⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹 episode 22 ⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹

I missed last week wehh wehh wehh

see you next week :)

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Leave questions or topic suggestions here ~

https://www.crybabysomatics.com/podcast

This week I answered one of your questions!

"I’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and for most of it, I’ve found myself constantly overextending and giving more than I receive. I try so hard to be the perfect partner!!!! always accommodating, always putting his needs first, even at the expense of my own health and happiness. I stay quiet when he insults me or mistreats me because I don’t want to rock the boat or create conflict. Whenever I try to express how I’m feeling or speak up for myself, I’m made to feel like I’m the problem, like I’m too demanding, too sensitive, or too much to handle. I’ve started noticing these patterns and realising I can’t keep doing this to myself, but I’m scared of what might happen if I change how I behave. What if he pulls away? I’m so used to trying to keep everything smooth, but it’s taking a toll on me. I’m torn between standing up for myself and maintaining the peace, and I don’t know what to do. How do I break this pattern without sabotaging the relationship, or should I even try?"

as usual its a long winded answer :)

love you see you soon x

⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹 episode 20 ⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹

Welcome back :)

This week I chat about the connection between reading fiction, particularly lit fic, and strengthening empathy.

I discuss the difference between mens and womens preferences when it comes to reading, how much we read and what types of books we choose.

I also discuss the importance of empathy in nature, which humans forget we are part of, how survival of the fittest actually means survival of whoever works best together, which requires empathy & care.*

ೃ༄ 𖦹 Bit of a mish mash swirly video! 𖦹 𓂃

ོ☼𓂃Hope you enjoy :)

https://www.science.org/doi/abs/10.1126/science.1239918https://www.arts.gov/stories/blog/2025/men-women-split-reading-real-and-persists-amid-historical-rate-declineshttps://humanrewritten.com/p/the-empathy-recession-why-empathyhttps://news.umich.edu/empathy-college-students-don-t-have-as-much-as-they-used-to/https://communications.yale.edu/sites/default/files/08.09.2016_the_best_reason_for_reading_book_lovers_live_longer_scientists_say._the_washington_post.pdf

00:00 - intro

01:38 - the fiction gender gap

09:51 - the space between stories

14:16 - empathy is a thread

20:27 - reading as medicine

Donate - https://gofund.me/bdf9aec2

More of a yap video not as structured or planned out!

Maybe i will do a more deep dive researched video about the objectification of women in media?!?

I am very flip floppy in this because I really feel like there are so many other things to be talking about (palestine & literally WW3).

As much as I avoid celebrity culture as much as possible & do not let it influence me in anyway, sabrina carpenter still influences many girls & women so that shouldnt be ignored.

I am still certain that my time & energy could be better used elsewhere so I kept this one short!

See you soon

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Donate to Adam, Karim & Wassim :) - https://gofund.me/11bc4f21

Welcome back :)

This week I spoke about white feminism, apolitical girlboss capitalistic tiktok feminism etc :)

https://www.instagram.com/kate_bhakti/

See you next week :) x

REFERENCELINKS

https://restofworld.org/2021/palestine-social-media-silence/

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2017/04/150522/girlboss-netflix-true-story

https://www.dazeddigital.com/fashion/article/35671/1/problematic-nasty-gal-netflix-series-sophia-amoruso-girlboss-lawsuits

https://goodonyou.eco/how-ethical-is-boohoo/

https://www.theringer.com/2017/04/29/tv/the-problem-with-girlboss-feminism-98f48bb6aa16

https://roundtable.beloit.edu/2025/04/09/chappell-roan-activist-or-queer-capitalist/

https://twssmagazine.com/2021/06/19/florence-given-and-coffee-table-feminism/

https://journals.sagepub.com/home/SMS

ALTERNATIVE SHOPPING

https://www.shoplikeyougiveadamn.com/en-ie

MY INSPIRATIONS & TEACHERS! :

https://substack.com/@parismwendwa

https://www.instagram.com/theslumflower/

https://www.instagram.com/paris.mwendwa/

https://www.instagram.com/adriennemareebrown/?hl=en

https://nmaahc.si.edu/audre-lorde

https://www.instagram.com/resmaamenakem/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/wizard_bisan1/?hl=en

https://www.theslumflower.com/

https://substack.com/@nergiz

Music - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSWYAclv2I8&list=PLQwRmTwWx0ubcpv0SkHroupj1LqW5_Va5

00:00 - intro

01:26 - what is white feminism

06:21 - lean in

10:29 - individualism = empowerment ?

