This is a big question that we work with all the time. Unfortunately, people tend to know more of what they don’t want than what they do want. So, how can we figure out what we like and what we want?

It may be as simple as opening up the conversation about trying new things with your partner and creating the safe environment for that. This isn’t the same thing as telling them what you want to try - this needs to be a conversation of intimate curiosity.

Boundaries are not:

• Listing off rules
• Defensive self-protection

Think about what your ideal experience is. Sit in curiosity with yourself and look at what you are available for, and what you are not available for. You are responsible for manifesting these things, or lack of things, in your life.

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There’s a lot of messages in our culture that pleasure isn’t important and should only be enjoyed after all the “productive” things are done. There tends to be a lot of shame around seeking pleasure because it’s sort of a forbidden fruit.

In this episode, we’re going to explore why it’s important to reconnect with pleasure in general, what gets in the way, and what we can do about it.

When we’re disconnected from our pleasure, we’re disconnected from our sense of agency in our day-to-day lives. It could be work getting in the way, societal pressure, family or upbringing, but it’s important to find some pleasure for yourself.

• What things do you truly enjoy?
• What is getting in your way?
• What’s one small pleasure you can allow yourself today?

Part of our work with clients is to support the inner work to get to a place where they can prioritize pleasure and start to see how the small effects of that pleasure build up over time.

Learn more about working with us at gettingoffwithnatalieandrocky.com!

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Today we’re going into some detail about what Natalie’s blow job course is really about and the bigger picture of why so many men tend to want, and even expect, deep throat.

Penetration is a natural impulse and desire, but it’s important to recognize when it’s been warped into a shadow version of itself that’s capable of causing harm. Often, sexual preferences can come from traumatic experiences during one’s formative years, but that doesn’t have to be the end of it.

In our courses, we teach our clients how to really slow down, understand what is happening in their partner’s body, and bring you both to heights of connection and pleasure you’ve never known before.

Learn more about working with us at gettingoffwithnatalieandrocky.com!

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It can feel very natural to let a man lead. There are also times when a person who’s often in a leadership position wants a break from that and it’s a nice change of pace. So, the question is, how do we know when to lead and when to allow our partner to take the initiative? 

Women need to feel a sense of safety in any kind of intimacy, but guys tend to jump the gun and skip the part about learning who she is, what she’s about, and what she really likes and wants. 

When it comes down to it, leadership is:

• Communication
• Being attuned to your partner
• A dance between the 2 of you
• Respectful and kind

Leadership is not:

• Coercion
• Forceful
• Manipulation

If any of this hit a nerve with you, now is a good time to start doing the inner work on yourself to figure out what you really want and how to communicate it.

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A lot of us carry shame around sexuality and everything that goes with it. That’s why we’re having this conversation today. We’ll talk about where this shame comes from. Sexuality is treated like it has to be “just right” or not at all, but it’s a moving target that we’re all supposed to just understand somehow. 

Sexual shame comes from many places, like religion, culture, and even politics as a tool of control for the patriarchy. The shame doesn’t just harm women, though - sexual shame breeds sexual violence of all kinds. So, what can we do about it?

Letting go of shame can allow you to:

• Be vulnerable with others and build intimate connections
• Communicate better
• Have a more deeply enjoyable sex life

Shame is very heavy. That’s why it’s used for control. Releasing your shame around sexuality is the key to a light, joyful sex life.

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You know that feeling when you wake up and realize you don’t really know what you want? When living the expectations that we’re conditioned to follow, we’re not reflecting on what really makes us happy, what really lights us up, and what we really want from life. 

Part of the work we do is to push people to really examine what they want and get used to expressing it. Having a safe container in which to experiment is a healing experience. But, just knowing what we want isn’t enough - we also need to do the work to be able to truly receive it.

Our conversation will explore:

• Knowing what you really want
• Communicating what you want
• Giving yourself permission to want
• Being receptive
• The energy of reciprocity
• What RBF is about and what to do about it

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Why do we sometimes get to a place when our own pleasure isn’t a priority? Not just with sex and intimacy, but all of life’s pleasures in general. What happens to get us to that place?  And how can we tell the difference between nervous anticipation and fear?

Come along as we consider:

• Pleasure vs. obligation
• Societal gender roles and their effect on leadership roles in relationships
• Societal programming around pleasure
• Freedom and autonomy
• Reprogramming yourself to be able to receive pleasure

We want the most pleasurable pleasure for you, but you’re going to have to do some work to make sure you’re open to it.

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Why the blow job course? Why yoni massage? How did it all get started? In this episode we will go into deeper detail about what we offer our clients, how we came to do this work, and why. With Natalie, the blow job course started as an off-hand comment that piqued a lot of interest in other women. With Rocky, an injury forced a job change and he found a niche in teaching women how to drive a man crazy with their hands, which then turned into sensual massage, which then opened into pleasure coaching and helping women heal from sexual trauma by offering a new experience.

Natalie’s own experience in doing the work she does with her clients has given her the confidence to love her body and really be present, curious, and playful with intimate partners without bringing the old traumas and insecurities along for the ride.

In this episode you’ll get a taste of what our courses are like and how we work with our clients, as well as some translation between sexes about the importance of communication, safety, and relaxation.

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Welcome to Getting Off with Natalie + Rocky, where our mission is to help you experience more safety and enjoyment in the bedroom. First, we’d like to introduce ourselves. We are Natalie Vires - a pleasure and intimacy coach, and Rocky Peterson - a yoni massage practitioner and pleasure educator. Between the two of us, we have helped hundreds of people to deepen their relationship to their own pleasure.

In this introductory episode, we’ll talk about how we met, how our work complements each other, and some keys to jumpstart better intimacy.

We’re not here to give you tips for hookups. What we are here for is to help you find that depth of intimacy that allows your dream sexual experiences to come to fruition regularly. In this podcast we’ll cover everything from sensual confidence to safety, and the ripple effects that come with a fulfilling sex life.

Learn more about working with us at gettingoffwithnatalieandrocky.com!

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Do you want to know what it's like to experience a life fully saturated in pleasure? Great! You are in the right place! In this podcast, we will cover how to create the kind of safety with a partner that will allow you to release your inhibitions and open up to more of what pleasure and intimacy have to offer. We're here to help you prioritize pleasure, so you can experience more satisfaction and fulfillment in your life. We are Natalie Vires - a pleasure and intimacy coach, and Rocky Peterson - a yoni massage practitioner and pleasure educator. Between the two of us, we have helped hundreds of people to deepen their relationship to their own pleasure. If you're chomping at the bit and want to get started on your own adventure, head to gettingoffwithnatalieandrocky.com to get started.

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