie is driven to help children reach their potential and create healthier kids and happier parents.

In this interview, we discuss how to help kids get out of stress cycles, how to get their attention with the five senses and the importance of validations, giving consequences, and giving them freedom to control certain situations. It was a pleasure to speak with Katie and I sincerely want to invite her back on the show to discuss more topics regarding behavior management.

Contact Katie: http://www.behavedbrain.com/contact/

http://www.behavedbrain.com/about-katie/

Her recommended resources:

https://www.drdansiegel.com/books/the_whole_brain_child/

https://www.simplicityparenting.com/

http://www.howchildrenthrive.com/

https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Child-Children-Overwhelms/dp/0767908724

We will listen to a very personal sharing of parenting stories and childhood experiences from today’s guest - Agata Dela Cruz. She is a mother dedicated to applying emotional intelligence and growth mindset with herself and her son. As a full time working mom, first time parent and wife, she faces her own emotional challenges and obstacles and shares personal experiences as opportunities for learning and personal growth. We also talked about holding space - an important part of socio-emotional intelligence, choosing and connecting with therapists and a little on whole mind-body wellness.

If you are curious and interested in self awareness and emotional well being, join her community of other like minded parents and individuals on her very artistically designed Instagram page on this link: https://instagram.com/tanos_mom?igshid=1h4tt6r4ywfuy.

Here are Agata’s recommended resources:

Dan Siegel’s The Whole Brain Child

Growth Mindset - Carol Dweck

We will discuss tools that get kids to listen today that are also our guest’s passion - Building rapport, providing age appropriate preparation and teaching coping skills to children, siblings and parents. Stephanie Applehanz is a Child Life Specialist with extensive experience creating and implementing plans of care for children and their families to use during their hospital stay and upon returning home. She enjoys collaborating with members of multiple interdisciplinary teams to advocate and provide the best care for patients and families. She is skilled at creating documents, presentations and trainings to continue to educate others of children’s needs. She is also proficient in creating and implementing IEPs, as well as coordinating with school and camp counselors.

In this episode, she details a list of toys to use with kids that are not only used for fun but also tools to facilitate rapport and conversations. Stephanie also explains why getting on eye level is important for kids and what other techniques to use when building rapport as an external family member is difficult during hospital care. There are many child life tricks out there that can be directly applied to home situations - and Stephanie named a few.

Stephanie’s Personal Links:

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-r-appelhanz-ba-ccls-594a0832/

Email - [email protected]

Stephanie’s Recommended Resources:

-Mr. Men and Little Miss book series://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/series/DR9/mr-men-and-little-miss

-www.childlife.org to learn about child life and how we help children to cope

-https://www.kidsinpain.ca/ to learn more about how to improve children's pain management by mobilizing evidence-based solutions through coordination and collaboration

-http://csefel.vanderbilt.edu/ is focused on promoting the social emotional development and school readiness of young children birth to age 5

-http://www.ymca.org

-www.dianealber.com creative art and feeling/coping books

-https://www.loveandlogic.com/ offering choices

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-https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Xkk5CpfwUI&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR3qj0sunCyGVhhEFQpd06CmQahme0OR8cGtU5XOkG-UkmxjMFmzOtnC17k information for parents on how to talk to children about COVID

Arcadia Kim is the founder of Infinite Screentime, a movement dedicated to dispelling the negative connotations of screentime and building a community of coaches, educators, and child advocates that helps to raise the screen-smart kid. Arcadia has her MBA from Harvard Business School and BA from Wellesley College where she majored in Theatre and Film. She was also a retired Chief Operating Officer of Electronic Arts Los Angeles, where she had the privilege of working on blockbuster titles such as The Sims, Medal of Honor, Command and Conquer, and The Lord of the Rings franchise. She is now a mom of 3 screen-loving kids and helping parents manage screentime at home by focusing on good tech choices. With Arcadia’s impressive credentials and being in Asia, where they have been coping with the pandemic since January, she is the best resource for managing online schooling and screen time activities after school closures. This episode will give us an overview of how Hong Kong is dealing with the pandemic, how she fosters connection with her kids around screen time and her favourite and most recommended video games!

Arcadia Kim’s Social Media Links:

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.infinitescreentime.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/infinitescreentime

Twitter: twitter.com/infinitescreentime

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arcadia-kim-7b8024169/

Recommended Resources:

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/

Book: The Art of Screentime by Anya Kamenetz

Thanks for visiting this page! For questions/comments/concerns, contact the host, James Deas, at [email protected].

We have an energetic show today with Katherine Jara and she will talk about online learning, a topic that is very timely with the surge of virtual schooling currently happening all over the world.  She has 10 years of experience working as an English teacher and being a workshop presenter in 3 national and international English as a Second Language (ESL) conferences in Brazil. She is proven to be a creative, enthusiastic and proactive professional of the area and as evidenced by our interview, she is a very engaging teacher of young kids.  After she graduated in English Pedagogy with a Major in Education, she started teaching the language to teens and adults at language schools.  In 2012, she decided to move to Brazil where she started her journey as a Young Learner teacher, but it was in 2017 that Katherine found the enjoyment of being an Online Teacher for toddlers and kids.  Teaching Spanish and English online has given her the opportunity to know kids from all over the world and to study, adapt and apply classroom activities to the online environment. She co-authored a free downloadable ebook entitled “A Guide to Start Teaching Online” and conducts workshops for teachers called “Lights, Camera, Teach Kids!”. She has a lot of things to teach us - how to use visuals to attract the kids’ attention, how to improve how you present yourself in front of the screen, how to deal with kids’ short attention span and she demonstrates the games that she usually plays with kids during lessons.

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/katty.jara_/

Download her free e-book here:

teachersconsulting.wixsite.com/onlineteaching