Have you wondered if it happens to you to be keep wanting love and commitment but somehow you are keep attracting guys or girls that don’t?Well you gotta consider and I know it’s a pill that’s hard to swallow that maybe it’s because on a deeper level you are the one who is not ready to commit .And I am not saying this in a way of judging you like no way this podcast it’s all about helping you grow but sometimes we need a kick in the ass you know ? So let me give you that pep talk. 

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If someone consistently makes you feel emotionally drained, anxious, fearful, or doubtful of your own needs, thoughts, and feelings, you may be dealing with emotional manipulation. Follow your gut instinct when it comes to recognizing what is occurring. Sometimes, people may manipulate others unconsciously, without being fully aware of what they're doing, while others may actively work on strengthening their manipulation tactics. Stay tuned and find out all that you need to know

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I know that sometimes it’s really hard to make peace with the fact that we are changing and revaluating our life’s it’s hard and scary . And because it is we tend to distract ourselves and fall into a loop of distractions feeling like we are actually getting further and further away from our true selves.Either we feel like we are stuck in our career and life or even in romantic relationships that don’t seem to bring out our authenticity anymore. Or simply seeking for external attention or situationships ,even if deep down we know that’s not what we need.these are signs when it’s the time for you to put the focus back on you and stop forcing whatever no longer align with yourself and keep feeding yourself distraction’s because you cannot accept what lies in front of you.

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It is true that we want to impress, we want to be liked, we want to be respected by people around us yet sometimes it backfires on us. Because we put in a lot of attempts to make people feel certain ways about us, the mind orchestrated some expectations about this that only give us disappointment at the end of the day since not everyone is made to like you. It is true that the feeling of being disliked by people brings out the insecurities that make you question your self-worth. This really needs to stop right here, pleasing people doesn't make them like nor stay with you because if you try to put it in your shoe, you don't like everyone either!


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I think it’s really helpful to know what your love language is so that you have an understanding of what you need and how you best receive love.It can help you better understand when you’re feeling unfulfilled, frustrated, or let down or disappointed by your partner,or your family and even friends .Understanding your love language (and your partner’s) can also help solve those relationship problems by allowing you to determine what you both need to feel fulfilled or find better resolutions. At the end of this episode I’m gonna make sure that you will know all the love languages and what they mean . I want you to make it a priority that by the end of this week you know everyone’s that you care or love own love language.And I will leave a love language test link right here for you ❤️

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The process of transformation is rarely a perfect, linear path that we walk though with grace and ease. Rather we are often thrown in to a messy process of change, re-organisation and temporary chaos.And we feel sad, we feel anger,confussion. If we don’t take a broader perspective to see the beautiful and perfect, divine process that is unfolding, we can easily feel like our life is falling apart.But if we can understand that we are in a process of transformation, and embrace the learnings that are present for us, we can glide through it with so much more peace and ease.
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In this episode I am about to shed some light and to explain what the dark side means and also I will teach you how to start doing shadow work if you do not know yet how to do it.
If you’re not doing shadow work ,what are you doing ?
Playing out the same old script but with a different cast of characters?
And then feeling frustrated or surprised when the plot repeats itself?
Judging,analysing,controlling or feeling trapped by your “ self-sabotaging “ patterns instead of letting yourself be curious and enjoy what they’re bringing you?
Saying yes to the same situations while believing things will turn out differently next time ? And then Being disappointed when they don’t right? Cause we do this ! I did this too
Making it about the other person’s wounds or immaturity as the cause of conflict? Without considering the role you played in  creating it too ?  Well ,today all that might change cause if you are doing what I just said then this episode is for you .
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Sometimes when you’ve hurt long enough, you may get used to the emotional pain. Maybe it feels safe and familiar. Maybe you’ve internalized it as part of your identity. Perhaps staying angry at that person is comfortable because you can keep a distance.Growing pains can be real. Getting away from the things you’ve felt and thought about for a long time may be uncomfortable. But healing, joy, and peace of mind may be on the other side of letting go.So therefore the final stage of healing could be you telling them to fu*k  off .
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Social media speeds up communication, but is it s less personal.
The biggest challange nowadays it s to build trust.Meeting the man or woman of your dreams has never been easier, or so you would think. In the modern age of online dating, we have more choice than ever before, thanks to the advance in technology over recent years. This includes the invention and rise of social media and the thousands of online dating apps out there now. However, more choice can cause confusion and it can also be overwhelming. Some romantic traditions still remain popular today, but the dating culture has changed significantly over the past two decades.
One of the greatest reasons for this change has been the invention of social media. Social media provides singletons with access to thousands of other single people, with just a few clicks of a mouse or a few swipes of your index finger.
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We're really bad at NOT forcing things in life.
We force relationships that don't deserve more of our time or energy.We force jobs that can't possibly offer us the fulfillment we deserve.We force friendships that are anything but reciprocal.We force interests,timelines and pressure on  ourselves that do not align with what OUR true talents, abilities and timelines actually are .I'm sure you've forced something in your life just like I have....
Hop onto the episode and hear and visualize what I am about to say to you.
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