18:35 - TikTok feminism

27:22 - aesthetic of empowerment

32:21 - the politics white feminism refuses to touch

36:05 - matriarchal ecosystem

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DONATE to Adam, Karim & Wassim

https://gofund.me/11bc4f21

Welcome back :)

Went on another ranty poo about the healing industry!

I speak about

~Spiritual bypassing

~The politics of avoidance

~Spirituality as a tool for emotional control

~The commodification of healing reinforces capitalist patriarchy

~Spiritual abuse disproportionately targets women

~The myth of individual liberation

~Collective care

~Gaza, genocide, silence & neutrality

~Healing that brings us back to earth

~Radical embodiment

https://www.instagram.com/kate_bhakt/

https://www.crybabysomatics.com/

Music - Chillpeach - Purple: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWNx0VQJjMY&t=35s

00:00 - intro

05:46 - spiritual bypassing

11:37 - the politics of avoidance

17:04 - spirituality as a tool for emotional control

25:06 - the myth of individual liberation

30:05 - gaza, genocide, silence & neutrality

34:18 - Radical embodiment

⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹 episode 16 ⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹

Welcome back :)This week is a dive into -female rage-how men and women are perceived when they express anger-how we've been conditioned to be palatable & agreeable-the medical cost of suppressing emotions-the healing world role in perpetuating this idea & convince women to silence themselves into 'regulation'Sources :https://news.asu.edu/20151027-study-shows-angry-men-gain-influence-and-angry-women-lose-influencehttps://gap.hks.harvard.edu/closing-emotion-differential-impact-male-versus-female-attorneys-expressing-anger-courthttps://digitalcommons.georgiasouthern.edu/honors-theses/29/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/201807/how-female-attorneys-anger-may-disrupt-their-advancementhttps://www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/108113/when-the-body-says-no-by-gabor-mate-md/9780676973999http://youtube.com/watch?v=G4zFMRlMEb400:00 - intro 01:25 - double standard06:28 - wellness culture & the policing of our emotions15:27 - the medical cost of suppressing our emotions21:39 - embodied rage

⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹 episode 15 ⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹

Welcome back :)

This week is audio only again. I answered one of your submissions!

“Help! I've been dating this guy for six months. We do everything couples do — we talk all the time, we sleep together, he’s met my friends, we go on trips — but he refuses to call me his girlfriend. He says he ‘doesn’t believe in labels.’ I really like him, but I’m tired of feeling like I’m auditioning for something he won’t even name. What do I do?”

We cover

-detachment

-situationships

-performative nonchalance

-being unbothered

-casual sex

-ambiguity

-being a chill girl

-being conditioned to be overly focused on romantic partnership

keeping it light and breezy as usual.

love you, see you next week.

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welcome back :) audio only this week!

a few days ago I asked on my instagram stories if anyone wanted to yap about somatics, healing, relationship, trauma, self doubt, criticism, attachment ect! So I am answering two of your questions in this episode!

If you have any questions or podcast suggestions, leave them here :) ~ https://www.crybabysomatics.com/podcast

See you next week x

⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆ episode 13 ⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆

Welcome back :)

This week I did some research into the European witch trials, the malleus maleficarum book & the first woman who was burned at the stake in Kilkenny, Ireland, Petronilla De Meath.

It’s very clear that the women accused of being witches, were actually just existing outside of the prescribed roles the state & church had assigned to women

* pretends to be shocked *

Her Kind: The Gripping Story of Ireland’s First Witch Hunt - Book by Niamh Boyce

Is the book I mentioned & referenced.

See you next week :) x