GirlfriendIT

Let’s be honest . . . Do you constantly glance sideways and compare yourself? Do you drive yourself to measure up, then feel ashamed when you don't?

What about - - - -Thoughts in your head like . . .

I wish I were tall like her.

If only my kids got along the way her kids do.

Why does she always seem to have it all together?

Women compare themselves constantly.

On social media,

in their neighborhood,

at church, at work, even in the school drop-off lane,

they glance sideways and ask,

“How do I measure up?”

Behind all this comparison is an enemy gaining tactical advantage.

EEEK!! How do we stay in our own lane??

What would it look like if you actually pursued rejection?

People who really changed the world, Mandela, Gandhi - Jesus . . . they did not let rejection define them, they embraced rejection.

"IT" TIPS:

Whose you are - not who you are. (Don’t label yourself as a failure.)

Don’t get seduced by destructive thoughts that potentially could lead to self-fulfilling prophecy.

Share those thoughts with a girlfriend who is your advocate. We are in IT together!

Don’t let your inner critic win. Take time to process emotions.

What’s one thing I can learn from this?

What’s one thing I can do differently next time?

Create a contingency plan: Bounce it! You have to bounce back after you are an idiot!

4 "ITS" that will bounce it!

1. Amend it. Right! Get vulnerable. Write a small personal note — an email, a text — show the offended person how sorry you are.

2. Forgive it – Ask God what you can learn from this? Is it something you need to ask for forgiveness (go to the person or to your self?)

3. Label it: Pinpoint exactly what you said. Then you can say goodbye to IT and then you can forget it!

(UCLA study lead by Matthew Lieberman, PhD, found that by labeling our feelings — attaching certain words to them — we can better manage anxiety and depression. Functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) shows that when we verbalize our feelings, the activity in the amygdala part of the brain, our fear center, is reduced.)

4. Get beyond it - At some point we have all messed up with our words. Yes, you feel terrible. Yes, regret it. But, regret is toxic - so bid IT farewell and let IT go!!

Have you ever experienced a time when you have said something and then think . . . "Oh my, How did that even come out of my mouth?? And WHY?? WAIT!! Do over . . . Do over!! I take it back, DELETE DELETE . . ABORT . . ABORT!"

We become so disappointed in ourselves, replaying the scene over and over in our heads. What if we “tasted” our words before they came out of our mouth??

God puts desires in our heart and writes a destiny for our lives. Are we ready for that path, or do we only surrender when it is convenient for us?

What does that look like to humble yourself and seek what God has for you?

Listen in!

Don't Miss out On Something. Look Up, See what God has for you. He never waste a trial-tribulation or experience!

Let’s get Motivated!

You’re done judging yourself as a mother a wife and a girlfriend!

You’ve been hard on yourself during the pandemic - eating way too much cereal and watching too much reality TV. It’s over, You are going to seize the day with productivity! It’s time to start broadcasting your “IT”!!!

These tips will basically help you use your voice and become a Rockstar or a Broadcast star!

Or at least you’ll know how to make a broadcast.

Remember we are girlfriends -in the “No judging Zone”

How to use Facebook Live on a phone

1. Navigate to the Page, group or event you want to live stream from.

2. Tap the Live button at the bottom of the post composer.

3. Add a description to your video. ...

4. Tap Start Live Video.

5. Tap Finish when you want to end your broadcast.

https://www.facebook.com/facebookmedia/solutions/facebook-live

The greatest danger in life is not that our aim is to high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it. -

Michelangelo

This week our challenge for you:

1.Experience His wonder

2.Find white space in your day. (Put it on your calendar in advance.)

3.Maybe it’s time to do a busy boycott.

Top tips for today:

What to do with hurt feelings:

"You will be sinned against by others until the day they die - you need a way to deal with their sin."

1.Write them down-everything and bring it to God. He wants to hear about my hurt feelings.

2. I may have but I didn't necessarily do something to deserve what the person did to me.

3. Ask God to help me forgive them.

Understand that God uses our hurt relationships for my spiritual growth and thank Him for it. Ask how I can obey God in this situation.

TAG . . .YOU are IT!